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A little off, what would you do?
Good morning everyone, so this morning I woke up a little bit off. I woke up thinking to myself how grateful I am that my ex and I speak every single day. But then it dawned on me that I became fearful about being in the friend zone.
There isn't anything technically happening just friendly conversation lots of laughter lots of fun but nothing Progressive in the romance Department. So then the brain does what the brain does and it's started to wonder why isn't he attracted to me romantically anymore. Here is where I need your guyses help. For most people they don't get to speak to their ex and then just a few short months literally only two we've gone from not speaking at all to now speaking everyday.
Veronica has a video that suggests sometimes you spend too much time in one area not realizing the manifestation happens in the other how do you go from fear of being friendzoned to being OK with the fact that this is how it starts and maybe just maybe the Friendship portion is the portion that needed to be healed and not the romance Department.
I'm truly having trouble in that department because that is how he always was truly very truly romantic truly affectionate and now I'm learning a new side of him and though I really like it The Balancing Act for me is to have everything of course because naturally we can have whatever we want I just don't know how to view or manifest the other portion of what are romantic relationships like since I'm respecting the fact that he needs to go through his journey as well as he gets himself together.
I mentioned before that I wanted to move to a different city so I'll put all my time focus and energy on that manifestation right now I truly believe that if I get my job find childcare move to a different city and actually live my life in a way that is financially feasible for my daughter and I he will have to follow he will follow because I truly believe we belong together and although it's not going to happen right away I still feel it in my soul. But I think right now waking up another day without him just brought me down I need to realign here you know. Any suggestions for manifesting the romance or does it sound like I'm pretty much on the right track our friendship is strong and it's where it needs to be and to continue to look forward to the life that I want for my daughter and allow the romance to come at me. Thanks guys in advance you're always hopeful!
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Re: A little off, what would you do?
You're doing great, you just need to love from the end- as though it's already a wonderful relationship. And trust that EVERYTHING is bringing you closer to this endpoint. Don't allow your fear to grab hold of you. Deep breath, relax, do some scripting or visualise to feel that connection. And then just STAY in that great place, knowing that the universe totally has your back. 😘
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Re: A little off, what would you do?
Cherished wrote:
You're doing great, you just need to love from the end- as though it's already a wonderful relationship. And trust that EVERYTHING is bringing you closer to this endpoint. Don't allow your fear to grab hold of you. Deep breath, relax, do some scripting or visualise to feel that connection. And then just STAY in that great place, knowing that the universe totally has your back. 😘
Great advice. Now I have to really focus on it. Moving, childcare, new job, all on my own with just a dream is HUGE!
I have manifested many things, even money for surgery but not a life over haul.
I wonder if they have services for relocating. Like an agent to assist in the finding of it all.
But Cherished, thank you for my previous reality check. It has been working well. No huge sparks yet but the fire works gotta come soon...right?
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You have a lot of doubt about your capabilities of attracting man who once fell in love with you to fall in love with you again , when if you read that sentence you should see that the possibility and in fact, the probability of that happening is staggeringly high!! It's tricky to have a person fall in love with you in the first place, but once that happens, it's a sure thing for it to happen again! Why do you think so many girls fear their boyfriend's ex?? Why do you think it's the ex girlfriend who poses the most threat and not some new girl at a party. Because where there was love, love can happen again. If you really start to develop confidence in your ability to cause him to fall in love, your actions will reflect that and you will be subconsciously displaying actions and saying words that will attract him into a romantic situation. This is the best time for acting as if 
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Re: A little off, what would you do?
You have a lot of doubt about your capabilities of attracting man who once fell in love with you to fall in love with you again , when if you read that sentence you should see that the possibility and in fact, the probability of that happening is staggeringly high!! It's tricky to have a person fall in love with you in the first place, but once that happens, it's a sure thing for it to happen again! Why do you think so many girls fear their boyfriend's ex?? Why do you think it's the ex girlfriend who poses the most threat and not some new girl at a party. Because where there was love, love can happen again. If you really start to develop confidence in your ability to cause him to fall in love, your actions will reflect that and you will be subconsciously displaying actions and saying words that will attract him into a romantic situation. This is the best time for acting as if
I love this!!!! Sooo true. This gave me a new outlook thank you (:
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You have a lot of doubt about your capabilities of attracting man who once fell in love with you to fall in love with you again , when if you read that sentence you should see that the possibility and in fact, the probability of that happening is staggeringly high!! It's tricky to have a person fall in love with you in the first place, but once that happens, it's a sure thing for it to happen again! Why do you think so many girls fear their boyfriend's ex?? Why do you think it's the ex girlfriend who poses the most threat and not some new girl at a party. Because where there was love, love can happen again. If you really start to develop confidence in your ability to cause him to fall in love, your actions will reflect that and you will be subconsciously displaying actions and saying words that will attract him into a romantic situation. This is the best time for acting as if
The ex girlfriend a threat, I never thought of it that way....
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Re: A little off, what would you do?
You have a lot of doubt about your capabilities of attracting man who once fell in love with you to fall in love with you again , when if you read that sentence you should see that the possibility and in fact, the probability of that happening is staggeringly high!! It's tricky to have a person fall in love with you in the first place, but once that happens, it's a sure thing for it to happen again! Why do you think so many girls fear their boyfriend's ex?? Why do you think it's the ex girlfriend who poses the most threat and not some new girl at a party. Because where there was love, love can happen again. If you really start to develop confidence in your ability to cause him to fall in love, your actions will reflect that and you will be subconsciously displaying actions and saying words that will attract him into a romantic situation. This is the best time for acting as if
The ex girlfriend a threat, I never thought of it that way....
I know! Me either now I know why the other didn't want me talking or being friends with my love. Haha
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You have a lot of doubt about your capabilities of attracting man who once fell in love with you to fall in love with you again , when if you read that sentence you should see that the possibility and in fact, the probability of that happening is staggeringly high!! It's tricky to have a person fall in love with you in the first place, but once that happens, it's a sure thing for it to happen again! Why do you think so many girls fear their boyfriend's ex?? Why do you think it's the ex girlfriend who poses the most threat and not some new girl at a party. Because where there was love, love can happen again. If you really start to develop confidence in your ability to cause him to fall in love, your actions will reflect that and you will be subconsciously displaying actions and saying words that will attract him into a romantic situation. This is the best time for acting as if
I wanted to point out it is a great point as well. But I don't doubt making him fall in love. I trust he is. It is the allowance of romantic and committed feelings if..no rather when I move.
Initially I was so wrapped up in getting him back I let my goals fail. Once he made is way back around, I expected my experience to be seamless as in the past....well it didn't go that way...lol
So I got back onto the 25 day challenge and this man calls me EVERYDAY. He makes it obvious he cares...and our friendship we once had is moving well. But it's the LOVER in him that hasn't become evident yet.
My goal to move from Maryland to Texas is HUGE and the signs already prove that its possible. And my hurdles don't seem so large. But that visually takes me from my goal with him to know allowing him to follow me and my new perspective. So I guess that fear came from if I leave does the vibration of us being a family leave too. He has a daughter here that he would leave if he followed me and our kid.
Its bigger than just being an ex you know its a life away from a life you've created.
As of now all I do is research and focus...I try to save money and get things in order. I Farley share it with him but low and behold he mentions wanting to move too. I'm positive he loves me. I'm positive he cares.I'm positive he finds me sexually attractive...but his choice to follow if in fact...no WHEN its time to go looms over me a bit.
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Well that all sounds very positive You've really got a lot going that you didn't a few weeks ago or whenever I last saw a post from you where things weren't so great. You're very pure in your intention and you really do love him, that's really nice Well, I know you're obviously experienced in life and you know that in every relationship there are different stages, you probably have gone through the honeymoon stage with him and it's possible that that won't come back, your relationship could be already maturing past that even though there has been a gap. So if he's not as full on as he was when you first started dating, I really wouldn't worry, and you could always take the lead in the romance side, like you could start touching him more than usual when you see him, like on his arm, his hair, neck, areas that subtly indicate attraction and he would be able to reciprocate and you could take it from there Or you could cook him a meal one night, maybe something simple, maybe even invite him in for a drink one evening...something that could start off as 'friendly' but could evolve perhaps?
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