So update:

I don't know what to think. 

- She never maintained eye contact
- She offered me some of her food (which is typical of someone within her culture), and when I said "Sure, thanks!" she cut it with a knife, instead of letting me take a bite, which she used to do (bad sign)
- She seemed super distant
- She made a comment about tattoos and then I said, "but you hate tattoos. And you hate them on guys". We've talked about that before. She said, "No i don't. I never said that. Some guys look cute with tattoos (Could this sudden change in her feelings towards tattoos mean she's seeing someone else who has a tattoo?)
- She referred to me as a friend today... :/


I'm trying to stay positive though. So what do I do from here? This looks pretty bad.

I agree, go off the grid abit. Not because you hate her, but because you need her to miss you and you need to go find you!

Oh man let me tell you. We ALL miss what we don't have eventually. I thought at one point I was so much better off then my love, until HE left ME. And i was sickConsider this....youre out building a better, joyous you, all she can do is live her life too, but one day it happens, she wonders what on earth are you up too and then she will ask, call, search become interested again....Make sure what she is interested in is good and a healthy you!!

Think of it like a mirror. A mirror reflects back to you how you present yourself. Say you don't like your hair what are you going to do? You can't change the mirror. The mirror only shows you how how you actually look. So go and get a new haircut. Outer reality is a reflection of what exists inside your inner reality. So you cannot control what exists on the outside. You can only control what exists from within. Once you start having faith that everything will work for you you will start to have faith in her as well.

RollingRock33 wrote:

Thanks guys. I called her up to ask how her day was going. She must just be conflicted. I wrote in a previous thread how literally about 2 weeks ago, she made excuses to tease me, make sex jokes, flirt, and touch my face.

So I'm just going to let her be for a bit. I really hope this is a good idea... what do you guys think? - What should I do to attract her back in the meantime?

And thank you SO much guys!!!!!!

Okay, so here's what you're going to do, majority of your focus should be on YOURSELF!!! You need to take into consideration that you also need some time to be prepared for when that moment will actually come. I mean wouldn't it be great that when you do get together you feel the best about you?

As far as I see you still have some doubts about yourself, about younor potential. But trust me I'm saying this from experience. I know that I still need to work on myself and improve myself. There's no need to rush anything, she is going to be there always.

As far as my story goes with my darling, I rather not repeat it because that's not my story. That's not what's happening in my reality. In my reality, everything is great between us. What's happening outside of my reality does not matter. It's  just reflecting an old reality that no longer exists. But the key point that I have to remind myself to truly obtain the reality from within is that I need to be that person that's within my reality.

I need to work on me for my reality to finally match. Would you want to be with her where it will fall apart again or would you rather be with her knowing that you finally achieved your true reality? That's something you should really consider as well.

You know what you should do? You should do things that make you feel good. You should do things that you've always wanted to do, but never got the chance to do it. Now you have the time to do those things. If I were you I'd become the best version of myself. I would go all in and out to do all these things I've always wanted to do, so that when my darling comes back I have all these exciting stories to share. So he can be like, "Wow, what a woman."

But most of all I want to do this to show myself what I'm truly capable of. It's all about you not about the other person. At the end of the day you want all these things you need to make that happen. It's not all about the other person and what they want. It's all about you and what you want.

Last edited by holistichealing (5/16/2016 5:07 pm)