Oasiscalm wrote:

holistichealing wrote:

Also, the synchronicities are popping a lot more than usual because my main focus is to feel good. But then I worry about him, not that he is bringing me down, I just don't want him to hurt himself. But then how else will he learn too. That is what I am trying to go with.

Maybe people thought you were hurt about his girlfriend because you made a post titles he has a girlfriend and then proceed to post eight posts in a row showing despair and hurt.

But anyway onwards.....

You now know that all you need to do is focus on yourself. His having or not having a girlfriend is of no concern to you because it's all just a tiny part of a bigger story.

Shooting star put up this video I think you would get a lot from watching it.

http://veronicaloa.boardhost.com/viewtopic_mobile.php?id=2700

Stay strong

Yes, I do understand that. Sorry for the misunderstanding, normally a person reacts hurt, but I was thrown off. I will watch the video,  thank you.

ShootingStar wrote:

When you do meet with him, the best thing you can do is keep in a good vibration and feel attractive in yourself. Every time my ex got a new girlfriend I switched up my vibration to one of confidence that I was a better option so when I would meet him while he had a gf he felt super attracted to me because I was just so natural and unaffected and happy and basically the girl he fell in love with so he would come back to me every time that sad and Romeo juliet type love doesnt keep a person wanting to stay for very long, even if they do love you, happiness and lightness and joy are the key

I get what you mean. I should give him the opposite of what he expected. I actually have an idea of what to talk about. One thing I know is that whenever I am that happy spunky person, he is more tempted to get closer to me.

Cherished wrote:

I have to say, from the other side of the world and from the limited information I have about you, what I DO get back from your vibration is utter confusion. I'm saying this with the kindest intentions in helping you to achieve your desires. So.. In my opinion your vibration is completely messy. It is difficult to gauge your energy- and I think ShootingStar nailed it when she said the Romeo/Juliet thing is unattractive.

You continue referring to situations whereby you wish to "rescue him" and "help him" and "teach him"....... and that particular vibe can come off rather badly when directed towards a man. He wants to feel validated, trusted, loved, respected.. he wants to feel like a MAN, and i don't feel that your energy allows him to tap into those emotions with you.

I think that you should become very clear in your intentions.
Love is not about fearing for another person.
It is not about fixing them.
It is not about attempting to "better them"
It is about acceptance, and unconditional respect.

I believe that if you clean up your story about him, and focus genuinely instead on his better qualities, you will have more success. Misery and sadness and tragic love stories need to go! Get happy, get aligned and be the woman that excites him wildly with your passion for life and fun 😊

I cannot argue with that, you are right. He always felt like he couldn't be the man he wanted to. I never meant to degrade of that role. I really do need to clean up my vibration, mainly on my end. I actually have a better ability of reading him now. His good points are that he is understanding, he is considerate, he is caring and he is very sweet. Maybe that was the real problem, that I made him feel useless as a man. I also need to be the woman that I want too. When I speak with him, I understand just a little bit more and more about him.

I am going to buy Mindful Manifestations.

Why even focus on that? You can't possibly know what happiness is to another person- in fact it's none of your business. Your only job is for YOU to be happy. Why ever contemplate "generalised unhappiness?" That simply doesn't make sense from an LOA perspective whatsoever.