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Any tips on how to move up the scale from doubt. It's beginning to be a real pain in the ass. Lol. I'm googling success stories buto they aren't helping me raise my vibe to manifest simple stuff.
Thanks guys
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The problem with trying to search your way out of doubt is that you'll only attract more doubt! That's your vibe, so you can only match more of it! The only way to do it is through FEELING. So you need to get off the topic, stop looking for evidence and do something that raises you up. When you're stuck, it's time to go more general and think about easier topics to bring you into alignment.
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Cherished wrote:
The problem with trying to search your way out of doubt is that you'll only attract more doubt! That's your vibe, so you can only match more of it! The only way to do it is through FEELING. So you need to get off the topic, stop looking for evidence and do something that raises you up. When you're stuck, it's time to go more general and think about easier topics to bring you into alignment.
I think you nailed it....what we ALL seem to be doing, "looking for the evidence."
I thnk honestly, this is the phrase that makes us doubt and feel insecure, is that we are looking for a small little nugget of hope to show us its on target or working.
Thank you for saying that, because it isn't a lack of faith, it is a complete EXPEDITION to find a bit of evidence. I llike Oasiscalm's position on "just knowing" it will all work out.
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Craigd88 wrote:
Any tips on how to move up the scale from doubt. It's beginning to be a real pain in the ass. Lol. I'm googling success stories buto they aren't helping me raise my vibe to manifest simple stuff.
Thanks guys
Well I do have a small bit of success at work. I had been the bread winner in my relationship, and through out it i sort of resented HIM for not trying harder and I paid for everything. After we had our kid, I lost my job and had to rely on him. It was miserable. Now I was the one resented. And we have even broken up because of it.
The success!
I had been working a temp job and coming in everyday as if I was already an employee. I was familiar with the position but i never needed a moment to ask much because I researched and focused on what was going on and what could be better. I didn't cowar in conversation and I made sure I was noticed in my efforts to get the job done. Pretty much, I did not act like a temp.
Well just yesterday, I was offered a permanent position, with higher pay. It is not the pay as I made at my last job, nor do I have my daughters father back, but what I can do is ease off of him financially and take care of things myself. In this i realized, maybe I did manifest our demise by resenting him and that I did lose my wealth and abundance because I was not living and appreciating what I had. But now, I am forced too and it is humbling.
We have spoken twice in the month we been separated. and the last time we saw eachother, he kissed me goodbye, nothing romantic, but definielty not the closed door I was used too. And when I tell him I got a better offer financially coming through, it will ease the tensions of knowing he is more to me than a atm, much like how I thought in the past as well.
I hope this is a bit helpful. It is not the mountain yet, but I believed I concoquered the mole hill of temporary financial drought.
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Craigd88 wrote:
Any tips on how to move up the scale from doubt. It's beginning to be a real pain in the ass. Lol. I'm googling success stories buto they aren't helping me raise my vibe to manifest simple stuff.
Thanks guys
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It may sound counterproductive but instead of trying to move up the scale from doubt you can acknowledge how you are feeling then look at why. Ultimately doubt comes from fear, so what is causing the doubt? What do you feel the most anxious about? When you can identify what that is you can work on turning those fears isn't positive beliefs.
Accepting and acknowledging your doubt reduces the power it has over you.
This is a good article about acceptance and commitment process - which is the basis of Echart Toole approach in the Power of Now is. It will give you the skills for life to address doubt and practice mindfulness
This is an overview of the framework
PSYCHOLOGICAL FLEXIBILITY & THE SIX CORE PROCESSES OF ACT
There are six core processes in ACT:
Connection means being in the present moment: connecting fully with whatever is happening right here, right now.
Defusion means learning to step back or detach from unhelpful thoughts and worries and memories: instead of getting caught up in your thoughts, or pushed around by them, or struggling to get rid of them, you learn how to let them come and go β as if they were just cars driving past outside your house. You learn how to step back and watch your thinking, so you can respond effectively - instead of getting tangled up or lost inside your thinking.
Expansion means opening up and making room for painful feelings and sensations. You learn how to drop the struggle with them, give them some breathing space, and let them be there without getting all caught up in them, or overwhelmed by them; the more you can open up, and give them room to move, the easier it is for your feelings to come and go without draining you or holding you back. (Technically in ACT this is called "acceptance".)
The Observing Self is the part of you that is responsible for awareness and attention. We donβt have a word for it in common everyday language β we normally just talk about the βmindβ. But there are two parts to the mind: the thinking self β i.e. the part that is always thinking; the part that is responsible for all your thoughts, beliefs, memories, judgments, fantasies etc. And then thereβs the observing self β the part of your mind that is able to be aware of whatever you are thinking or feeling or doing at any moment. Without it, you couldnβt develop those mindfulness skills. And the more you practice those mindfulness skills, the more youβll become aware of this part of your mind, and able to access it when you need it.
Values are what you want your life to be about, deep in your heart. What you want to stand for. What you want to do with your time on this planet. What ultimately matters to you in the big picture. What you would like to be remembered for by the people you love.
Committed action means taking action guided by your values β doing what matters β even if itβs difficult or uncomfortable
When you put all these things together, you develop something called psychological flexibility. This is the ability to be in the present moment, with awareness and openness, and take action, guided by your values. In other words, itβs the ability to be present, open up, and do what matters. The greater your ability to do that, the greater your quality of life β the greater your sense of vitality, wellbeing and fulfillment.
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Craigd88 wrote:
Any tips on how to move up the scale from doubt. It's beginning to be a real pain in the ass. Lol. I'm googling success stories buto they aren't helping me raise my vibe to manifest simple stuff.
Thanks guys
Sometimes, oddly enough, reading too many success stories creates more doubt for me. Why? Because it becomes too much about methodology and other people's journeys. It's the same as reading up on working out. You can read up about lifting, muscle mass, diet, etc. all you want, but it won't change things until you put in the work.
It's the same with LOA. I found that when I take a break from forums/stories/articles/etc. I actually don't worry as much about LOA and believing.Β
Just focus on your own life. Think of something random you want, put the intention out into the universe, then forget about it and let things surprise you.
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