It's tricky because I know on the one hand, I haven't properly let go because I am still watching out for any signs of change in that area and sort of getting excited when I think something is happening but then it doesn't exactly pan out, and I know that it's also holding me back from going into any relationship right now 100%, like I've been casually dating around but I'm not mentally able to say goodbye to my desire of this person and hello to a new person yet. There was a moment where I nearly did, but I wasn't emotionally ready and sort of scared off the guy I was seeing because I was getting a bit intense about having a relationship...Anyway, yeah I guess it's like the time where I'm really not sure if this is the moment to start actually shutting down my feelings as such for this person so that I can be fresh for someone else or hold on..

Hi ShootingStar
The answer is Yes I have ended a relationship and moved on and not had regrets, HOWEVER I have  dumped a guy and had deep regrets and on the other side one ex dumped me and had deep regrets. 
I understand your beliefs are very different to mine , but to me these answers wouldn't make a difference to what i wanted, as I know If I love the guy I will get the guy by faith and writing an unbelievable love story. I am a firm believer that this **** works!! I have had lots of proof. I seriously would not be thinking about him being a vibrational match to someone else and only he's a vibrational match to you. I've read your posts and i think you're  intelligent and articulate and i bet he loves that about you and misses you like crazy. If your're in a good vibration why don't you try no contact for a while as you're concerned about him not having a chance to miss you. Yes, you can miss your ex when your with someone else. 


 

Hello Shootingstar,

to be honest, I broke up with a girl after 5 years, that relationship to me has no way of getting back to what it was. After that realtionship I got to know someone else and honestly fell in love head over heels. this did not last long (about 8 weeks) as I was still damaged from the earlier relationship and obviously needy and all other things. 

I am now focussing on this second person to have a proper chance with. 

I do think you can fall in love with another person right after a break up and have deep feelings. However from experience I know those feelings that are 'deep' are also mixed with a bunch of other feelings from that earlier break up. So basically I am happy and at peace that things where intense, passionatly and short with this second person, as I was obviously not OK. Strangly enough now that I set myself back on track I do feel butterflies, I do feel intense love love for this second person and I'm entirely sure she is the one for me. We both felt a connection like never before and we have had the luxuary to have a glimp of what the future will give. 

I think your guy has become really depended on this other person because of the break up, as soon as his feelings concerning the break up are all sorted out, things probably won't end well between them. 

Saying that, for anyone out there, what if 2 people are trying to attract the same person, ever thought about that? We all do this purposely or unpurposely. I think that when 2 people desire and attract the same person (let's say you and this other person with your guy) it all depends on who has the strongest feeling and who is persistent. The universe will call out to the one that is repeatedly sending the same message every day. 
But it sounds to me that you still work on 'letting go'? Your feelings should not be influenced by this other person, you are just feeding with YOUR energy THEIR relationship. 
Just a thought :-)

So how does one even become the more persistent to make this work?