ShootingStar wrote:

If my ex from 6 years ago tried to use loa to attract me, he'd fail terribly because I have complete never-going-to-happen, no interest in him because I've moved on spiritually and he hasn't been around me to really know my new vibration, basically I'm not the girl he once knew at all. He could literally rs me all he wants but unless he was literally willing to change a lot about what he thinks of the world, taste in people and things, we would not be together now. From what I've heard about him, he's the same guy I once knew. He is just not in my vibration as a person of interest..."

This is exactly what I was referring to and meant. Thank you, ShootingStar, for phrasing it in a much more relatable way. Switch the situation around and that's where I am right now. If I'm on an exceptional level of appreciation and love and he's unaware of it then isn't that conflicting? Like you mentioned, your ex could rs you all he wants but because you've spiritually moved on, you wouldn't be together. Both parties have to be on the same energy level and wanting another chance at the relationship. If one has already moved on completely then.. wouldn't that cancel out what you're doing despite being much happier and stronger emotionally? That's what I'm finding confusing. Not the practice of what is being done. I can feel and believe to the ends of the world and back that I'm meant to be with him but if he feels differently and has spiritually moved on himself then what happens?

You just give up and hope eventually you meet the love of your life in someone else with similar or better qualities?

Last edited by camber (5/07/2016 9:29 pm)

I think that if you're  asking questions and looking for reasons why you cannot attract your ex back, then you will not attract your ex back. I believe the reason so many people are not successful is because they have already put ideas in their minds that it's impossible or just having far too much resistance. Resistance that they might not be aware of!  Nothing is impossible​.
About free will, you're not trying to control anyone, just aligning yourself to match their frequency. If you have very strong faith, you love that person and just know that you are meant to be together, then plant it into your subconscious, hold that thought and at the same time enjoy your life, be open to new love that's even better  and the energy will start moving so you get your desire.Become aligned the universe will orchestrate it to happen.

Last edited by Cheer (5/08/2016 3:02 am)

The reason that Abraham/ Bashar etc ask you to focus on the ESSENCE rather than the actual specific person is really logical.  And in fact ALL of them actually do say that you can attract exactly who it is you are wanting.  The REASON they advise you to go general instead is because they know the path of least resistance to what you want can and will ONLY EVER come when you are happily imagining your perfect romance.  Most people cannot do that. There's simply too much backstory,  too much resistance, doubt, anger, distrust etc.. The faster route to what you want in that case us to simply drop the thought of that person "weighing you down" and focus on a purely new, incredible relationship. Do that, and BAM.. you'll probably get your ex and every other ex and a bunch of new suitors to choose from as well. It's the releasing of doubt and resistance. That's the only thing standing in the way of what you TRULY want.

camber wrote:

Read a few articles and forums about people asking the same question with conflicting replies. Some say it's intuition while others argue if you have to ask, you probably know it's time to give up and move on.

In doing so, does that mean you don't believe in LOA and what it can do? Every so often, you see people who try for years to get someone back and the first thing said to them is, "You have resistance you don't know about." What if you don't and you simply just aren't on the same vibe as what you're trying to attract/manifest? Does that mean you're also doing it wrong and the Universe is acting upon subconscious negativity?

It's been nearly a year since I last spoke to my ex. I only started actively trying to get him back since January. Rarely think about him and when I do, I'm always overcome with a sense of peace but there are times, I think - There's been no contact or attempt to even reach out to me. Am I being silly? I know my hesitance is going to be pointed out. Just wondering if anyone else has felt this way about giving up and moving on. What kept you pursuing your beliefs even if there was no tangible proof your actions, challenges/games you were doing, or anything else was working. I'm more than aware it's about me and my happiness. I'm quite content but I do miss my ex and wish we had the chance to begin again.

There are two ways to look at the "when is it time to give up" question.

1. If you are thinking should I give up then there is still some doubt there that you can manifest what it is you want. Giving up implies that you don't believe it can happen.
From that point of view I would say re-evaluate and see if there any doubt/resistance. Ask yourself are you in a true state of allowing.

You can only ever be in one of two states about something, you either want it or you don't. If you decide you want it then you have to be in a state of allowing. This requires faith, belief and patience. There is no time scale for when something is going to appear. So for as long as you want something whilst it's not in your physical reality you inner state should be in a state of knowing that It's coming. You don't know when, but you know it will manifest. During that time of waiting for it to materialise you need to be at peace and contented in your knowing. You get on with life. If you are thinking its time to give up then you don't believe it's coming. Realign your belief and remove the doubt.

2. Is it time to give up the effort not the intention. Sometimes when people put LOA processes into practice they end up becoming a chore and then create resistance. The simple way to look at something is if it doesn't feel good stop doing it. So maybe the active attraction you have been implementing is what is not sitting right with you. So actually what you need to give up is the effort. You've set your intention now let it go and have faith that it will come to you. Sometimes surrendering is your best move.

There are so many methods when practicing LOA consciously, but you have to get the process that works for you. Some people can set an intention and forget it, when it comes it comes. Others have to do visualisations etc to get them-self into alignment with what it is they want.

well camber, if you were desiring a red Peugeot (car) and ended up with a Mercedes Benz or a car a lot more superior to the one you wanted, I don't think you'd complain you didn't get your original desire! So with people, and this is honest, I've always found myself 'upgrading' as in, getting closer to what I want more. There were times I took a bit of a back step, like short term dating a guy who just did not fit my bill but I ended it, so I can't ever go back from my ex in terms of what I truly want. My ex happens to be a close match to what I want, he is the prototype, ergo my chances of attracting my ex back while being in the vibration of what I want is extremely likely ! However, my chances of attracting someone else who matches his and my vibration is also extremely likely...and I HAVE attracted people in the same vibration to him over the course of the last year. However, here's something I thought about this morning that can also answer your question logically yet sticking to the LOA theory....

If you met *John* and you fell in love and John left and then time passed and you still wanted John back but in the meantime, John had changed certain things about his mentality, he may have gotten  a bit more boring, or stunted, or less idealist, less light hearted, a bit broody, basically some things about him had altered to make him another version of John to the John you know, then by thinking you're attracting John, you're actually not attracting him because something in his vibration has changed but by 'attracting' John, you will attract Bill, who happens to be in the same vibration that John was when you fell in love. If you keep your blinders on and say you only want John, you won't go for Bill, even though Bill is actually really the one you want.

I think the couples who come back to each other in years to come are the ones who actually stick it out to the end because they managed to grown and blossom and retain the inner essence that both wanted consistently without effort, they are actually soulmates. So if you attract back John as John after time has passed substantially, then it will be the fact that you and John will always be a vibrational match to one another, or, soul mates