lar019 wrote:

Yes, Costa Rica! I've never been, but I've heard great things, so I'm pretty excited.

He reached out to me at the beginning of the month, after 4 months of no contact, and him ending things with another girl - that was a huge WIN for me. But when he came back, he seemed a bit hesitant, and I definitely focused more on it, so after a week, he told me he didn't think he was ready for a relationship and should leave me alone. It's been good, cuz I think I've gotten better at maintaining my vibration - it doesn't seem to be so up and down. BUT, in that week that we did talked, he brought up Costa Rica, more of a "hope you have fun, when is it again?" kinda thing, but I definitely take it as a good thing! We've been doing an on & off thing for a bit, and normally he comes back practically wanting to marry me, so I think that's what really shocked me when he came back so cautiously this last time. But the one time he came back, he told me that I should've showed up at the airport to go with him to Bolivia, even though we were broken up. He'll have no problem coming to Costa Rica after getting back a few days/weeks before!!

I sometimes want to reach out too - I just keep thinking, "ok, I need your passport number now, so that you can come on this trip - because I know we'll back together then." But, I know and think it's better for him to come to me - it'll definitely make for a better reconciliation! I would suggest holding back, and not. If you still feel that need all day tomorrow and again on Friday, then go for it. I stick to the 48 hour rule with those kinds of things. If it's inspired action, especially with reaching out to someone, the universe will continue to inspire you and give that feeling. Otherwise, it's likely just a negative urge coming on.

 

Awesome. Thanks so much. Yeah, we have been broken up for about a month and have had no contact until I was inspired to reach out to him because he was having some family issues and I wanted him to know I was here to help him despite what kind of terms we were on. Thanks to some great guidance from Cherished, I reached out and it worked out in my favor. He really appreciated it, but then quickly changed the subject to me, asking lots of questions about me and holding the conversation the whole time. I didn't do any work and it was very surprising, but yet expected. This was on Sunday. Then the next day, I was feeling great because of lots of things in my day and I ran into him 3 times or something crazy, we continued our texting conversation AND we had our first in person contact/conversation since the breakup. It was a HUGE day. That was Monday. Yesterday though, things fell flat and I didn't see him or hear from him. Today I am got back into alignment and had the opportunity to see him once but no conversation or contact between us. It was still a great experience though and I am grateful for anytime I get to see him! So, I think I might just be trying to get things going because I saw success and just want more and for it to all come together perfectly now. Its so much easier to see everything coming into flurishion when we have a tiny bit of success. I know he still loves me. I know he missed me. I connect with him spiritually all the time during visualization, PW and Burn. I see the look in his eye when we do see each other and the color rush to his cheeks when he sees me. I see and feel the shift in energy when he is near me. I even pick up on some guilt/regret coming from him and I think that may be why he's historically been kind of stubborn, but I focus on just the positive energy only and just imagine him so madly in love with me and can't be without and can't stop thinking about me. So you're right, I think I will not reach out because it would be the best success of this manifestation so far if he were to reach out to me without me doing any work or initiation at all. I'm enjoying knowing that it will come  

Thank you for your advice. Please keep me updated! I am so excited for you. Great things are happening <3

I understand the time pressure it's like there's this really important human event and I have to keep thinking beyond and with my spirit magical self more!

I read something in a Neville book once about how putting a time on it suggests you don't already have it, so you're not in the vibe of total trust.

One way to get around this Bentinho Massaro said in a talk once, is to imagine what you want happening as if it's a PAST event, like a lovely memory, for some reason that can seem easier for some.

I've managed to do it a few times and it's weird because when it happens you almost forget you were worrying it wouldn't happen, the 'fake' memory is powerful it can be a bit confusing when you're looking back haha.

You start to realise that the feeling of things actually happening in our reality and the feeling of them happening in our imagination will become INCREDIBLY similar, like twins in your mind.

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