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Colonel Roosevelt wrote:

For anger, don't deny it. Don't repress it. Take a deep breath. Feel it. Accept it. Channel it into something that makes you feel better like listening to angry songs, watching an action movie, exercising/sports, writing, going for a walk, helping someone else - whatever helps you channel it or makes you feel better. Meditate on the feeling of anger and soothe yourself with an affirmation like "Yes, I feel very angry, and it's OK. I accept my anger now. Yes, I also feel jealous and sad, and It's OK. I accept them now. I feel afraid too and it's OK. I accept them now. It's OK to feel what I feel because I know that it won't last forever, I know that I am stronger than my fears, I know that I can trust myself to take care of myself and get through this, I know that everything will work out in the best way possible as long as I soothe myself, as long as I believe in myself." In time, you'll see that your anger will begin to dissipate and you'll feel better. As for ignoring this girl, I don't think you should ignore her. Think about her and ask yourself what about her makes you feel bad. That will tell you where you're lacking confidence in yourself. When you observe those negative thoughts, you'll get a better idea of how to build a stronger belief in yourself thanks to better feeling thoughts about who you are, and then your confidence can grow from there.

I love this, as I am in the same situation this really helped me out.  What I find helpful too is picking out the good qualities about myself. Thank you for this!!! ❤️🤗💜 exercising and listening to music makes me feel really better about myself

Last edited by Angellynn (3/20/2016 4:57 pm)

Colonel Roosevelt wrote:

Oh ****....almost forgot....try Focus Blocks, I've been experimenting with them and they do help to feel better:

http://www.inwardquest.com/questions/5901/manifesting-experiment-2-the-focus-blocks-method-manifest-what-you-want-by-deliberately-feeling-better-about-it

I've been doing them slightly differently than it's explained above.

First, I'll write down what's bothering me. By knowing what we don't want, we know what we do want which leads us to....

Second, I'll write down what I prefer and how I want to feel instead (love, confidence, inner peace, trust, freedom, etc.) It helps to keep your thoughts focused since you know how you want to feel.

Third, I'll write down better-feeling thoughts, going as general or as specific as I want as long as it helps me feel better on this subject. I'll keep going and write down as many better-feeling thoughts down as I want (Stingray recommends just 12, I keep going as long as I want). I keep going until I feel more peaceful about the subject or if I have a better-feeling thought that really calls out to me, that really feels better.

Cons: Takes a little more effort to write it out.

Pros: It's easier to identify and remember the better-feeling thought that will help you "make a vibrational shift" or build a stronger belief.

For example, this is one possible focus block (and yeah, I have been through this and survived it):

What's bothering me right now: The girl I liked is dating someone else. I was doing such a  good job of letting go and believing in myself, and now I feel bad for being jealous and still having feelings about this.

How do I want to feel now: I want to feel free, loved, attractive, and confident.

Better-feeling thoughts: 1. It's OK to feel jealous and angry, it won't last forever.

2. I have ways to channel and release my anger, like writing, work, and exercising.

3. There is a bigger picture to this. I am being guided to know what thoughts I need to let go of so I can manifest my heart's deepest desires.

4. I can relax and trust that everything is working out, things have always worked out for me before and they will again.

5. Girls have liked me before once they got to know me. I can be very attractive when I'm in the mood to be.

6. People respond very well to me because of my smarts, jokes, and warm personality. I know that this is what makes me attractive.

7. I've learned to be confident in myself in tougher times than this, so I know that I can be confident now as well.

8. I know how to make myself happy by just relaxing, following my path in life, and doing what I love to do. I can always find a way to be happier now and make today great.

And then I just keep going, jotting down as many better-feeling thoughts as I can until I feel calm or better about the subject. I then pick the best feeling thought from that focus block and just let that be my "anchor" to calm my mind whenever I start to get negative. I also use that better-feeling thought to build a new, better belief. For example, my best-feeling thought here might be "People respond very well to me because of my smarts, jokes, and warm personality. I know that this is what makes me attractive," and then I'll just focus on that thought. New, similar thoughts will come and build a tapestry of better-feeling thoughts and over time it will become a new stronger belief in yourself, you'll be very relaxed about it, and you'll be less bothered by stuff like this.The key is to write down thoughts that feel better and are believable to you and then focus on the thought that feels the best or remember it throughout the day whenever you're starting to feel bad.



 

 
This is really interesting I will definetly have to try this!