Because you aren't consistently focussing on that reality. You doubt, so you have resistance still holding you apart from it.

Your progress in living a happier life is an amazing success story in itself. That alone is legendary. I've been through depression myself so I know how tough it is.

On reddit Law of Attraction, there's a user called FeelsGood2FeelGood who often gives very simple advice and this is one that I've recently enjoyed:

"Focus on whatever makes you happy all throughout the day. And then repeat that the next day.There is your routine...Exercises do not manifest what you want. What you want is already manifested. Exercises help you release resistance, and allow what you want to come.You don’t need to do any exercises, you could just be happy and that is all you really need to do to attract what you want.Now, if you do exercises because they feel good to do, then you want to do them. But, do them because they feel good, and don’t do them with the intention of manifesting what you want.Because if you do an exercise with the intention of manifesting what you want, to make it happen, you’ll just end up introducing resistance to allowing what you want. So, keep your vibration in a more pure state of allowing by simply doing what feels good for you."

Link: https://www.reddit.com/r/lawofattraction/comments/4jbkcy/setting_up_a_manifestation_routine/

The reassurance you are looking for is inside yourself. I know it sounds cheesy but it's true (and I had mac and cheese for dinner so...lol). Why do you want this relationship? What are you hoping to feel? Love? Confidence? Joy? Look back at all the times you've felt it, picture new times in which you will feel it, feel it real now as if you have the relationship you want. Don't do it to make things happen, do it to feel good. When that feeling of confidence, love, joy - the feeling of having that great relationship takes over - you will know it. When you feel so great and you do what makes you feel truly awesome, it's as if you have a 6th sense that lets you know that amazing things are already here for you and you don't have to do much to get it - you just let it be and feel awesome about it. So when you're in a higher vibration (feeling very positive or feeling your desired reality to be true), your point of attraction is just right and so you can go with the flow as this feeling becomes powerful within you.

I know it's hard to take this in when you're feeling down. I can be very logical and practical at times so none of this made any sense to me until I let go of my doubtful thoughts and just decided to feel good for the sake of feeling good. On a more "practical" note, the specific girls I once tried to attract all showed more interest when I stopped trying so hard (visualizing) and just chose to feel more confident in myself (feel good). I guess you just have to affirm and remind yourself that you're already worthy of what you desire and that you are living that reality now so there's no point feeling bad about it or worrying about it. (I think feeling bad and worrying = resistance. So when you get relaxed about things and just feel/know that you're living in your preferred reality now, resistance clears up and allows in what you truly desire. This may be why people often get what they want when they just forget about it and feel good instead.)
 

 

Last edited by Colonel Roosevelt (5/14/2016 11:50 pm)

I can tell you from my experience my manifestation turned up each time after I released the last remnants of resistance.

I was 90% there with no doubt or worry I was living my life and in full acceptance. But each time I would have a mini ephiny where I would feel what I was still holding on to and then just release it.

Its a journey and you go through it. Just keep telling yourself he is coming back. Don't focus on the current, absorb yourself in your vision of the future.

Well done in your transformation. Take pride in that more. Look in the mirror and give yourself a hug mental hug for the effort that you have made to breakthrough.

iinikkii wrote:

I feel like as far as me personally, I have made so so so much progress over the past couple months. Joining this forum has played a big part in that too (so thank you, all of you). Before I found this place I had healed somewhat, but was still very much depressed. Never left the house except to go to work, never dressed up just to look nice, I just sat around or layed in my bed all day every day, crying and not partaking in life what so ever. Now, I laugh every day, smile, eating well (gaining some of the weight that I lost from not eating) make myself look good just because it makes me feel good to look good, I spend time with my family, hangout with friends, I can finally listen to the radio without having a melt down. I know that I have come such a long way in just a few months. I tell myself everyday how proud I am of myself, and most times it brings tears to my eyes because this journey has been rough and to see how far I've come just overwhelms me with emotions. I tell myself to keep going, don't stop now, that I'm really doing it! I've became my own best friend. i know I can always count on me to be there for me, and my relationship with myself is becoming more than it has ever been before.

So.. I guess I'm just wandering why I haven't seen any progress as far as my desire to be with my love. I do so so so good for days and days, then I look and don't see anything changing, and it really knocks me down EVERY time. Why I look? Confirmation, reassurance that my desire literally is on the way. I guess I just need some help. Thanks

Hey so this is my issue as well UNITLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLL I watched one of Veronica's videos about seeing change in the now, and it helped alot!

There is a line there that says the Universe is working at the speed of light, but there are numerous things that need to happen BEFORE your manifestation becomes evident.

Sure doubting prohibits things from working quicker, but the more you get out an do stuff the signs just star popping up. I tried her challange twice and we speak everyday now. At first I was a wreck and then i starated walking and working out and telling myself well i gotta look good for when i see him again, and then in the middle of working out i burst into tears and asked for a sign...there was literally a compass on the ground next to the mail box i stoppped walking in front of to cry..Next thing i know i kept telling myself im going to have it all, im going to be the cadilac of sexy and strength...i literally see cadillacs everyday day now...I want to move to texas, i cant tell you how lany license plates i see when im driving, it just all became one big exciting mosh pit of fun, then out of no where, HERE HE CAME! ON HIS OWN!!!!

T here is so much I want right now but he isnt ready for me right now, and your manifestation may not be ready for you...if you got it back right now, will i be perfect? Who knows? But what you DO know is that you have to keep prepping for it...doing more of that, and less thinking of if it will or when it will makes it all the more better.. i promise you there will be days youll flop on your bed and feel like you would rather eat cupcakes and die than to sleep alone, but once you get over it and say i am going to ...it will happen.
Just today I said i was going to be mad at him and make him understand my point of view.

I didnt even get a chance to be made, he understood on his own.

Everything is working for your good! Just keep at it...so many pieces have to fall into place, but check out the video, it helped me out big time!

. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OPKN2jeIAb8


 

SydneysMommy wrote:

iinikkii wrote:

I feel like as far as me personally, I have made so so so much progress over the past couple months. Joining this forum has played a big part in that too (so thank you, all of you). Before I found this place I had healed somewhat, but was still very much depressed. Never left the house except to go to work, never dressed up just to look nice, I just sat around or layed in my bed all day every day, crying and not partaking in life what so ever. Now, I laugh every day, smile, eating well (gaining some of the weight that I lost from not eating) make myself look good just because it makes me feel good to look good, I spend time with my family, hangout with friends, I can finally listen to the radio without having a melt down. I know that I have come such a long way in just a few months. I tell myself everyday how proud I am of myself, and most times it brings tears to my eyes because this journey has been rough and to see how far I've come just overwhelms me with emotions. I tell myself to keep going, don't stop now, that I'm really doing it! I've became my own best friend. i know I can always count on me to be there for me, and my relationship with myself is becoming more than it has ever been before.

So.. I guess I'm just wandering why I haven't seen any progress as far as my desire to be with my love. I do so so so good for days and days, then I look and don't see anything changing, and it really knocks me down EVERY time. Why I look? Confirmation, reassurance that my desire literally is on the way. I guess I just need some help. Thanks

Hey so this is my issue as well UNITLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLL I watched one of Veronica's videos about seeing change in the now, and it helped alot!

There is a line there that says the Universe is working at the speed of light, but there are numerous things that need to happen BEFORE your manifestation becomes evident.

Sure doubting prohibits things from working quicker, but the more you get out an do stuff the signs just star popping up. I tried her challange twice and we speak everyday now. At first I was a wreck and then i starated walking and working out and telling myself well i gotta look good for when i see him again, and then in the middle of working out i burst into tears and asked for a sign...there was literally a compass on the ground next to the mail box i stoppped walking in front of to cry..Next thing i know i kept telling myself im going to have it all, im going to be the cadilac of sexy and strength...i literally see cadillacs everyday day now...I want to move to texas, i cant tell you how lany license plates i see when im driving, it just all became one big exciting mosh pit of fun, then out of no where, HERE HE CAME! ON HIS OWN!!!!

T here is so much I want right now but he isnt ready for me right now, and your manifestation may not be ready for you...if you got it back right now, will i be perfect? Who knows? But what you DO know is that you have to keep prepping for it...doing more of that, and less thinking of if it will or when it will makes it all the more better.. i promise you there will be days youll flop on your bed and feel like you would rather eat cupcakes and die than to sleep alone, but once you get over it and say i am going to ...it will happen.
Just today I said i was going to be mad at him and make him understand my point of view.

I didnt even get a chance to be made, he understood on his own.

Everything is working for your good! Just keep at it...so many pieces have to fall into place, but check out the video, it helped me out big time!

. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OPKN2jeIAb8


 

Thank you! It's funny, as soon as I read your post.. I just said to myself "I am going to get him back" and literally not 3 minutes later, I unexpectantl my drive past a road that's name was my guys name. It made me laugh a little