holistichealing wrote:

You need to surrender to the reisistance. Keep saying, "I surrender" when you feel this way. It is definitely my main my focus to surrender from the resistance surrounding me in all areas of my life.

Can you elaborate a bit on this? I don't really get it. Maybe it's because English isn't my first language. I looked all the translations up but none of them seemed fitting. Do you mean that I just should accept that it is there? Putting no energy in fighting against it?
 

holistichealing wrote:

Sanshi wrote:

holistichealing wrote:

You need to surrender to the reisistance. Keep saying, "I surrender" when you feel this way. It is definitely my main my focus to surrender from the resistance surrounding me in all areas of my life.

Can you elaborate a bit on this? I don't really get it. Maybe it's because English isn't my first language. I looked all the translations up but none of them seemed fitting. Do you mean that I just should accept that it is there? Putting no energy in fighting against it?
 

Resistance comes from doubt and the need to control the situation. When you surrender to the situation, you are surrendering to trying to control it and are just letting the flow of life take control. http://louiseandrolia.com/2012/06/30/surrender/

Thank you so much. I was a bit sceptical about it at first but it really worked for me as long as I can say that after one day of trying. Has maybe anybody else some advice to share on this topic?

For peole who have the same problem: I found this guided meditation and I liked it a lot:


 

lar019 wrote:

Sanshi wrote:

Maybe here lies the problem. At an intelectual level I know that we can attract the person we want. When I can influence someone without words or doing anything to text me even if we didn't speak for 3 months I can influence every person. But my brain just don't want to get it! I'm still holding so much resistance and it seems I can't get rid of it. I don't understand really why. I try to soothe myself all the time. Sometimes I have a moment in which the resistance starts to fade away and under it lies excitement about the new relationship and knowing that it will come but then the resistance is there again very quickly. I know that is the only thing that's holding me back. When I get rid of the resistance and raise my vibration a bit I have him for sure. But how the heck do I do that? I can't watch cute kitten videos the whole day.

Have you tried watching cute puppy videos as well?!

I'm kidding of course. I've been exactly where you were - feeling like I've raised my vibe, only to have hit a wall, and can't go any higher. I found what helped for me was really really starting to affirm to myself that I already had the perfect relationship; that my guy was madly in love with me. Every day, I would walk around and if he popped into my mind, I would say to myself "I'm so happy I have the perfect relationship", and I would repeat it over and over until something completely different distracted me. At first, I didn't entirely believe what I was saying, but I stuck with it - and it got a lot easier. And that's when I gained more clarity into what was blocking me as well, so it became easier to release.

Now I know you said you did EFT, and it didn't work - but I would feel like I did a disservice if I didn't mention it, since it worked so well for me. I find with EFT, when I'm trying to address the negative things - I need to do more of it to really feel the effect. However, Brad Yates has a video on "Feel like you already have it"; and I did that video every night for at least a week, and I feel like it really supplemented my affirmations throughout the day. I just find when I do EFT for positive feelings, it sinks in faster with less effort. So maybe that would be helpful.

Lastly, have you tried Abraham's guided mediation? The breathing is a little funky, and takes a bit to get used to. Basically, everytime she starts talking is when you breath in. It's a 15 min meditation, and the first time I did it, I probably got the hang of the breathing for the last 5 mins of it. And when I did it again, it still took me a bit to get into the flow - but once you get into the flow - oh man, do you just let go and feel great! I did that mediation, and then immediately after did the Feel like you have it EFT, and it wasn't long before I felt like I was really smashing that wall of resistance down!  Here's the link to the mediation: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=og4B2ZMP-uY.

Hopefully some of this helps you out too!!

 

Thank you so much for your response. I didn't try cute puppy videos (just cute duck videos), but I will start with it this evening.

Hitting the wall is really a good metaphor. It's ecaxtly how I feel. I did affirmations (more unconsciously) but for weeks but the block didn't vanish.
When I'm finished with watching the cute puppy videos I will give EFT another chance. Maybe I'm just to impatient. I did it one time, why isn't it working??? lol I will check out the video as well.
i didn't know that there is a Abraham meditation. I searched for some of their videos on resistance but I will test the meditation. So much new input, thank you. Now I'm busy for a while.



@ShootingStar: Sounds interesting. I will test it out. =)