Been scanning this thread not read it in complete detail so forgive me, but just wanted to add something that came to me about people getting totally happy and NOT getting their ex.

Maybe it's because they didn't really want them? I know that sounds like oh yeah ok WHATEVER they totally did. BUT I've got loads of exes before now I was CONVINCED I wanted back, to be in love with me. But what I really wanted was the pain and the drama - I was totally in love with that! In one instance I manifested someone back and slipped right back into fear creating into self torture and winding myself up emotionally. Why? Because sadly that was and still is a little too comfortable for me!

Often when I've got totally happy I've realised I don't want that thing or that person, and often I've got exactly what I wanted. I think with manifesting a person the MOST important thing is how does thinking about that person make you feel? How does a relationship with them make you feel? And if it's anything other than amazing then you may attract some funky confusing stuff.

I do believe you can manifest ANYTHING! ANYONE to behave in any way you want, I've done it! For good and bad! Because i believe in an infinite number of parallel realities were the tiniest changes exist and we shift to them every second. A lot for the human brain to try and make logic out of so maybe try just letting your heart do it.

Hope that makes SOME sense! And maybe helps someone, could make everything even more confused lol

X

I think it's also pure PURE belief, like a mother magically lifting a car off their child in an accident. It's just pure and unfiltered by lack or insecurities. There have been times when I was so desperate or afraid I called out to a higher being with my whole body. I had such pure belief in those moments.

Cherished wrote:

And I also want to add that this topic - for some people- is what holds you apart from your desire! The very act of searching for for's and against.. it merely adds to that momentum of doubt and disbelief that you possibly hold. When you are still questioning, you will only attract more confusion and questions. And that is not the vibration that will lead you into love. You have to remove yourself from the question and live wholeheartedly in the answer. THAT is the vibration that will attract what you are wanting. There is no need to decide who is more correct. We are ALL correct! All of us! 😊 You totally get to decide. And once you decide what your truth is, knuckle down and BE that truth. THAT is where the magic begins.

I agree with this. I feel like I have spent literally years trying to research if you can attract a specific person or not. The whole time I have been trying to attract my guy, instead of actually doing the practices, I just spend all the time reading and searching on them. Its been months & I still type in weekly into Google "can you attract a specific person". So I absolutely agree with this. The thing is, is it actually best to just tell yourself you CAN even if you don't believe it? Will you eventually believe it and get results? Or do you actually have to believe it first? How do you truly believe when you get no results?

Cherished wrote:

ShootingStar wrote:

I think what's interesting to hear, going back to Abraham (because she's the one I listen to the most and I feel because she wrote that book and is a leading expert on loa, I believe in a lot of her teaching) is that she doesn't seem to believe that relationships are always built to last and she says that a marriage vow should be more like 'I like you a lot, lets see how this goes' or something...at first, I thought she was really un-romantic, when people asked her about specific people, she never really put much importance on the 'specific' part of their question. Now, after 2 years of listening to her in the same videos about love, trying to pin point the part where she says you can have the specific person and ignoring the rest, I finally am starting to come around to what she is saying...'if that person is in the vibrational vicinity' ....'if you stay in the vortex and allow ideas about that person to flow through you' 'if you stay in appreciation for that person' 'if you thank that person in your mind for putting more of what you want in your vortex' and my favourite line 'stay and keep watching butterflies and allow the love of your life to come right along' and it all makes so much sense ^.^ You can have a specific person, there's no 'you can't' but can doesn't mean you'll most definitely get that exact one, but you can get that exact one if you find the path to that one and in due timing but it might not happen because by the time you're growing and getting really happy and finding out what you like and don't like and laughing and listening to good music and having fun and travelling and whatever else, you'll most probably be right in front of someone who has everything you've been looking for plus more....the one you wanted at first may not be near your vibrational vicinity, he might be totally somewhere else in another vibration that does not match yours. I saw a picture of one of my older boyfriends, I remember wanting him back so badly for the best part of a year, he came back after 2 years but by then I didn't want him anymore as I had met someone else (who is the guy I came on here for). In the picture he looked so happy and he was playing guitar on stage, I know he's in a great place in his life, but it's still a different life to what I want and even though we're both happy, we're not on the same wave length. But that's ok No matter what, learning about vibrations and using loa to improve your life definitely makes you a happier and positive person I think and that's more important I feel now

 Abraham is my life.. Have you heard them talk about Esther and Jerry? Esther decided that Jerry was her man. It is actually Esther that convinced me I most certainly CAN be with my man!  It's all in the way you perceive, attract and translate.  Here are a few of my favorite Abe teachings that talk straight to the heart of specifically attracting.  Hope you all enjoy 😘

Hotseater
How did Esther not give a rip about what he (Jerry)
was doing? Because...

Abe:
Because, she decided to love him.
She was not about to let herself NOT LOVE HIM.
There was never anything that he could be or do,
that was big enough to cause her to not love him!

And here are the exact words of Abraham saying that we can indeed get a specific person:

Abraham Hicks: ... no one will be able to talk you out of it. Esther said "That's my man, That's my man, That's my man" she knew it, everything that she had lived had put it there and when she saw him, she knew that and nothing was going to talk her out of that, you see? When you know it, you know it but you have to find the vibrational essence of it first, you see? And once you do then it all lines up and all of the cooperative components just make it come about..."

“When you’re tuned in, you are undeniable; and I, and all other components of the Universe, have to yield to you. But when you’re not tuned in, when you’re begging, when you’re pleading, when you’re needing, when you’re asking from a place of not being lined up with it, then it doesn’t happen as easily.”
- Abraham Hicks (The Vortex)

“If you will simply imagine your life as you want it to be, all cooperative components will be summoned. And even more important, all components that are summoned will cooperate. It is Law.”
- Abraham Hicks (The Vortex)

“You don’t have to worry about what their vibration is if your vibration is one of connection. Because if your vibration is one of connection — you’re going to dominate the vibration. This is the way you learn your relationships.”
- Abraham Hicks

“Get so fixated on what you want,
that you drown out any vibration or reverberation that has anything to do
with what you do not want.”

And so, what happens is, it is our absolute promise to you, that the Nonphysical Energy that orchestrates this balance would not set forth an imbalance in terms of desires and beliefs. In other words, you come forth in this perfectly... Your balance is so perfect that do you know that anyone of you who desire anything, the resources to have it in its implicit specifics are here for every single one of you. In other words, there is no possible way that any of you could ever be denied anything that you have the ability to desire. The only thing that denies you is your own misalignment of Energy. In other words, the resources are there. The Law of Attraction is in place. The probability of your developing the idea is there. In other words, everything that is necessary for this ongoing, leading edge time/space reality is here for you. And the only thing that ever messes any of you up is when you get in this place where you’re pushing against something.

Your small Earth continues to spin in its orbit and the Life Force continues to come forth in the seed of the tomato to give it longevity over generations.. And so, if you accept that that Nonphysical Energy is holding your planet in perfect balance in proximity to other planets, cannot that same trust cause you to expect that the balance of all things would be such?"

Jerry sent an invitation to Esther to attend his wedding. He called her last minute to confirm that she would be there. Her response? No,  she would not be attending and neither should he.  He did not. And they finally came together in a magnificent love story that Esther always knew in her heart was theirs.

Omgggggg Jerry was about to get married when Esther attracted him?! Oohhh in your words Cherished, this whole thing is "delicious" & I am vibrating with excitement lol!! All of your quotes just put me in instant alignment!! I think I'm gonna print this one out! I hope this is true ❤. I say that Bc I am not a huge Esther/Abraham fan. Something about her rubs me the wrong way & sometimes screams possible scam. But sometimes she is very soothing & I do love a lot she has to say. So if it is true, oh scratch that, how about I make it my truth?? 😊 These are lovely quotes, & the one goes along with one of my comments above! Where she said this is my man my man my man. I swear that kept my one ex when I was so worried about him cheating as I said before, bc I always declared he was mine anyway. And so he was.

The only quote here I wanna touch upon is when she says, “If you will simply imagine your life as you want it to be, all cooperative components will be summoned. And even more important, all components that are summoned will cooperate. It is Law.” -what if the person you are wanting does not cooperate, bc he does not want the same, does that mean he will not come bc he is not a cooperating component of your desire since he does not desire it also? Or does that second part of it cancel it out by saying that whichsoever you summon (in this case specific person) WILL cooperate no matter what bc that is law?

So it is my determination that is giving me positive results. The reason he is becoming very flirty with me and adores me like crazy. I can have an awkward moment and he will say, "Damn you're cute." My intuition has been sensing his strong feelings for me. I like to think to myself "Isn't it wonderful?" I changed my perspective on my darling and now he is all sweet and goodness. I have grown more in tune with myself and I know my desire is right there.