Cherished wrote:

You have to understand that your discomfort is simply your misalignment. It's not actually about her. It's about your low self-worth. That's where you need to be focussing, not on attracting her back right now. If you manage to get her, your underlying insecurities will block you from maintaining the relationship. You should read through the hundreds of threads devoted entirely to raising your opinion and love for yourself. Start there.

But I feel very confident with myself and my skin, and my acheivements. I don't think that's it. 

And thank you, HIL. I really appreciate it.
 

Cherished wrote:

RollingRock33 wrote:

Cherished wrote:

You have to understand that your discomfort is simply your misalignment. It's not actually about her. It's about your low self-worth. That's where you need to be focussing, not on attracting her back right now. If you manage to get her, your underlying insecurities will block you from maintaining the relationship. You should read through the hundreds of threads devoted entirely to raising your opinion and love for yourself. Start there.

But I feel very confident with myself and my skin, and my acheivements. I don't think that's it. 

And thank you, HIL. I really appreciate it.
 

 
Okey dokey 😊

Thank you though

I'm just... I love her and I'm really scared you know? I really need to force myself to believe in the LoA. At times I do... butt hen I doubt.. I just want her back :O

Cherished wrote:

It's difficult to help people that think they're already fine 😊 But you know you best, and if you're confident that insecurity is not ur issue (hint.. even though ur scared and doubtful and desperate)......
I'm sure you'll find your own perfect way 🌈🙋

No I mean it. I'm a confident guy. I really don't think that's the issue and I'm not trying to be defensive... I just doubt the LoA because, well... I'm from a very skeptical family... Being scared can be a result of many things. I just want her back... and I'm scared it won't happen. I've pushed her pretty far. That's it...

Cherished wrote:

Got it! 😊 👍🏼

Well also, I guess I'm looking for advice. Like, I know I can focus on myself, etc. and focus on things I like to do... but she'll always be in teh back of my mind... I just want to attract her back...  Help?

HIL, thank you SO much for all oof your help. I'll REALLY try my best to take that advice... I'm just scared that the LoA may be fake and everything is just a coincidence... even if I have AMAZING "proof", there's still that doubt that it may just be a coincidence, and that lowers my vibe... - I really hope and PRAY she'll reach out to me. My birthday is in August and I've written down and declared to the universe that I want to at least be beginning to date her at that point... I hope this works. I'm really, REALLY scared...