Cherished wrote:

You have to try and remember that you are creating all of this. So if it's not going your way, you have to step back and look at what fears are running the show. Obviously the main fear is that he is just using you for sex. If you are to forge ahead from an LOA perspective, you have to bring it all back to you. You have to try and balance yourself again by feeling your own power. Sometimes you need to sleep and wake up fresh. Or meditate. Try to really focus on anything around you that you can appreciate. I know it's difficult when things are out of whack, but trust that you know how to bring it all back together. There is only one way forward, and that is in love. Whatever steps you take, ask yourself if you are acting from fear or love. If it's fear, stop. If it's love, go ahead. Whatever plays out has already been created, so if it's not to your immense liking, don't sweat it. If I have a bad day, the next day I usually experience a little leftover "fallout" lol, and I simply roll with it. I find it amusing that I created drama for myself, and I allow it to play out minus any judgement. Then I do my utmost to raise my vibe any way I can, on other easy topics. It always fixes everything eventually 😘

I get that, I even tried removing myself from the conversation. Well it's said and done know. Today is here and I'm exhausted from meditating because I kept myself up trying to regroup.

I'm at a list at how to go about my thoughts until then...I even dreamt the reason for our mishap is because he isn't in love with me anymore. I wish I had another day to shake it off.

So as of now how would you approach it... I sort of feel like ok, I'm still sexy to him and he can't help it although he just can't say it his overreaction was to deflect it on me as an attitude of frustration.

But I am troubled with visualizing the outcome of love with him from today's meet up.

The meaning of any situation you are faced with can only be concluded by you. That means if you see your current situation as him using you for sex and not respecting you as a woman, then that is what the situation will mean and continue to be.

There is a cognitive process termed Confirmation bias, essentially we look for information to confirm what we believe whether it's true or not. So right now you are in a thought space of negativity and you will only seek out information to support this believe.

You can only change this situation by changing your outlook on it. You have to accept what happened, be ok with it and not use it as a measure of his feeling for you. Reframe what it meant. You had an intimate experience with someone who you love deeply and loves you deeply.

All the things you are thinking he thinks about you are your own projections about yourself. So ask yourself why do you feel like. Why are you not seeing your own true worth?  Change you feelings about yourself. Affirm to yourself that you are worthy.

As for his responses, there are so many reasons why he said what he said. But its not your job to sit there and decode them, especially when you are in a state of fear.

I would agree that you should refrain from sleeping with him until you are in a more stronger inner state and where you aren't using your interactions as a validation of your future together.

Let the stress go, go light and be free. Enjoy the time you spend with him, not because it's going to bring you together quicker but  because life is beautiful and every moment you have you should be reaching to make it the best it can be.