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Well there you have your reason where she may avoid you like the plague for a while and have a wall of resistance towards you...but never fear deer :D ! I had an ex who did that 6 years ago to me, told me he would hang himself as I broke up with him, well I moved on a lot after him, including having 3 big relationships and falling in love for the first time. My ex never really left my world, we re friended on Facebook around 2012, casually chatted every now and then on it, he got a girlfriend for a year, I got a bit jealous, when I was going through tough times with my bf I would chat to him, his girlfriend left him in 2014, we met up for a drink, then my bf left .. And me and my ex met up 2 months ago and had our first kiss since 2010!
.. Then he ruined it by having a fight with me over something stupid...but he moved on with his life and had another shot with me so that's how things can go
Thank you so much... but what if you're not speaking with them and they don't reach out? I mean... my girl isn't the type to reach out... to anyone... she's very closed off to the world. You'd have to contact her first... if I contact her in a month, two months, 8 years, I doubt her feelings would change... She said she won't even want a relationship ever, let alone next year, the year after, or however long... I'll HAVE to reach out to her... even if she somehow miraculously had some feelings for me, she'd not reach out....
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Do not focus on the past. That does not matter anymore. And I know I remember when I got defensive at everyone's words but I didn't actually read their message to me they were just trying to get through to me because they care. Start slow with loa. You can't go 0-100 right away. If you go a day without thinking a negative thought or not as many even that is a success.
So I have to try and be happy... How do I do that when I feel such a hole inside of me from her leaving? From not knowing if she'll even ever return? - I like playing guitar... I like drawing. I like video games. I'm interested in my studies... they used to make me happy before I met her... but it's like now that she's out of my life, I feel like nothing can make me happy... I have to start somewhere... and every single time I get even remotely positive and happy about the LoA (And I'll even go a day or two convinced it works), somehow, doubt creeps in and I get depressed again...
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I don't mean to rain on your parade right now, but now that you've had lots of interractions with her and you're all over the place with your emotional stability, its time to start gently understanding that she does not want to be with you right now and you have to grieve the relationship and accept what is. Only when you accept what is can you change what is, like you can't change anything right now, you have to accept that she does not want you right now. The future is a mystery. You have to grieve it and let it go. Don't stay stuck visualising it causing yourself pain that its not here. Visualisation is best from a healed place. You can only start doing any good manifesting when you are healed. She will contact you if she misses you. If she doesn't miss you, then she doesn't love you and really, you can't force someone to love you. And would you want to be married to someone who doesn't love you? No, that's madness, hell on earth.
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I really think it's worth saying again- if you have enough self love and feel truly worthy as a person, this whole journey will be smooth sailing. I feel you are very insecure. And I think that is your biggest issue.
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I don't mean to rain on your parade right now, but now that you've had lots of interractions with her and you're all over the place with your emotional stability, its time to start gently understanding that she does not want to be with you right now and you have to grieve the relationship and accept what is. Only when you accept what is can you change what is, like you can't change anything right now, you have to accept that she does not want you right now. The future is a mystery. You have to grieve it and let it go. Don't stay stuck visualising it causing yourself pain that its not here. Visualisation is best from a healed place. You can only start doing any good manifesting when you are healed. She will contact you if she misses you. If she doesn't miss you, then she doesn't love you and really, you can't force someone to love you. And would you want to be married to someone who doesn't love you? No, that's madness, hell on earth.
That's going to take so long to heal... that girl I was getting over a while ago, it took my two years to get over, and I was only seeing her (not even dating her, either!) for a month... Veronica says you can attract someone back even if they don't love you right now because it's 'your universe'
@Cherished, that's wrong. I'm sorry. Trust me. I'm the first to admit that I'd be insecure. But I'm really not. I love who I am, but I'm upset at how she feels about me right now.
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I recommend crying punching pillows, running, release that anger and sadness, playing guitar , video games, working out, writing out thoughts, keep a mood diary, go somewhere in nature and meditate, read books, write something...embrace the break up like a death, go through the stages of grief, then let go and begin life again and I mean really do that , you need to, break ups are hard but we as humans do need to learn to overcome these hard things to grow as people and become wise and calmer and happier
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Re: We just had the BIGGEST fight...
I don't mean to rain on your parade right now, but now that you've had lots of interractions with her and you're all over the place with your emotional stability, its time to start gently understanding that she does not want to be with you right now and you have to grieve the relationship and accept what is. Only when you accept what is can you change what is, like you can't change anything right now, you have to accept that she does not want you right now. The future is a mystery. You have to grieve it and let it go. Don't stay stuck visualising it causing yourself pain that its not here. Visualisation is best from a healed place. You can only start doing any good manifesting when you are healed. She will contact you if she misses you. If she doesn't miss you, then she doesn't love you and really, you can't force someone to love you. And would you want to be married to someone who doesn't love you? No, that's madness, hell on earth.
That's going to take so long to heal... that girl I was getting over a while ago, it took my two years to get over, and I was only seeing her (not even dating her, either!) for a month... Veronica says you can attract someone back even if they don't love you right now because it's 'your universe'
@Cherished, that's wrong. I'm sorry. Trust me. I'm the first to admit that I'd be insecure. But I'm really not. I love who I am, but I'm upset at how she feels about me right now.
Ok. I'm happy to concede that I'm wrong. Best of luck, I truly wish you an incredible journey ahead.💜🌈
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Healing fully would take YEARS though... I - I don't think I can or am willing to go through that... I want her back, but I don't want to go through that process for many many years... ****.......... She said even if I don't contact her, she won't regain feelings for me... it's too late for her to "regain feelings via space". ugh
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OK well it seems that the first girl who left you really made some kind of mark on you. There's something off going on because it shouldnt really take 2 years to get over a month..unless she brought out some deep underlaying emotional wound from your past or if she said or did something to undermine your own self confidence and now you're worried that this recent break up will do the same thing. For me, my person brought out the abandonment issues I have from my father which is another reason why I got so attached to him. It helps to start looking inside to see why you are getting this affected over these human,normal, flawed girls... They're not immortal, they're just humans who have stuff about them you find attractive. Open your mind start to see the beauty in everyone, start to enjoy other people more, start to allow new experiences to flow through you, this world is so full of beautiful women, start to realise that so that you can have an abundant mindset
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Haha I think you and I are from the same soul wave <3 I was typing before I saw your last post but I think I got your problem and vibe nailed :3 youre afraid of going through a terrible experience you already went through, this isn't about her being your soul mate love as much as it about you revisiting a past trauma (some to do with her, but not all of it) she's not important, you just made her important. She's not the queen of Sheba. Take the power you gave her back!
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