Hey!

I probably can't offer you the best advice but there was a time when I realized that my guy was on a dating site, I did not mention a word I didn't not confront him about it, I just told myself over and over again that anyone before me was a mistake, anyone after me would be a downgrade and after a while I didn't even bother checking if he was still active and just totally forgot about it, then a few months later he got off all dating sites as far as I know. So I guess the key here is to have confidence in yourself and know that any other girl is just here to show him who (you!!!) the right one is.
Just my two cents.

Last edited by es4life (4/11/2016 6:51 pm)

We all go on different paths to get where we need to go. If you both are going to end up together in the end, what does it matter if both of you get there in different ways? He's just on a different path than you (with another girl who he will realize is NOTHING compared to you), so give him time to realize that you're the end goal!

Sometimes the whole "letting go" thing is not about letting go of what we want, but rather, letting go of the details and having faith.   The possibilities that you list are indeed possibilities, but there are many other.  The other woman could meet someone else.  Or she could get a job in another state.  who knows.  Just focus on what you want and don't worry the details.   Tell yourself it will be good for EVERYONE concerned.  Show concern for the other person and hope/know that they will be happy with the outcome as well.

As far as  your own feelings of fear on his return, you have to work through that yourself.  Acknowledge the fear but as yourself, is it worth it to you to have him back considering the history of what has happened, or do you want to move on?  If you want to get him back even though he left you and has been with someone else, accept it.  It's OK.  You can both learn through the experience and it can be better than it was because of it.  It doesn't have to be a negative thing.  We learn through our experiences and mistakes.  The fact that he's coming back is much bigger than what he did while he was gone.   Affirm these things and  your fears will melt away.

if it helps to hear another's story.  I'm in a similar situation.  My love has been on dating sites and she even told me she was "seeing" somone.  but I have to tell you I don't give a crap who she sees of what she does with them.  when she comes back to me, that will show that she's tested the waters and decided she loves me.  our love will be stronger than it was.  sometimes you have to see if the grass is greener on the other side, to know that it's not and then you can stop wondering.   
 

Last edited by Love is Real (4/12/2016 2:10 pm)