Hey lovely people,

I had a huge realisation these days and I think it could be the very reason why I never managed to attract an ex back with LoA. The post is long but I think it is worth reading for everyone struggeling with a specific person.

Before I knew about LoA I had two exes coming back within the week after the breakup. How did I do that? The first time I was sure that I could do something to win him back. It was my first bf so I had no negative experiences and no doubts. I was excited while I made my getting-back-together-plans with a girlfriend, we had fun with it. Before I could put my plans into action, he was back. The second time the breakup was not very beautiful. I had a nervous breakdown and he even called the ambulance. I begged, cried and did all the stuff you shouldn't do but without success (surprise, surprise) . The same evening I called my mum and she said that she believes that he will come back to me. She is a very important person for me and I was only 20, so I overtook her believe without questioning it further. I had exams to that time so I had to concentrate on studying. The morning before my test I had an email from him with things in it like "I don't know how I could think I can live without you". We were back together the very same day. (Just to complete my list and give some of you hope: I got back together with a third ex. I broke up with him, was over the breakup after only one week because the relationship was crap and after maybe one month I had a new bf. 4 months after the breakup I texted my ex just to hear how he was doing. I never thought about getting back together. I wasn't happy with my new bf btw. We hadn't much contact even so he lived near by. When I texted with my ex I once again felt the connection we had and after a while he said that it would be better to end the conversation because he still has feelings for me. I ended things with the bf and we were back together a few days later. My view on my ex changed within maybe one hour. So he attracted me back.)

Why do I tell you this? Because it will complement my analysis of what I do wrong (and I think most of you also) when it comes to attracting an ex or a specific person. Below I will tell you about some of my manifestations, how I did it and then I will compare it with what I did to get exes back and what never worked for me.

But before I start I will clear up a few points. I personally think that you can absolutely attract every person you want. There are a few models out there how that could be possible without forcing someone to anything.
I personally like the theory that there is a infinite number of parallel realities. So we have completely free will and can shift to whichever reality we like to experience. This idea exists in physics for a while now.
Another possibility is that free will is just an illusion we feed for our ego. I have no problem with this theory. When my ex got me back I never had the feeling that something forced me even so I never had the desire to get back together in the 4 months we were apart. I think there is some scientific evidence on that too.
A third possibility (a beautiful member of this forum brought to me) is that we have free will and that LoA can change this free will. So it is not forcing someone to anything, it becomes their will.
The Bible says "All things are possible to him who believes". There is no exclusion. And for me it wouldn't make any sense, because in nearly every manifestion some other people are involved. So free will can't be an obstacle for LoA because then it wouldn't be a law but kind of random because you never can see all the effects of the thoughts of other people. And we all come from a kinda random life to the realisation that we are powerful creators. So we don't want to go back to the random life, right?
Another reason why I know that it works is that I've done it. Yes, I haven't managed to attract my exes back but I attracted other people without intending it consciously, the last time just two days ago. I thought of a friend of mine and the very next day I got an email from her after not hearing from her for maybe 2 months. When I think just about the last 3 months it happened 5 times with different people. Most of the time they showed up within a day, once it took 5 days but you would admit that 5 days to get your ex back would be very very good.
The last point is of course that many people here got their ex back, even up to three times.

On this base I risk the premise that it is possible to attract a specific person and even that it is inevitable if you do it right. So the next question is how do you do it right? Let's do a little math here. If I have a manifestation and know how I got it (what I thought, how I felt etc.) and I have a desire that hasn't manifested for months and months then I can calculate the difference between the two and what's left on the side of the not manifested desire is the thing I have to let go of and what's left on the side of the fulfilled desire is (maybe) what I have to add to be successful. How did I find this brilliant formula? I finally realised after doing it for more than half a year that I do things fundamentally different when it comes to attracting a specific person. Okay, this is a forum with the focus on attracting a specific person but for those of you who are on PLOA or other sites, did you ever notice that not so many people ask how to attract the new car or the free meal? They don't post in desperation because their new car is not there after 14 days. They don't do RS on the car, they don't visualise for hours. I think you get what I want to say. People (me included) make a difference in the use of LoA when it comes to a specific person. [I don't want so say that anything is wrong about RS or visualisation. I just want to point out that there is a different approach when it comes to a specific person.]

After a lot of slipslop I finally come to my analysis. I'm picking some examples which seem to be representative for me.

Case #1
Desire: a free trip to a foreign country
Manifestation: trip to Poland, completely free, meals included (came back with 3 kg more)
Time frame: I don't really know. Between the asking and the acceptance for the trip maybe 2 months.
How: I thought "wouldn't it be nice if....", felt happy about it, gave thanks for it and forgot it completely.
Doubts/Faith: I didn't see any way for it to manifest but because I forgot about it I couldn't build any resistance.
Time invested before: not even 30 seconds for feeling it
Action: I took action when I applied for the trip but I didn't realise to that time that it was a manifestation, so I wasn't too excited about it and couldn't build up any anxiety.
Feelings: I can't remember how I felt to that time. I think I was happy overall. I had no bad feelings towards the desire because I've already forgotten it.
Worrying: none
Attachment: none
In one word: light/easy/flowing

Case #2
Desire: studying psychology
Manifestation: studying psychlogy in the city I wanted to live in
Time frame: There is not really a time frame because there were fixed dates for the application process. But the day the rankings from my university were released I was on the waiting list. I believed with all my heart and only 4 days later it manifested.
How: I thought much about it, visualized just once how I open my letter of acceptance and I believed - I just believed! At one point I forgot that it hadn't physically manifested yet.
Doubts/Faith: I had some doubts in the beginning but with time my belief became strong and I knew it would happen.
Action: I took all the necessary actions like applying to it.
Feelings: I had some bad feelings but most of the time I was excited and thought I had nothing to lose and everything to gain.
Worrying: a bit, but not so much
Attachment: Yes, my future depended on this but I knew I could try again the next year if necessary
In one word: trust


Case #3
Desire: Job
Manifestation: the perfect job I could never had imagine that way
Time frame: maybe half a month
How: I sent a bunch of desires out in the months before the manifestation. When I let go of the fear of not having enough money it manifested within half a month and combined all my desires in one package. When I saw the email with the job description I KNEW that this was for me and only me. I didn't worry about competition and guess what..there wasn't any.
Doubts/Faith: I did a bit of reasoning to ease my mother but I KNEW it was my job.
Action: I sent an email.
Feelings: no bad feelings
Worrying: none
Attachment: none
In one word: knowing


Case #4
Desire: Going to England (if you like you can read the full story: http://veronicaloa.boardhost.com/viewtopic.php?id=2827)
Manifestation: Going to England
Time frame: two weeks
How: getting extremely happy, jumping around, having no resistance and then letting go completely
Doubts/Faith: no doubts, just knowing
Action: none
Feelings: just good ones
Worrying: none
Attachment: none
In one word: passion

Case #5
Desire: Getting my ex back
Manifestation: not within 5 months (I gave up afterwards)
How: meditating (to raise my vibration to get him back), forcing myself to feel good (to get him back), visualising every evening (even though I hated it after a few days), feeling that it was so damn hard to get an ex back, doubting that I had the ability to get an ex back, doubting that it is even possible to get an ex back, doubting that LoA is even real because he wasn't back yet, doing RS three times a day (although I hated it even more than visualising), having mood swings from hour to hour, thinking about him the whole day, having mental conversations with him (negative ones), loosing all hope when his behaviour wasn't matching my desire, watching ex back videos all day, reading success stories all day (so there was no time for any fun stuff), googeling if it is even possible to attract an ex nearly once a month, feeling bad because people said that it isn't possible and feeling good because other people said it is, asking myself when it eventually will manifest [...]
Doubts: YES
Faith: Sometimes when I wasn't too busy with freaking out, overanalyzing and feeling bad
Feelings: Even if I felt good I had a bad feeling in my stomach (aka resistance aka lack of faith).
Worrying: YES
Attachment: YES
In one word: struggeling


I think you got the picture.
What can we learn from this? The easiest way to manifest is to give energy to it once and don't cancel it out with bad feelings, doubts or worries afterwards. It is not necessary to focus on it the whole time (I think that is not healthy because it shows you need the manifestation way too much). If you do so much, chances are that you don't really trust. I think a crucial point is to be honest to yourself. Do you trust the process fully? Do you know you have the ability to do it? Do you feel good without constant underlieing bad feelings? Do you do visualisation because it makes you happy or because you think you have to do it to get your ex back? Ask yourself this questions and when you give the wrong answer work through the problem first.
Finally, let's come to the most important point: When I look at me and at the posts at the forum then I see that we make a differentiation between how to attract a car/dog/pikachu doll/free book and a specific person. And I have to say to all of you: There is no differentiation to make between whatever you want and a specific person. IT'S EXACTLY THE SAME! Abraham said in one video that there is no easy or hard manifestation, that there is no difference between manifesting a button or a castle. I got that but I thought that my ex was a special case and continued with struggeling (so I didn't really got it I guess ;) ). After writing my case studies down it really sounds stupid but I never realized that I do so much different when it comes to a specific person. I put so much effort in, I wanted to do everything right and when I look at it now... that is the very reason why it never manifested. What made me think about that was the statement of BooLala that he finds it easy to attract his (ex)ex. He is right. It IS easy. We are the ones making it hard.

Conclusion:

● don't make it harder than it has to be (not hard at all)
● realize that your ex is only another parking space or free cup of coffee (you know what I mean)
● don't overdo it
● don't think that you need different processes for your ex than for your free cup of coffee
● dont't worry and lean back
● it can manifest as quickly as the parking space if you let it (I already said that i attracted people within days)

I think the keypoints of LoA are really send the right energy out and don't undo it with negative thoughts and feelings, trust and get happy. That's it! You don't have to visualise, do RS, script and all the other stuff. If you enjoy it do it as long as you like but don't see it as an obligation to succeed, it isn't. Look at my non-LoA ex back stories (that are in fact LoA ex back stories too because thought is the only cause that is). I used no technique, I just believed at some level.

Every single one of you can get their ex/specific person (back). The more you stop seing it as hard or a struggle the more of a pleasant journey it can become. How do you feel when you test LoA with some little things? Light? excited? expectant? Powerful? Try to feel the exact way with your ex and it will work as effortless as it does with all the little manifestation that sometimes come within hours.