Everythingisbeautiful wrote:

Hi, I would forgo trying to get a text and just focus on the relationship you want with him. if you're living and enjoying the feelings as if you're in a relationship with him, then just assume the feeling that you two are communicating and texting. It sounds like you're on right the track. Keep it up. Have faith!

Thank you so much for your reply and for your advice! I will just continue to image the relationship and be grateful and positive and act as if I already have it. But it is very hard...so, I guess my next question is, how do I ignore the current reality to only focus on how things are going to be?

Cherished wrote:

I'd be focussing on the end result as well- why limit yourself to a text? 😊 You have to be ok with where you are right now. More than ok.. You have to find your happiness NOW, and assume the confidence and joy of a person who already HAS what they want. That's the energy that will draw him back in. When you can make peace with where you are, your vibration will raise and the acting "as if" becomes much easier.

Wow, that definitely speaks to me well. So being okay with where I am now and finding happiness now, even though he's not here, definitely makes sense, but it is hard. I spend all my days being grateful and writing my blessings down, I watch LOA/Secret videos constantly, I have learned from Christian Carter, cleared my abundance blocks from Christie Marie Sheldon, watch Veronicas videos constantly, listen to Abraham Hicks and Neville Goddard, I have read the Secret multiple times and am now reading The Magic again, I feel grateful for myself and who I am. I do feel happy about the things I have in my life now, I honestly genuinely think I am doing all that right.

But it feels like human nature to think my full happiness won't be here until I get what I want. To write that out sounds a little bit selfish, but its not meant to be, more just that I'm not getting anything or any affirmations that he's coming back to me or anything new is coming for me and so having that patience is hard. When I start to feel down, I remove the negative thought and move on with my life, but its always a residual feeling left over of I am happy about the things I have now and I'm not just going through the motions, but I want my relationship back so badly that it feels like something is missing. 

How do I find balance between acting as If I have him, even though he's not here? Do I always just wait for him to reach out to me? I do the practices of The Magic/The Secret and say thank you to his pictures at night, I have a gratitude rock for him, I send myself pretend texts messages like Veronica suggests, when I do get to see him at school (we are college students) even though its from afar and he seems like he wants nothing to do with me, I still feel grateful for that opportunity to see him. I leave him space in bed and in the closet like we used to do before. I'm trusting in the Universe/God that everything is happening as it should and none of these are setbacks. Patience just seems to be my biggest trial right now.

Thanks for everyones help!

For me, I just try and focus on the FEELING I would have if I were with my love instead of trying to play the mind game of pretending that we are together because I know the reality as it is. But if I focus on the feelings I would feel if we were together and feel them NOW, it seems to be much easier.

TheGiver wrote:

Cherished wrote:

To me, what made the difference was changing the perspective from "I'm doing all these things to get someone back" to "I'm doing everything I can to get back to ME." I got myself to a stage where I was no longer looking around to see if it was coming. I was utterly happy with ME. It opened up so many doors. When you're still doing processes to try and manipulate a situation, you are still in the wrong vibration. That's still lacking. You have to do the processes because you ADORE doing the proceeded, and you get enjoyment from them, regardless of any outcome they may or may not produce. Can you feel the difference in energy?

Very true. Grace4Life you seem very focused on processes. You want to get to a place where you realize how powerful LOA is, and that it will make your life so awesome, with or without your person. It's such an empowering feeling when you get to that place.

Thank you for your reply! How do you recommend getting there then? Maybe I am focusing on the processes too much and need to let it just play out?

Thanks!