Craigd88 wrote:

Lol no he doesn't. It's Tinder. He's looking for flings and easy women. Truth is the guy is hurting and is going to extreme desperate measures to get some new women in his life.

You don't find a settling partner on Tinder. Let him get with these desperate unattractive girls on there so he can realize what he had with you. This is a good thing, I'm a guy I know what he's doing.

He's out of alignment too bc he's on Tinder. If your are looking for someone on Tinder than you are desperate. Plain and simple. Raise your vibe, he will come to you.

This is exactly what I needed to hear Craigd88. So nice to hear it from a guys perspective. I just found out today my love was hooking up with a friend of mine this whole time that I thought I had been getting so close. I felt so good before. But it's good to know that it's just because he is hurting and so desperate. He actually texted me tonight and we've had NC, I mean he was trying to pick a fight about the whole thing, but I calmly explained to him that I had nothing to do with this and it wasn't my problem and he's allowed to do whatever he wants. Then I ended the conversation. SO I mean although he was trying to pick a fight, he already did come to me. And I know once I get my vibes back up, he's gonna come to me wanting me back and him being with this girl made him realize that, instead of him picking a fight with me. Now just need to work on not being angry with him, but i'm struggling with that a little bit. I absolutely still love him the same and want him back, I'm just trying to figure out how to get this anger to go away. I think it's by focusing on loving myself and knowing my worth. Thoughts?

Thanks again.
 

Grace4life- sending you love right there. It is good that you were being composed and let the conversation go without a fight. Well done. End of the day it is still us who is the most important

After 4 months, after the tinder episode yesterday. I decided to deactivate my Facebook.  Today I realise he deleted my number from his phone book cause I'm no longer on his what's app. Neither can I find him on my Facebook anymore. There was no way I manifested this incidents. At least if he blocked me on what's app I would be consoled to know he will unblock me some day. But now he deleted my number. Seems like he is done with me. Any thoughts how I can counter this?

PixelPie wrote:

^^(above)this goes for you too Grace 😄

Agreed. Thank your for taking time outta your day to help me out I'm already feeling better. Last night I did a PW and actually felt like we connected. I told him I forgave him and that he now needs to forgive himself. I could feel he loved me and I know he does. Then I forgave myself and did some Ho'oponopono, which I really recommend. 

This morning I felt weird but realized I am out of alignment, obviously. I forgave myself for that and then asked God to bring me some guidance. Then I ran into Cherished's post this morning about loving unconditionally and I decided that's exactly the point of all this. What happened to me yesterday wasn't a bad thing at all, it's moving me in the right direction of becoming the best woman I can become. This situation really really really helped me figure out EXACTLY my limiting beliefs, now all I need to do is remove them. My limiting beliefs are actually way different then I thought too. 

I also took the time last night to just FEEL all my emotions. I cried and felt angry and just let it all flood, because I knew I was going to create more resistance if I didn't address them. I realized that it wasn't my love being with other women at all, it was that I felt so unworthy of his love. And that is now what I am focusing on. Because I know I am worthy, I just gotta keep convincing myself until my subconscious feels it too. 

I also actually had a moment this morning where I realized where I am at with my love is a good thing for me right now. I am not angry at him really anymore, I know it's only been one night, but I am pretty good at tackling my emotions first thing and shifting my thoughts. Keeping my vibes up is a little harder, but I found when I tell my STOP BEING A VICTIM, YOU ARE THE ONLY ONE IN CONTROL OF YOUR FEELINGS, that I actually feel better. So not angry, but I like where I am because I've realized all this about myself. I don't want him to come back to me just yet right now, because I'm not ready and neither is he. I am deserving of SO much and I don't want him back until he's ready to give me what I deserve. I actually feel like finding out he has been with another girl is a step in the right direction for us. I mean, he reached out to me, tho it was not great, but I still had the chance to be in control of the convo and there's this weird little feeling that's telling me this is actually him trying to figure this out and he is actually gonna realize how much he loves me very soon. It was all because I'm changed my perspective. I could've been sad and said I should give up because he's with someone else, but HELL NO! i've put too much time into this and I love him too much. SO I'm actually thinking about it as a good thing now. I'm changing my story. 

Also, it doesn't necessarily feel better to feel this way towards him, but it definitely feels better then desperately wanting him all the time. I don't really know which one is worse, but I actually think by me getting angry at him, I lost all detachment I had to him and all desperation I might've had to wanting him back. I took him OFF the pedestal I had him on, and put myself ON it. So feeing a little bitter towards him is not good, I know, but it's good in the sense that I FINALLY recognized my limiting beliefs and the things I need to work on within myself. I thought I was all good, till **** hit the fan. And if I was really all good, it wouldn't have affected me the way it did. I am doing great though, I reacted for one night and now I am moving forward. 

Sorry that was so long, but I had to get it all out more for myself, but I hope someone can benefit from it too! <3