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Oasiscalm wrote:
holistichealing wrote:
happyinlove wrote:
communication is the best. I am going to ask the universe for better more meaningful communication. I feel like I get so nervous and just think about my want that he doesn't get to see the real me. I know he would fall in love with that me. How I am everyday, so I am asking for the universe to let him see that. I know there would be sparks and he would be in love with me again. Focus on those positive things and the love you have for him. He will come to you for sure.
It's crazy because I wanted him to fall for the true me too. He always mentions how kind and sweet I am, as wellis as how amazing it is that I can express myself.
It's funny not just you holistic, but many people put a post up and people reply saying they need to focus on themself and their alignment. Then the person replies still talking about the person they are trying to attract.
The key is to listen to those words, "focus on yourself". The other person's qualities and actions are not important. You are the driving force in getting what you want.
It's seems like people are writing the equivalent of "I'm staring up at the sun and its blinding me, help me" then they get replies "ok look away from the sun" and then they reply "yes but the sun is so pretty I'm still staring at the sun and it's still blinding me"
You can't focus on the guy with needy desperate vibrations and expecting any positive movement to occur.
LOA fundamental principle is improving your perception of your reality. It's about what value and emotion you choose to attach to outside elements.
Oh, I decided to one day to just relax in his presence and be myself. But this was a different inspired moment, instead of doing it to make him fall for me, I did it to break out of always closing up to him. I had to push myself outside of my comfort zone and now he treats me so much more sweetly and kindly. He even sent me a video to watch that he felt would make me smile. He is treating me so kindly and respectfully. I actually am enjoying this change in behavior.
I was not really looking for it, but to receive it feels really nice. I feel like there is a reason for all those synchronicities, I see them all the time. Then I see how he treats me, it is way different from previously. It is when you let go of desperation that the change occurs. He is on his way back to me, I know it.
I just need to be committed the rest of the way to the work of visualizing (I saw Veronica's newest video), following the Mindful Manifestations book, give gratitude for him and all that I have, do yoga and meditate, I am now a Pescetarian and he follows that diet now too, and just do things that make me happy. I am starting to act as if we are already living together too. But my main main focus is to feel good.
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Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
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"If you love someone let them go, if they come back then they are yours forever, if they don't then you were not meant to be."
How I define it, I let my darling go last time. Ever since he started contacting me, he has been sweet and kind. There is no tension between us.
I feel if there is way too much resistance between you and someone they won't come back. You need to really decide if they are the one for you then if that is how you feel. Like really think about it. I let go of fear and desperation, then he came back.
It does not matter what he is doing in his life right now, the fact of the matter is he came back a whole new person towards me. There is openness and honesty and every day it grows stronger. I am happy for this much with him. I am being aware of my thoughts. I still feel his loving energy.
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So I have some "friends" who are trying to change me, thinking about dropping them. I really don't want to deal with people right now because they are overwhelming me with peer pressure. I tell this to my darling and even he said I should concentrate on myself for now.
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He said:
Than concentrate on yourself
Than on others. How can u fix your relanships with others when u dont even wana see yourself in the mirror
(Yeah, his grammar and spelling is not the greatest. Spanish is his first language. But I love him in all his imperfections.)
Also, what he meant is that all the emotional energy I have been dealing with drained me to the point I look sick. No I am not upset, but my anxiety has sky rocketed from all the stress I bottled up. So glad Veronica gave me the book when she did.
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happyinlove wrote:
I personally don't mention loa to any of my friends really because I know most want me to move on. If it don't feel good I don't do it. Focus on feeling good one thing Veronica told me that helped during a hard week was imagine love just being loved and thag you deserve love ( not just from your person) just feel love. That helped a lot. If it's loa you are mentioning to them try not to. I mean if they are telling you to move on and stuff. Take some time to pamper yourself. I got my hair did and I feel freakin awesome π. I know I look cute. Do something like that for yourself the fact that you look sick isn't helping you get him back and more importantly it isn't helping you at all. You need to feel good.
I don't talk about the loa to my friends. They are just doing peer pressure stuff. But I feel like him saying what everyone else has been saying about focusing on myself before others was not a coincidence. This was coming from my darling by the way (I avoid calling him my ex at all times to train my mind to believe he is mine).
I was kinda happy to hear him say the same thing as everyone else. I just got a new pixie cut today, I like it. I guess what makes me happy about hearing him say what everyone else is saying is that he is confirming I can make things work if I focus on myself first. I enjoy that he was also direct about it.
I mean how many others have gotten the chance to hear the same advice given on here from the person they want? I wonder because somehow it made my day.
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happyinlove wrote:
Keep that happy feeling. It is good to hear that from him. But take his and everyone's advice on it for sure. Veronica said to refer to them as your love or something so it is a good start not referring to him as your ex. I would take some time now and just relax. Meditation is awesome.
Also I had a pixie cut before kinda miss it but I did have it for years. Grew it out because I just needed a change. But it was super easy!
Yes, I really like the Mindful Manifestations book. It is really helping with my anxiety. I also did yoga this morning and meditated with a love frequency on YouTube. Funny because it kept speaking about Manifesting Love in the frequency video. So it was perfect.
I also did my affirmations and gratitude. Treated myself to dessert, did my hair and am pretending that I live with my darling. Although, I always seem to feel his presence.
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My chest hurts today, I think it can be from anxiety, but I don't feel anxious.
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holistichealing wrote:
My chest hurts today, I think it can be from anxiety, but I don't feel anxious.
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If you don't feel anxious, your chest won't hurt from anxiety.
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Cherished wrote:
holistichealing wrote:
My chest hurts today, I think it can be from anxiety, but I don't feel anxious.
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If you don't feel anxious, your chest won't hurt from anxiety.
Yes, but I can be anxious one day and it can hurt the next day. I feel fine right now though. It is just my chest hurts.