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So, today a friend had explained to me what resistance is and it makes sense. So in the beginning you and your love have this amazing flow of love energy between you two. Then worries and fear comes along which and your energy changes. In my case, my fears caused me to try harder in the relationship, even though the relationship was great before, and his worries caused him to put too much energy into trying to help me when I was capable of dealing with my personal struggles.
So while all my focus was trying because of fear and him trying to help me from worries it created resistance. In which case, all this focus on this one thing causes a blockage in the love flow. That's right, resistance blocks your love energy from truly flowing nicely. Makes sense, right? I mean everytime you try to key loving energy towards your loves in the beginning there is this resistance blocking your way.
That's why no contact is great because you have time away to evaluate yourself. It got me thinking that before focusing on sending loving energy to our loves again so it can again flow, shouldn't we first focus on making ourselves feel good and get back into alignment? Especially since we are not in a place where we should persist into truly considering making our relationship work? I feel like focusing on sending energy while trying to fix ourselves is overwhelming. Or maybe everyone is different? But then wasn't the space supposed to be to focus on us?
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Alignment is all that matters. Ever. Always. It's the answer. Every single time.
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Cherished wrote:
Alignment is all that matters. Ever. Always. It's the answer. Every single time.
Okay, I am sorry for asking a lot of questions. But since this is about alignment, do we get aligned with ourselves first and then with our loves or does it just naturally align with them? I ask because right now my main focus is on me and I have a lot resistance towards myself in worth and potential in all areas of my life.
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You get yourself in alignment. Only worry about you, it's not about them,.just you. Try looking into a mirror 2-3 times a day and repeating several timez, I love you, I honestly love you until it becomes second nature. This will tremendously improve self love and self worth. This whole process is about forgiving yourself, loving yourself, improving yourself, enjoying yourself, once that happens you are in alignment with the whole of who you are and every thing will magically fall into place.
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Cyclewoman1974 wrote:
You get yourself in alignment. Only worry about you, it's not about them,.just you. Try looking into a mirror 2-3 times a day and repeating several timez, I love you, I honestly love you until it becomes second nature. This will tremendously improve self love and self worth. This whole process is about forgiving yourself, loving yourself, improving yourself, enjoying yourself, once that happens you are in alignment with the whole of who you are and every thing will magically fall into place.
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This!
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Cyclewoman1974 wrote:
You get yourself in alignment. Only worry about you, it's not about them,.just you. Try looking into a mirror 2-3 times a day and repeating several timez, I love you, I honestly love you until it becomes second nature. This will tremendously improve self love and self worth. This whole process is about forgiving yourself, loving yourself, improving yourself, enjoying yourself, once that happens you are in alignment with the whole of who you are and every thing will magically fall into place.
Thank you, this is exactly what I thought it was all about. Especially since I began to realize my focus should not be him because it all starts from within me. So I have to make a loving environment for myself in which everything else will follow because that loving energy will be flowing again. Not just with him but with everyone else who has been affected by my resistance.
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I also began to realize the true resistance was putting too much effort into the person and not the relationship itself. The relationship should be apart of us as that is what we are building. Once we begin to realize that we are the center of our universe and everything we want already exists there, then we can finally feel true gratitude and abundance.
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I think I get the whole fear, doubt, etc is an illusion now. Whenever I feel resistance I turn it off instantly when I step into my heart chakra. Then the resistance starts to feel like lies and a fake.
It feels made up and then I realized love is more real than this because it brings on such a high vibration. As a matter of fact love is the secret to activating your divine being. Plus, love is the key to breaking resistance.