Colonel Roosevelt wrote:

He's still interested in you. From a more realistic POV, sometimes it's fun to flirt with other people even when we we are into someone else or dating someone else. And if it's someone we share a strong connection with, it can be extra nice to flirt with them sometimes, even if they're an ex.

Maybe he's unsure. On one hand, he wants love and fun so he's dating someone else. On the other hand, he still wants you but doesn't know how to deal with the tension? So he flirts with you hoping that you'll flirt back? Maybe it's not that he doesn't have anything meaningful to say but he starts out light and flirty to see what mood you're in, to see if you'll flirt back, to see where you are emotionally? It's difficult to put yourself out there and admit your true feelings or say meaningful stuff if you think it'll just cause more tension or lack of response. So maybe this is his way of seeing of the coast is clear to start again? Maybe he's trying to open up better communication and this is a step to everything else?

The cycle between good and bad moods is normal. It's like you're trying to find your balance and settle into a consistent higher feeling. And you don't have to do exercises like visualization and affirmations alone to feel love and happiness. Don't force it. Sometimes just playing a great video game all Saturday or going to the zoo on a beautiful day can make me feel happier than visualization or affirmations ever could. It's all about reaching for higher vibrations by feeling better in your heart first, right? Either way, neutral is better than being depressed and over time you will find ways to feel positive again and get out of neutral. It's more about being patient with yourself and doing what really makes you feel better deep down.

 

He definitely flirted with me a lot, but I need to step away for a bit. I don't want him to think I am okay being the side girl. I need to focus on me and my story. I actually like the neutral feeling because then I can see more clearly. As well as I have better access to tapping into happy emotions now. The neutral feeling kind of helps me chose what to react to and how.

Last edited by holistichealing (5/15/2016 2:31 pm)

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Oh is he your husband?

Oh ok ok