Because you have to remember, that you already built a history with him, if you had only just met him, him flirting with you and dating other people would be ok, like it's part of dating, but because you already had him and shared love and experience, you can't devalue yourself to going back and allowing yourself to be like a girl he's just casually texting too much. You did it a little, and that's enough to give him a taste of you, but you know that you don't need to be in competition with anyone. When he's ready he can come and get it, but you don't need to be in the picture while he messes around, you have more self worth than to be around him while he's in that mentality. You're the real deal, you're the prize and the prize doesn't fight for the winner, the winner gets the prize. So don't worry about feeling like he might lose interest or something if you step out of the picture right now, he won't, he'll respect you for it!

ShootingStar wrote:

Because you have to remember, that you already built a history with him, if you had only just met him, him flirting with you and dating other people would be ok, like it's part of dating, but because you already had him and shared love and experience, you can't devalue yourself to going back and allowing yourself to be like a girl he's just casually texting too much. You did it a little, and that's enough to give him a taste of you, but you know that you don't need to be in competition with anyone. When he's ready he can come and get it, but you don't need to be in the picture while he messes around, you have more self worth than to be around him while he's in that mentality. You're the real deal, you're the prize and the prize doesn't fight for the winner, the winner gets the prize. So don't worry about feeling like he might lose interest or something if you step out of the picture right now, he won't, he'll respect you for it!

I remember one time he was dating someone else and I was really bothered by it. We were in High School at the time and we sat at the same table at lunch. I left the table and he lost his mind. He wanted me to go back to the table. So he pulled me aside to speak with me and told me that he loved me. Which led to us dating.

Human nature is a little funny, when we dump someone it can be because we subconsciously think we can do better. We think that that person we left behind will always be there too. However, when that person turns the table on us and isn't there anymore, we either feel fine about it because we never really liked them or we freakkk out because we actually did like them but we thought we could have done better! That song 'Back to December' by Taylor Swift is a good example of that happening! Like we think we're powerless if we're the ones left behind, but actually we hold a lot of power, especially where the other person's ego is concerned. Us being around there waiting gives the other person power in thinking they have us, but if we're not around waiting as they thought, suddenly they lost their 'back up' or their hidden super power and we're flying on our own away from them! I once saw a documentary about gorrillas mating, this female gorilla wanted the alpha but he wasn't paying her much attention, so she went to another male and basically started flirting in gorilla language, the alpha saw and got so jealous he ran the other male off and mated with the female ;) Even animals understand the power of moving away from their crush to get their crush haha