happyinlove wrote:

this is exactly why you needed to be in no contact for alittle while. She needs to miss you. You are assuming the worst. If you do that you will create the worse. Please please please go into no contact for at least 3 weeks. Take the time for you. This is the only way to make things better. give her space

But she's so sure she has no feelings for me, AND, she's so sure she won't contact me. None of that was said out of anger... She's just not that kind of person... :/ Gah! 

happyinlove wrote:

ok you know how many times my guy said we are not hooking up or getting back together? And he "meant it" my mistake but the last time we had sex was two weeks ago. I am trying to stop this however because I want more. Also we broke up and got back together 3 times and each time before that happened he said no more.

I don't know... she sounded so sincere when she said she has no romantic feelings for me. And I know that as a person, she doesn't reach out to people first...

"We want different things in life. And I'm sorry, I'm just not attracted to you anymore." etc. 

She made it clear that not even space/time would change that.... how am I supposed to believe in this if it's so crystal clear that she doesn't like me?

ugh

happyinlove wrote:

RollingRock33 wrote:

can somebody give me step-by-step instrucitons?

I don't think she'll walk back into my life... she's not one to reach out... that's why I'm scared....

If you read my previous post I gave you a step by step but no offense I think you are looking for the fast way also I feel like you are looking for a way without no contact. Trust me I get it but how can she desire you if you aren't working on you and being happy? No one wants to be around someone who is needy. Also you keep saying like no matter what she won't walk back into your life. Is that what you want cause you are creating it with that thought. We have all told you the first step is no contact and focus on things that make you happy. Next step is after some time like a month try reaching out if you haven't heard it's amazing what a better vibe does.

I mean I can try... but last time this didn't work for me with just a girl I was seeing for a month...

I don't know... she just seemed SO sure of her lack of feelings for me. What if, when I reach out, she still just "sees me as a friend", nothing more?

You have to understand that your discomfort is simply your misalignment. It's not actually about her. It's about your low self-worth. That's where you need to be focussing, not on attracting her back right now. If you manage to get her, your underlying insecurities will block you from maintaining the relationship. You should read through the hundreds of threads devoted entirely to raising your opinion and love for yourself. Start there.