Well hmmm.....I can only relate up to the point that he is dating someone else. My darling only mentioned her once to me and that was it. Never really went into detail about how much he loved her. But what I normally do is acknowledge the thought and give it no feeling. I keep getting this weird feeling, I don't know why, that they will end sooner than I think. Maybe because I am more relaxed.

Even so I don't really pay attention to it. I know at first when I did the visualizations of the both of us, I felt wrong because I felt like I was disrespecting the relationship. Then I remembered that I deserve to be with the person I want to be with. I know it is not what you think, but at the same time, what can be love to him can actually just be infatuation.

The relationship is really not important. Your relationship is important. How about you try and imagine him saying those things about you instead? Turn the tables around. Be the center of attention, she is just a small part of a bigger story as someone had told me.

Oasiscalm wrote:

aj110214 wrote:

Hey lovelies!!!
I'm sitting here daydreaming about my guy but sometimes the image of him and the new girlfriend come to mind. He says he's soooo in love and that thought gets me super down. My question is, how do you guys align? What are your tips and tricks?

Thank you loves 

Don't allow thoughts to continue. When they come up dismiss them. You have to learn to take control of your thoughts.

Do what feels good to you. When you are generally feeling down or bored what do you to perk your mood up.

Yes, get rid of those negative thoughts as quickly as possible. When I'm feeling off I listen to music, meditation audio and read LOA/spirituality related articles and forums. Just do whatever normally makes you feel good. If you're having trouble controlling your thoughts meditation can help with that. Oh and spending time with positive people and pets helps me too!

ShootingStar wrote:

Yeah so I'm in a similar position and though on a very currenty reality level it's not changed yet, I realized lately how it seems in this day and age, most relationships are transient. People run through new things and then look for something newer and different, because unlike the 1950's, we are less likely to put up with other people's flaws and less likely to stick it out for the long run unless we're really persuaded we have a good thing going on....a good thing in this day and age? Ride or die love and loyalty....that's where you come in But don't get yourself upset over thinking about something that no matter what, won't matter in 5 years, it's meaning is something much more to you now because you're in it and it's ok to feel it, but you also don't have to You don't even have to live in another reality to escape it, live in this one, with good knowledge and wisdom about the ways of the world. Even the reddest rose dies, every dog has it's day, repeat these mantras with a smile...but let that dog have that day or it will stay longer, back far off and show you're totally supportive, wish him well with an earnest smile and bow out gracefully for a while, when you do come in contact, make sure your words are always spoken with truth and loaded with meaning and authenticity and vulnerability, but make them short too . That always helped me get my ex back

I really wish I can help with this situation a bit more. I am reading what you are saying, but even though I am in this situation he only mentioned her once and seems to solely focus on me. I am grateful for that, but wish I can give more advice for others in this situation.