Hello,

I hope this doesn't come off wrong, but I would not try to avoid thinking of her. I would try to consider changing your thoughts to he being a trail run to get himself together while you are getting yourself together for the return. I never want my feelings to not be validated so I complete didn;t wanna dismiss it. But the girl isn't the goal you know. The goal is the relationship. So maybe while you are worrying you change it and say he can get all the mistakes out with her, so you guys are a better fit when you've gotten it together ..Hopefully that helps.