Has anyone ran into getting the I ex back to a place or reunion but find they haven't totally grown much?

So my ex an !  I have been spending a decent amount of time together. Not long dates but good talks, run errands and even talk bout going out at times. He hasn't totally unblocked me which leaves him as the conversation initiator. So it's all him.

Well through a message combo, I was frustrated opening a document and asked his help. My replies were short 1 because I was busy and 2 because I wasn't sure I would submit by the deadline.

He took out of context something I said and literally got huffy for whatever reason that disnt seem big enough. I believe it was holisticheallings post about remaining calm so I tried but realized this bad behavior is insane. So I released myself from the conversation.

Eventually he helped but didn't speak to me for the rest of the evening. We were supposed to do lunch today but he hasn't said a word to me after the misunderstanding.

This happens a lot. It throws me out of alignment at times because it's a constant meditation to attract all things, but can we attract their good behavior or actions or am I just rushing the process?