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My story is a little bit unique, in the sense that him and I were never going out. He was a long-term crush that I had for over 25 years, and after I went through a terrible divorce, I figured why not? And I reached out to him and initiated contact through social media. He was kind of standoffish at first, but that is his personality, he's very quiet and a loner type. I knew of LOA, I still consider myself a beginner, and I am far from an expert, but I had manifested good and bad, and the more I study the topic, the more I become consciously aware of everything around me. One day an idea popped into my head, and I wondered if I could manifest him to like me back. I really wish I knew of this board and all the great information back when I was doing this about two years ago, I had a lot of resistance back then, and even though I tried to the best of my ability, I knew I wasn't doing the visualizations 100% correctly. I got him to go from not talking to me, not even know I exist, to texting me and calling me and wanting to hang out. Every weekend for seven months he tried to hang out with me, not only was I scared too but I had a lot of issues in my personal life that I'll get into at another time, but for one reason or another seven months went by and we never hung out. He ended up getting drunk ine night nd texting me and telling me that he always thought I was hot we should be friends with benefits and if it works out we should date, but he doesn't want to put pressure on me, and I got really upset and I told him that that is backwards, and he cut me off, and started to ignore all my future texts, and I told him that I was deleting him from social media and blocking his #, which I did and regret it. We haven't spoken in three months, and I miss him every day, I know that I manifested him once, and I can do it again, but I guess my question is do you think because there's no history there between us that I'm not gonna be able to manifest him as well as some of you that actually have mutual feelings? This is a crush, we didn't actually date, what feelings could really be there on his end? Apparently nothing deep if all he wants is to use me for sex. When I would visualize, I would do both loving romantic scenes, so how did I manifest the sexual part? Did I do too much of the sex scenes?
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First before I give an opinion on your comment, I just want to say that I do believe in this being a vibrational universe and that we do have control over areas and I'm not a nay sayer but I also have listened to teachers and I don't regard people as objects therefore I don't think we are 100% certain to have the glorious relationship we desire with the specific person , but I do believe that if we desire a person, it means there is a vibrational match on some level that we can work on definitely
I would say that judging from his behaviour, he liked you and you were doing it right and in the right vibration and so was he and it was smooth but then judging from the text he sent you in the state he sent you it, I feel like your perfect partner wouldn't do that , and if he did do that, he wouldn't ignore your texts and would apologise to you. But, here's the thing, you shouldn't have sent those texts after because you were standing your ground about boundaries and if you had just told him clearly what you wanted and then let him apologise for being a bit of a brute, he would probably be back on that respectful love vibration...I would say the fact you sent messages trying to get his attention after it, well it sent the vibration of low energy and desperation a bit...like I'm sure if you switched it around you would see it yourself...But we've all made mistakes! Good thing you blocked him, it did actually regain your respect by cutting that cord for now and gives you room to work on getting a high value and deciding your boundaries ! Feel compassion for yourself, you've been through a tough time, you're understandably low and look at this as a blessing because you're probably not in a place quite yet to start dating someone you would really like a future with right now, mentally and emotionally! So look after you right now, for at least a month ! I say he did have real feelings for you, a Β person doesn't spend seven months trying to get to know someone just to have sex with them....unless they were like, Mila Kunis...or someone exceptional like that... I say the best thing to do is a deep calming meditation where you allow yourself to process it all and then get into a good feeling vibration then I wouldn't see much harm in taking action, if you feel the need after meditating on it. It seems like enough time has passed for him to get over the negativity, a strong action work well I would say, like actually calling him and saying that you'd like to catch up and would he be up for coffee .. something like that would be a confident action if you are in a confident place, more confident than a text, texts are stupid. He'll most likely respond well to it, honestly. If you get the answering machine, don't leave a message and just hang up without a text, let him call back. The worst that can happen is he'll never get back to you or respectfully decline , but you'll never know if you don't try Β
Or, you could wait for him to contact you, but judging from a lot of men's personalities, they don't tend to reach out if they feel guilty or like they might be rejected...Anyway, that's my opinion
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Thank You so much for responding ShootingStar!! On one hand, I am proud of myself that I got him to go from not talking to talking, we grew up together and went to school together, and he never even knew I existed, so you can imagine when he finally confessed that he always thought I was hot, I was floored by that. On the other hand, I would rather be told I'm beautiful and not hot...speaking of, who is to say I don't look like Mila ;) Some of my texts were not so nice in the end, and I basically told him that he screwed up and will regret it big time one day, and I made a jerk out of myself, but from here on out I will rewrite the story, and one day (hopefully very soon) be able to write part 2 of the story. I have heard from numerous teachers too that say that you cannot attract a specific person, but then I have heard an equal amount of people say that you can, I guess it all boils down to your belief, I'm going to keep the belief that I can be with him. It just may take me longer because with him there is no history there. I had to go from having no communication, to talking, to no contact to eventually dating, leave it to me to make things complicated, LOL. I do feel a strong pull towards him, and I have never felt this way with anyone else, if after 25 years I feel like this, there has to be a reason, either that or I'm just really delusional, which I tend to think I have a good head on my shoulders π