Lanie Stevens wrote:

iinikkii wrote:

So I just checked out lanies forum.. Think I like this one better. Reason being is because I got confused with one of the post where she says whatever about free will (if they choose not to)... So which is it? It either works or it doesnt.. Free will or not.

Everyone has free will.  Think about it for a minute.  You may really, really, really want that piece of cake but you abstain.  It doesn't mean the desire isn't there.  You love cake so the love is there, too.  But you ultimately have the free will to choose whether to have it or not.  

My books can put the desire, passion, thoughts and feelings there but the man has the choice to respond or not.  My ex didn't respond for a year.  He is definitely hardheaded.  But when he did he had more love, more passion and more commitment than he ever had!  He missed me every day and thought about me constantly.  He used his free will to not contact me but it didn't mean anything.  Eventually, he could not resist the temptation.  I was that delicious piece of cake in front of him 24/7 because I used my technique on him.  LOL

Big Hugs,
Lanie

I loved this.  There have been times I have missed and longed for a person but had the will power to stay strong and not contact. It didn't mean they were not constantly on my mind though.

I'd rather it take longer for the person to come back, like Lanie' situation, and have it be 100x better, than to have him come back to the same issues and problems, desperation, and negativity we had before. 

On a side note this is my 5th day of RS and even though the target hasn't contacted, 2 ex boyfriends have.  Is it normal to get sleepy while doing RS?
 

Sam wrote:

iinikkii wrote:

If I rewrite my story, and I choose my reality to be one where we are madly in love with each other and he can't get enough of me.. Then free will has nothing to do with it. I thoughtt free will was nothing but an illusion? .. Just sounds a little contradicting

I agree with you. To me, the concept of free will contradicts the law because there are no exceptions to a universal law, and it's always working. That means people are constantly influencing others whether they're trying to or not.

But since everyone creates their own reality, if free will resonates with Lanie, then it will be a factor in her reality. In your reality it doesn't have to be. It's all about finding what resonates with you. If it feels wrong, then it's not your truth. Go with your gut!

I would not want someone to be my captive and in my reality if they are creating a different and conflicting reality then I would not want them to come back to me.  It's true that we are constantly influencing and inadvertently controlling people but if that is a full-time, all consuming "job" then we have different  and conflicting realities.  

I believe the purpose of a relationship is not to imprison the other person but rather to share a mutually rewarding reality.  If you are resonating and vibrating at the same frequency with your partner it's much more satisfying.  

Last edited by Lanie Stevens (2/27/2016 7:21 pm)

iinikkii,
I sort of feel like you are looking for reassurance. It's not a bad thing. We all have done that at one time or another. There are plenty of stories online (here, the secret website, PLOA forums, Powerful Intentions forums) where people discuss how they've got their loves back. Just keep in mind, it is that needy vibration that keeps the things you want apart from you. Your desire needs to be out of love, not ego. Not based on "oh, I was hurt, so I have to get him back," or "I'll teach him to leave me," or "I want him and only him, and if I don't get him, then I'd rather die alone" kind of feelings. It needs to be a vibration of "I love you, and I appreciate you...and I want nothing but the best for you, and I want to invite you to share an amazing life with me" kind of vibe. It absolutely works, but it works when you've learned how to center your energy and be truly happy.

There are  a couple of ways to do this: One way is to just dive in and live as if you have what you want. Your visualizations are so real and amazing that you open your eyes and you are flying high all day long. You think, react to the world as if you have what you desire. Neville calls this living "from the wish fulfilled." You've become the person that has what you want, you know that you can feel those feelings within yourself at any time, and you are at peace with everything. You know it's coming, so...who cares? You are living it up!

The second way to go about it is to put that intention out there. You want to be with so and so again. Boom, order has been placed. I like to think of this as the restaurant analogy. You've placed your order, now just get busy, enjoying friends and family. Don't keep pestering the cook while he's preparing the meal. It's on the way, so no worries! In this situation, people tend to just immerse themselves in something that they are passionate about and THAT raises their vibration through the roof. They are loving life and enjoying/appreciating things around them so much that they almost forget that desire that they put out there. Then boom, it shows up on your door.

In both of these cases, the common thread is: learning how to center yourself and be truly happy with what you have. Cherished calls this pure appreciation. In both cases, you have essentially become the person that has what they want. What does the person who has the love of their life do? Well, they aren't looking constantly for a specific relationship! They have it! When you have what you want, you are inspired, full of life, constantly looking for things to do that are fun! Dive into your passions, find things to do with friends. Appreciate the beauty of the universe around you. Find ways to improve yourself! These are the things that people do when they HAVE what they want. When you do these things, you emit that vibration of HAVING. That vibration is the attractive vibration that opens all of these doors to you. This vibration opens the door for your specific person, or anything else that you want. But, your vibration is something that cannot be faked. It has to be genuine. Find things you are passionate about, focus on those things that are important to you. Decide which of these two methods helps you feel as if you are that person already and just learn to ENJOY and LOVE the life you have right now. Learn to love yourself, and when you can truly love and appreciate others without conditions...when you can love unconditionally (i.e. "I love you, but I can survive without you") THAT is when you are emitting that attractive energy. That's when all of the amazing things happen. That's when your guy will feel how amazing and incredible you are. That's when he'll say to himself "wow, I'm getting this awesome vibe from her...I want to get close to her again." That's when he'll be blowing up your phone (and probably other guys as well!) Anyway, happy to have you aboard. I hope this makes sense
 

Last edited by DCS82 (2/27/2016 11:13 pm)

I'm not an expert by any means, but...have you ever gone into a room where two people just finished a heated arguement? The air just feels heavy and awkward. You are picking up on their vibration. I've had a number of wonderful ladies try to get my attention in the past, and I just wasn't  interested. Every time they would message me, I could just feel "I need an excuse to talk" or "I need to get him to visit" coming through the messages. My gut feeling was always confirmed by other friends who would tell me things like "she's constantly talking about you and asking us to help her hook up with you" after the fact. I don't KNOW how we pick up on the vibes in others, but we do. Those vibes don't make you want to talk to or see the person. They make you want to get away. Some people do it unconsciously, some are more sensitive to it.

My question was how does someone you DONT see or talk to get a vibe from you. Yah it makes complete sense when you are talking with people or see people and you get a vibe from them, of course I've experienced this..