I think you should send a pm to @Cherished. She can definitely help you get out of your doubtful thought process. We've all been in your position. Try to focus on the happy times and do things that make you happy. It will send love and positivity out into the Universe and say "I want more of THAT!!" We're here for you and know you can manifest your dreams! Also check out Veronica Isles videos on YouTube. They're very motivational and uplifting. You can do it!!

Last edited by alston326 (5/13/2016 12:28 pm)

I'm a little bit confused by your situation, I read in other posts that he was actually flirting with you and I see here you've mentioned he is a 'relation-whatever' as I call it. A similar thing has happened me before I must admit. It was a difficult situation because although I was hearing lovely stuff from him , he was still not leaving the girl. I decided then that the only way I could move the boat forward was by pushing it, so I went out to see him a bit out of the blue and I didn't flirt or anything with him, but I made sure to be in my attractive state of mind and he did end up sleeping with me that night. After that I just told him coldly that he had to leave the other girl now because he crossed the line and his relationship with her was a sham now. He didn't at first, he actually tried to cover it all up, but after about a week, he did break up with her. The only problem was he was tied somewhat emotionally to her and even though she blocked him after that on facebook, I read the last message he sent her saying that he was sorry and still wanted to  be with her. By the time I read that, months later, he told me he was living a lie back then and definitely didn't love her and was over her. I never felt good about it though, and we broke up that same day, even though I didn't realise it was a real break up....

Anyway, what I'm trying to say is that it's very hard to maintain your happiness, sense of self worth and good vibration when you are mixing with someone in a low vibration so frequently and in an intense way. You love him, you want to be with him, hold on to that but also feel your intuition on this one. He loves you, but why is he not with you then? Step into his shoes if you can. Does he have a history of fractured relationships? Does he have issues? If he was a balloon and you were holding the string, if you let go, would he float away forever or would he stay. Trust me, I would love my person to start texting me and being flirty even though he has a 'relation-whatever' but I don't know if I would love it if he wasn't leaving her for me at that stage because it would  send doubts through my head on whether he would do the same to me. I would suggest if you could try, to take him off any pedestal right now. For the next few days, see him in a light of just a normal man, like any other man. Take away the idea that he is supremely important, that he is everything to you, that he is the only man you can see, just try to do that and you will see that you have less resistance because suddenly the 'prize' isn't the only prize. Suddenly the idea of getting the prize isn't that unrealistic or hard.

Here's something I did to help me during a situation like that get back my ex:

He started dating this girl who has a lot going for her, a girl who is on my level of attractiveness and has a number of other qualities about her that could match mine if not beat mine. I started to pin point all the negatives about her. She has a double chin slightly, her degree is a bit ridiculous, her voice is too loud....then I started to see some negative qualities in my boy, he's a bit easy to manipulate, he gets a bit too drunk at parties, his voice is a little irritating actually...then I focused on the good aspects of me, then I bought a new dress that was sexy and elegant, I took a lot of selfies for myself and practiced my charm and elegance, I went out and talked to people. Then when I felt really like I was much better than my guy and his girl, I had the confidence to go to a party where I knew he and her would be at. For some reason she didn't go, but he was there, and because I had built him so low in my head, I saw him as a little uglier than I used and he saw me as a lot more beautiful than I used to be. After that night, the tables turned and I knew I got him.  

By eliminating his importance in my head, I was able to see him almost in a light of pity and regained control of the situation. I also watched a lot of documentaries on beautiful women like Audrey Hepburn, Brigitte Bardot, Elizabeth Taylor, Marilyn Monroe, Angelina Jolie and copied some of the things that made them attractive as people. I think once you can change your perspective, you can control the situation.

Kind of pms'ing right now, he is going on a date with whoever she is, over here telling me to be positive. I was positive about what he told me, but I feel so left behind and out of place.