ShootingStar wrote:

Haha I think you and I are from the same soul wave <3 I was typing before I saw your last post but I think I got your problem and vibe nailed :3 youre afraid of going through a terrible experience you already went through, this isn't about her being your soul mate love as much as it about you revisiting a past trauma (some to do with her, but not all of it) she's not important, you just made her important. She's not the queen of Sheba. Take the power you gave her back!

Thanks. Both of you... if that's the case (even though I'm not sure it is...) - how would I even begin to do that?

I've always had this thing where when I like someone, I'm happy before then and fulfilled, but I put ALL my happiness onto them, and when they leave, I feel like I've lost me. And I get so depressed. Maybe that's why I get clingy? I don't know... maybe it's genetic... my dad acts that way towards my mom...

God I just want my girl back.... I've done SO much to make this relationship work and all she's seen was the bad... how can she super-flirt one day (like last week when she made sex jokes at my expense and found excuses to touch me), then the next week act so distant? It's like even though all the time she says she has no feelings for me, she sometimes acts like it, then sometimes doesn;t. God I just want her back. I'm so tired and depressed from praying all the time for her to come back. She just tells me to "just accept how things are. The past was teh past"...

God I just want her back  in my arms!! I can't stand it...
 

I feel you <3 I'm the same! I can't just like someone, I get obsessed with someone, they become a part of me and my identity, like I need to be in contact with them or else I lose my identity so I basically die. Theres a song called 'The Worst' by jhene aiko, have a listen to it and the lyrics especially the line 'you weren't special til I made you so' it really helped me see that I made this other person into a demi God but they meant nothing to me before I met them and they mean nothing to everyone else in the world who doesn't know them. I elevated them, I did that, they just existed. I then thought, I can do that to anyone! I can make anyone special! And then I had the power. I had control. I realised by giving them any attention, I gave them that power over me and then I stopped because they didn't deserve it! Then they start missing that feeling of being that special to you and come around looking for it. But it was you who gave them their power so you who can take it away!

Sam wrote:

RollingRock33 wrote:

Cherished wrote:

When you truly love and value yourself, she will love you back..

How do I know this is true though? I'm not religious, I'm just a guy using the LoA as a last resort.... how do I know she'll like me back when I apprently "love and value" myself? 

I just want her back... I keep thinking back to everthing we've been through... I just miss it so damn much!!!

I am asking this sincerely, what is your understanding of the LOA and how it works?

I've read SOOO much on it. I come from an UNNATURALLY atheistic family. I studied quantum mechanics and I realized that when we view something it collapses the wave function and literally "creates" reality to a degree... but I find it to be scientifically a stretch to link quantum mechanics with the LoA... I've read the secret, watch the secret, read NUMEROUS stories on the site, watched What the Bleep Do We Know, etc. Despite all the amazing stories and whatnot... they're still anecdotal... Even if I wanted to believe, I don't think I could... I'd give anything to believe.... it just sounds so ... religious to me. Like, Abraham Hicks... "chanelling"? "Source"? That just sounds like woo-hoo to me and it's taking advantage of people...But I have nothing left!! I have to believe it... I just don't know how...

Cherished wrote:

happyinlove wrote:

Please please read this. You are going to fail by using this as a last resort . I get what your saying but keeping an attitude like that is desperation. You need to trust like I said start small. Read those books. You don't have to feel super awesome all day at first it will feel strange controlling your mind but then you get into a good vibe naturally all the time because you start naturally being grateful. Please please please practice gratitude . Those who have gratitude receive more those who don't what they have will be taken from them.

 
And gratitude is actually love.

Honestly idk what you will get out of using loa as a last resort. And she is right, all I am reading is this attitude of desperation and neediness and the universe will just give you more of that, desperation. Like they're answering you now, "ok he's feeling strongly about this, might as well give him more of it"

And you say that it's hard to believe because of a. b -and c well that is why it's called faith. You may not have all the answers but loa is a way to not just get things, it's to basically change the way you believe and think and to let go and trust something outside of yourself. Is it crazy? I guess but hey I manifested three relationships with people by just looking at them and believing in myself if anything (which is source) and I got all three.

If you think negative what do you get out of it? You're just going to get more negative. you have nothing to lose to just believe in a little bit. Even if it's just a tiny bit. And as much as people want to say Abraham hicks is full of whatever, it got me into a positive mindset and I like how I'm feeling. They say religion is a cult and hoax as well. You can't explain certain things. Plus think of this way, if it was full of crap, people wouldn't have so many successful stories to share. that's just my two cents but you don't have to agree with me but maybe read what everyone is saying cause it really is just coming from a good place. Everyone here wants you to succeed.

To love yourself means to be your own best friend, not letting yourself go, eating right, respecting your body, respecting your mind, educating yourself, respecting your needs-sleeping, affection, laughing, playing respecting your integrity: don't make yourself lower than anyone, don't let yourself be run over or used, respecting your boundaries, your mental health.. Right now youre not respecting your mental health, emotional well being and your dignity by being at this girls beck and call and trying to get her back through harassment or threats or maybe begging.. That's why cherished is at you so much ;D