Two of my biggest limiting beliefs used to be my feelings of anger towards my person, my judging of other people, and my feelings of unworthiness towards my person and other people. These were things I never thought I’d overcome, but I worked hard, and after a while something finally clicked, and so many of these feelings just evaporated.
 
How did I overcome these beliefs?
 
I realized life is kind of like a mosaic, where we’re always passing through various states of being. These states of being could be analogous to the Emotional Guidance Scale, or just the phases of life in general.
 
The mosaic has different segments to it, with each one representing a different state of being.  Anger, compassion, loneliness, happiness, success, etc. etc. etc. These are all represented on the mosaic.
 
Thing is: even though we’re on a certain segment right now, we all have the ability to move to another segment whenever we want.
 
In other words, we all have access to every point on this mosaic.
 
We all have different goals though, so we all find ourselves on different segments at different times in our life. But ultimately we all seek happiness, enlightenment, freedom, etc. We all just choose different pathways to get there. And we all go through different segments as we try to figure out the best possible path for our lives.
 
When I started looking at life in this way, so much of my limiting beliefs disappeared.
 
Are you angry with someone because they were rude, insensitive, self-centered, etc.? That’s just the current part of the mosaic they happen to find themselves in. We all have different situations in our life, and different circumstances that cause us to act a certain way. This is our place on the board at the current time. But we can shift back and forth VERY easily.
 
In board games there is never one specific way to win, there is always multiple paths to victory. But sometimes you have to make a mistake, or take a risk, or play it safe, or go somewhere unexpected. But in the end you win, and the path got you where you needed to go in the end, so why worry. It’s the same on this mosaic of life. We all have our end goal (happiness), but we all take different paths to get there.
 
So when it comes to your person, just know that you’re on a different part of the board than they are. But that just means you’re taking different routes to where you need to go. How could you be angry at someone for that? This is as much their journey as it is yours, so why hold it against them that they have to take a different route to happiness than you do?
 
They’ve blocked you, they’re cold, they’re with someone else or they’ve isolated themselves from you? Why get angry when you know they’re going to end up with you at the end of the game anyway? These are just the pieces of the game that they need to take to get there.
 
If you could move forward in time to the end of the game and see that both of your paths lead to one another, would you really be so angry at their present behavior? Your paths intersected before, why not again?
 
And it’s impossible for two people to walk the same path to happiness, so why get angry that they’re doing something different from you. Nobody can access the same segments at the same time in the same order, it just doesn’t work that way. And why would you want that anyway? Why not just clone yourself.
 
This helped me let go of anger. We all slip and slide, and have the potential to make mistakes just as easily as one another, so why hold this against them? It’s just holding these things against ourselves really.
 
A friend of mine has an off-and-on boyfriend she’s been with for years. Last summer he broke up with her because she’s been his only girlfriend for so long and he just wanted to see what else is out there. So he left her, found another girl, slept with her, and realized how much he needed her. So he came back to her completely changed, but she told me it’s still not enough because he doesn’t regret leaving her. She keeps asking him and he keeps saying he doesn’t regret that he left her and found this other girl. She told me all she wants is for him to regret this decision.
 
I was just like, “What?!?!??!?!?!”
 
That was his path to her, that was his progression of segments on the mosaic that he had to take to ultimately lead him back to her and his happiness.
 
NEVER hold where somebody is on the mosaic against them. It’s just not worth it.
 
Now as for those feelings of unworthiness, how can you feel unworthy when you literally have access to every part of the mosaic?!
 
You want to be a star athlete, you can do it.
 
Want love, go get it.
 
Want to be a scholar, go do it.
 
Want everyone to love you, go make that happen.
 
There are no boundaries stopping you except whatever stories have been conditioned into your brain to hold you back from having these things.
 
Isn’t that what unworthiness ultimately comes down to, feeling as if there are boundaries that exist between you and what you want that don’t exist for other people. But with LOA, none of these boundaries exist. Sure, it might take some effort and discipline to move across the mosaic to the places you want to be, but if you really want it you’ll make it happen.
 
Did you feel like the person you were with was the most special amazing awesome person in the universe, and thus poor little you surely wasn't good enough to have them?

ERRRRRRR!
 
Change that story right now. You have the right to any patch of the mosaic you damn well want to travel to. You want the hottest guy in the world. You want someone who disappeared from your life. Why the hell can’t you have them? You can go anywhere else that ANYONE else can go to.
 
Go specific. When it comes down to it, aren’t we all just a bag of bones and skin? So how does that make any one of us better than the other? We all breathe, think, love, pee, poop, etc. There really isn’t that much of a different between us all.
 
Now go super general: there’s this HUGE mosaic we all have access to. Again, not much of a different in terms of what we’re all capable of doing. We all just choose different segments we want to travel to.

You aren't better than anybody and nobody's better than you. Look around. You see people who are super happy. You think you aren't allowed to be happy, too? Wrong! Why can't you be that way? We're all born with the same potential for happiness and greatness.
 
Last thing I want to say is that our journey in life involves going to a multitude of these segments, that means the good and the bad. Honor and love and respect every single segment of this game board. Love. Laugh. But also make mistakes. Not for the sake of making them, but to learn, and thus to live.
 
I’m not saying actively go and seek all of these out, but if you experience heartbreak or death or some other bad event in your life, be grateful that it’s giving you the opportunity to light up another square on the board. You get to learn and grow and progress with each event—isn’t that something to be grateful for.
 
So drink hard. Date a lot of people. Read a good book. Go out. Stay in. Run hard. Pig out. Do whatever feels right (or wrong) at the time, but just enjoy the ride, and try to get something out of every segment of the board you may find yourself on at any given time. And don’t judge anyone for where they are on the board, because we are all connected, we are all on the same mosaic, and we all want the same things.
 

I hope this helps!

Last edited by TheGiver (3/22/2016 9:24 am)