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Love is Real · 3/17/2016 12:55 pm

I am in the "ex back" boat. My situation is pretty extreme. My wife and I have been married for 30 years and separated for 9 months. We have kids. I consider this the fight of my life.

I can't do the "no contact" thing because we have kids. we see eachother once a week or so at a school event or sports event for the kids. We have to discuss logistical things all the time.

I've been learning and doing LOA and I will say there have been some tiny improvements in our relations since I started. However nothing indicates she is having 2nd thoughts. In fact she is plowing forward and I see evidence of this fairly regularly that I can't ignore.

Anyway I am really trying to do the LOA thing and one thing I'm having a hard time with is ignoring the current reality. If I could do the "no contact" thing that would be possible I guess. But I have to confront reality on a nearly daily basis and I can't just completely ignore it. For example, next Monday we are meeting with a mediator to discuss some financial issues. I can't just ignore it. I can't sit in the meeting and tell myself "this isn't happening." When we agree on financial issues and I have to write her a check, I can't say "i'm not writing this check." and when the kids walk out the door once a week and I know I'm not going to see them again for a whole week, I can't tell myself "this isn't happening."

Any advice? thanks.

SydneysMommy · 3/17/2016 2:23 pm

Hi,

I noticed no one answered yet and wanted to say I am in the same boat and completely know how you feel. There are some clips on youtube from a guy name Larry Bilotta that have helped me completely in the relationship that I WANT TO HAVE WITH MY KIDS FATHER. Because the LOA needs action as well, there are super aweome ideas he has in his program about how to be an "enviornment changer." He explains how being a choas kid (our youth) contribute to our actions as adults. And how one of the people in the realtionship, with consistency and motivation , excude positive vibrations at all times to change the enviornment.

Maybe sometimes being vulnerable helps. Sit in the meeting and open up, mentally and verbally, or simply ask, "what do you want, what do you need, where did we go wrong?"

I am not of course an expert but when you have tried all else, try honesty. And honestly discover yourself. I read the "Love Is," SCRIPTURE EVERYDAY AND FOUND THAT 1 WASN'T 100% LIVING UP TO THAT WITH HIM.

Read it, and embrace it and be it and show her it:

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boost, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self seeking, itis not easily angered, it keep no records of wrong. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, alway perserves. Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease, where there are tongues they will be stilled where there is knowledge, it will pass away.

Oasiscalm · 3/17/2016 2:33 pm

The first step to ignoring your current reality is to get to a place of acceptance. You acknowledge that today is what is, the past is done and no longer needs to be revisited. Then acknowledge what your desire is and live for that.

Then get into a state of expectations of what's to come. Keep your focus on your desire and don't let your current reality be an indication of what's to come.

I found the easiest way to ignore my current reality was to be almost dismissive of anything that was happening that contradicted what I wanted. So next week when you are at mediation, you sit there and accept that this is just a temporary situation and it is merely a stepping stone to the better future you are holding firm to. Your internal state just has to be in a state of allowing. So when you are writing out that cheque you are be calm within yourself and just know that your desires are unfolding how they need to.

Ignoring your current reality doesn't mean burying your head or being delusional, it more about not attributing significance to what doesn't reflect your desired intention. You just let it wash over you with no attachment or fear.

Cherished · 3/17/2016 4:42 pm

I have lived this exact scenario, and I think what helped me the most is trust. Where you are is where you are. Trust that it's exactly where you need to be. Know that this is the unfolding of what you've always wanted. When uncomfortable things happen in your current reality, allow them to pass without judgement. Don't label things as good or bad. They are par for the course, that's all. You have stated your desires. The universe can deliver everything that you want if you can hold your belief steady. You need to cultivate a trust in the universe, where you can recognise that EVERYTHING that is happening is the best, most efficient, gentle way towards what you are desiring. It may feel like things are going wrong, but they aren't. Trust the journey. As Oasiscalm said, let the current reality wash over you without fear. Know that things are shifting in your favour. 🌠

Love is Real · 3/17/2016 7:03 pm

thanks. i do trust the universe. i believe in love. I believe we have a bond that is bigger and stronger than any anything that appears to happen on this physical plane. I believe love is the strongest force in the universe and can overcome anything. I believe that she is choosing to look away from that bond right now but it is so real that at some point she will see it again, and I will be there with my arms open.

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