1. If he is not your Facebook friend, block him. Yes, block him. If you are friends with him on social media, block all his profile accounts. This is the first step to healing. I did this and this is the best decision that I ever made as the prelude to letting go completely. 

2. Set your intention. What is it that you want between the two of you? What version of him would you like to have in your life? What kind of relationship do you have? What do your friends and family think of the two of you together? Write them in details.

3. Visualize this in detail. If you have trouble visualizing, write down your visualization in detail and record it using a recorder. I usually us iPhone's Voice Memo. Then visualize as the audio plays in the background. 

4. Reach for that unconditional feeling in your heart for all things and beings. You have to wait a couple minutes to really feel that. You will know because there is a sense of calm and letting go that you will feel. You will also feel so much compassion not just for him but for everybody.  Use this unconditional love energy in your visualization. 

5. Set a HUGE intention about what you want. Consider it done.

6. Let it go. Do not think about it anymore. Do not fear when you let go. Do not fear about losing control because it is only when you lost control that you will complete the creation process of your desire.

7. Love yourself because you are literally a magnet. When you love you, others will love you as well and you will keep meeting people who love themselves. When you are happy, others will be happy for you as well and you will keep having experiences to be happy about. 

8. Lovers always come back. All my past loves came back. My ex from 13 years ago came back to tell me I'm the greatest woman he had a relationship with. My ex from 2 years ago came back to tell me he misses me. My other exes came back to ask me either to travel with then, take photos with them, have meals with them, and meet up with them. 

Why did they come back? Because I once wanted them to come back, and they didn't because I wanted to control the situation. It was only when I TOTALLY surrendered that they started to come back and they continue to be in my life as friends. 

 

Last edited by Vera (3/07/2016 6:23 am)

Vera-

Can you expand a little bit on completely letting go of the situation? Is it just putting it out there and considering it done? Or should the practices continue to be practiced everyday? Not just out of trying to get what I want, but because I actually enjoy doing them. I just don't want to be trying too hard. 

Also, your advice #1 about blocking your ex...If he notices, I don't want to give him the wrong idea like I don't wanna be with him. Should I still consider unfriending for a while? I know it is just how you feel about a situation, but If I am imagining my life with them, wouldn't I be friends with him on social media? When I see him post things, it doesnt bring me stress or anxiety, I have trained myself to feel love for him everytime, genuinely. 

Im sure I am asking questions I already know the answers too. That always seems to happen ;)

With MUCH love and thanks! I always enjoy all your posts!

Vera wrote:

Grace4life wrote:

Can you expand a little bit on completely letting go of the situation? Is it just putting it out there and considering it done? Or should the practices continue to be practiced everyday? Not just out of trying to get what I want, but because I actually enjoy doing them. I just don't want to be trying too hard.

You manifest in your life what you truly believe in. "Letting go" is not letting go and forgetting him per se. The more appropriate term is "surrender". In particular, surrender to the Higher Power, or the Universal Mind, or the God IN YOU -- yes, this Higher Power is IN YOU in its entirety and in everything and everyone around you. 

When you surrender the situation to the Higher Power, you send out a clear message that you ABSOLUTELY and COMPLETELY trust that it will bring to you the best version of your desire.

When you surrender, you completely remove yourself from trying to control, arrange, and orchestrate everything about your situation, especially when you have done so much already.  Instead, you let the Higher Power orchestrate everything for you. When the Higher Power senses your absolute and complete faith in its ability to create whatever it is that you conceived in your mind, the creation process becomes effortless because you are not meeting it with resistance. 

You can continue to practice visualizing until you can imprint in your subconscious a new belief that you will have what you want with 100% certainty. 

Also, your advice #1 about blocking your ex...If he notices, I don't want to give him the wrong idea like I don't wanna be with him. Should I still consider unfriending for a while? I know it is just how you feel about a situation, but If I am imagining my life with them, wouldn't I be friends with him on social media? When I see him post things, it doesnt bring me stress or anxiety, I have trained myself to feel love for him everytime, genuinely.  

If you think your love and relationship are dependent on social media, then anyone can shake your faith and love on a whim: someone can unfriend you and you become helpless, and when your guy likes someone else's photo, you wonder if they no longer love you. Don't let your life be controlled by social media, status updates, likes and dislikes, etc. 99% of what happens on social media are not real.  These superficial platforms don't matter at all from a metaphysical perspective. Only your own thoughts matter, so don't assume things that you don't want to materialize in your reality.

Careful with your thoughts. If you entertain the idea that he'll think you don't want to be with him anymore, then he will have that exact same idea in his mind. 

You can plant ideas in his mind by thinking for him. Think what thoughts you'd like him to think as soon as you unfriend or block him. He will think of the same thoughts the same exact moment you think of those thoughts. This is because we all share One Mind (Law of Divine Oneness). 

You block him so you can focus on you 100% and not be derailed by checking his social media and wondering what he's up to. You become mentally disciplined when you block ALL the noise. His social media accounts are NOISE. Until you are 100% unaffected by his actions and posts, you have no business looking at his social presence, especially when you really want him back in your life. 

Someone else mentioned on this forum that this journey should be not about getting your ex back but finding yourself back. I believe this 100%.

It is when you 100% focus, take care, and love yourself that everyone will come crawling back to you. 

Lastly, read this book. When I was discouraged, this book lifted me up so high that there was no turning back: http://www.law-of-attraction-haven.com/support-files/the-law-and-the-promise-neville-goddard.pdf

Thank you so much! My phone actually broke about an hour ago randomly, lol, so I'm taking that as the Universe just handed me the last step for me to manifest this desire! By taking one of my sources of communication and social media away, I was able to completely clear the resistance I was creating by waiting on a text from him, seeing his social media here and there, etc. And I actually couldn't be more grateful! The Universe just GAVE me what I needed to push through this last place of resistance!

I am definitely going to read that book, as two individuals have now mentioned it to me JUST today, but I also think that I am not just on the right track, but I'm there. Changing my perspective from "letting go" (which seemed scary to me at first) to "surrendering" to a higher power just changed the whole game for me. He is not going anywhere. I've known that to whole time. I am becoming happier and happier everyday and I could not be more thankful for what I have learned/been taught! 

I will keep you updated because there is definitely a success story in the making/I'm confident it is here and I'm also confident I will be able to post it extremely soon.

Thanks again, Vera. I continue to be inspired by your words everyday!

With much love and thanks!!