Forget about him practicing LOA and YOU focus on LOA.. You won't get anywhere at all by nagging him. That is needy and unbalanced. LOA is rooted in UNCONDITIONAL LOVE, which begins with yourself. You are a magnificent deliberate creator here to have an amazing life. You don't need a flower, or an "I love you." Regroup and start vibing some of that Goddess Luminosity that is at the core of who you are. What you're effectively vibing atm is needy, so you are only going to attract circumstances that match needy. Do the work. You don't need ANYTHING except your alignment. Where is your appreciation of him?

No, you absolutely visualise what you want- that's how you create. But you have to be HAPPY and appreciate what's in front of you now as well. You can't be stroppy with him in your NOW reality, if you want things to improve as per your visualisations. You can't get a clue of his affections right now because you are wanting it to the extent it is messing with your unconditional alignment. You have to not NEED any clues, and just KNOW EMPHATICALLY that he loves you. That gives him the energetic space to come around.

Oasiscalm wrote:

Your vibration of neediness come about when what you desire (in this case affection time etc) comes from a place of insecurity and not from sincerity. 

Fundamentally it isn't wrong to want presents, tokens of affection, more time etc but the question is why do you want them. If you are seek these things as validation for your insecurity they will never fill the gap.

You have to look at what you want from him and question why you want those things, why does it matter to you, how will they make you feel. If your entire being is dependant on what he gives you then you are in a place of neediness and you will never win.

When you get your self love back you will feel the change. For as long as you focus on what's not there and what's not coming you create more anxiety and more negative energy.

A vague example is I have a friend,  she believes every guy loves her. If we go to a bar and a guy approaches her there is no doubt in her mind that he wants her and will fall in love with her. She won't sit around waiting for declarations of love because in her mind he loves her. That's how high her confidence is.

Myself on the other hand in the past have always managed to find a reason to doubt or downplay a guy's interest in me. So I would think maybe he's after one thing or I don't think he's looking for a relationship etc. This sort of thinking by default puts me into a needy vibe because I'd sit around waiting for him to say or do grand gestures to prove to me that he wanted me, when in fact I wanted this gestures to validate my lack of confidence. And it sets up a vicious circle because firstly you don't see the simple efforts and tokens of love someone is extending to you. And secondly when they do say what you've been pining to hear you lack of self confidence doesn't allow you to believe it.

This is why you have to bring the focus back on to yourself. You have to get your confidence sky high. And then you will see the situation in a different light and the relationship will change and flow some much easier.

 
This is fabulous xx

ShootingStar wrote:

SydneysMommy -forget about that little blip on the phone Next time forget about the blip faster, think about how you felt at that moment, he thought you were upset or mad and you got upset or mad for him thinking you were upset or mad..... So he manifested you getting upset and mad haha ! Don't let him do that again, next time if he thinks that just laugh and be super positive and say of course you're not haha you just got distracted Keep positive, keep aware of your feelings, you want him back....end goal, you want to be happy and have a happy relationship, so you need to radiate happiness and then he can respond to that ! He's not going to want to be with a woman who can't make herself happy or can't trust in his love, that kills a man's spirit and he won't stay. Women like to pick men up when they're down, men just want to know that a woman is picked up all the time with him by just his presence and love and attention. Before you go on your date, do what I do, and look in the mirror and smile the most genuine realest in-love smile you have and then laugh until your whole body and aura is just love and happiness. The second he sees you, smile that same smile and watch him melt. Tell yourself in your mind, 'he's going to fall deeply in love with me tonight, we're going to have a great time' and carry the date naturally. Be fun, light, flirtatious...not anxious, serious, resenting, nervous....be like you would be on a great 2nd date with someone you really like. It works for me every time And then don't stop, don't slow down on that momentum, keep that fresh , light happiness and joyous attitude and you will be happier in yourself and he (and everyone in the world!) will be so attracted to you

That's the thing, I'm not sure when we will get to truly date. We aren't in the same city the time I was doing the challenge he just so happened to be in our city for w months. I'd love to date and do all the things you've suggested. Matter of fact I DO do those things which opened up the conversation of dating again, but I find myself stuck in making the moves. Like he hints to things but I will be the one to drag it out. I don't know how to not show or express neediness of I truly do want to be courted back. Technically I'm happy that he came back. Just 3 months ago we weren't speaking at all. And I realize there's some time that needs to heal between us so I come here to help me out. I was the one chased before to being the chased is truly new to me...actually being vulnerable is new to me. So I can't figure it out at times.

I want to be adored as well and don't get it being needy but if it is and the only thing I can do is focus on me...it leaves me still as a single mommy with an adorable kid missing daddy but making our life work and all kind of awesome things have been happening I kid you not

I thank you guys for making me think differently, I'm annoying myself at times second guessing it because I'd normally be on to the next illuminating your list not mine and attracting all sorts of chaos and fun, lol

But he is different, not just because we have a kid, but I've seen our life, our marriage, our home and that's never happened to me before...sigh..ok ladies and gents I guess I can't think needy but think appreciation, because I do love he makes all the moves in communication and completely forgot he was never going to speak to me again.

I did forget about that and that is a super awesome thing to be grateful for.

Thanks guys

SydneysMommy wrote:

Another point is most people here aren't back in communication and we are, basically everyday...I'm actually very lucky!

 
There you go, good girl 😘 Change your perspective and your reality will change to match it. Appreciation of what is, and eagerness as you watch for more unfolding 💜