I really need help on this one. Maybe I am not noticing something.

I think you are really efforting too much. Perhaps you could take you attention off him for a while and not worry so much about his every move? You have to be confident in your vision of him, and you need to let all of the past issues go. Stop bringing them up, and trying to analyse them.

Instead of trying to raise the vibration between you, you need to purely focus on your own vibration.

If you don't doubt, there's no need to worry. But I think that you DO doubt based on your post. It's one thing to SAY it and it's another to SHOW it.

This whole thing requires one thing: discipline. To be specific, you need to discipline your mind and not let it wander. What is happening right now is that your mind wanders: it assigns meanings to your guy's actions. You choose to see something that is neutral as negative. Remember that a thing only becomes negative when you choose to see it as negative. 

You sound so fearful of your future with him, and your fear sends out negative energy that doesn't make the situation better. 

Right now, work on your confidence. If you start now and commit to do it -- as in seriously do it -- you will be in a better situation by mid March or April. You easily give in to your emotions and that's not being confident at all. You need WILLPOWER so to speak.

I am sure you already know the basics of reality creation so there's no lack of understanding of this principle on your part. The real question is, how serious are you in applying what you know? How often do you practice what you know? What you need is consistent practice to achieve dramatic results. 

Watch your words, spoken or written, about your relationship. Only focus on what you want. Don't bother with things that you do not want -- they are not worth your time. Don't bother with WHAT YOU THINK is wrong. Ignore it, or focus on other things, and move on. 

Learn to love unconditionally. Be happy for him. Be genuinely happy for him. That means you have to be happy with where he is, what he is doing, and whether he only wants to see you once a week. Don't impose conditions coz when you do, you simply create resistance. And he can easily feel that negative energy from your resistance. 

Instead, create in your mind that idea that he wants to see you everyday if that's what you want. Create in your mind your perfect situation, your ideal scenario. Use all your senses. You already know this technique, I think. 

Let go of expectations. Why do you expect him to act a certain way with you? That's not loving him unconditionally. 

When you learn to love yourself, others will love you no matter what. Your friends, relatives, and your guy will love you. Self love should be your priority right now. You are more important that anyone else because unless you learn to take care of you, you won't be able to take care of others. 

Last edited by Vera (2/24/2016 12:25 am)

Vera wrote:

If you don't doubt, there's no need to worry. But I think that you DO doubt based on your post. It's one thing to SAY it and it's another to SHOW it.

This whole thing requires one thing: discipline. To be specific, you need to discipline your mind and not let it wander. What is happening right now is that your mind wanders: it assigns meanings to your guy's actions. You choose to see something that is neutral as negative. Remember that a thing only becomes negative when you choose to see it as negative. 

You sound so fearful of your future with him, and your fear sends out negative energy that doesn't make the situation better. 

Right now, work on your confidence. If you start now and commit to do it -- as in seriously do it -- you will be in a better situation by mid March or April. You easily give in to your emotions and that's not being confident at all. You need WILLPOWER so to speak.

I am sure you already know the basics of reality creation so there's no lack of understanding of this principle on your part. The real question is, how serious are you in applying what you know? How often do you practice what you know? What you need is consistent practice to achieve dramatic results. 

Watch your words, spoken or written, about your relationship. Only focus on what you want. Don't bother with things that you do not want -- they are not worth your time. Don't bother with WHAT YOU THINK is wrong. Ignore it, or focus on other things, and move on. 

Learn to love unconditionally. Be happy for him. Be genuinely happy for him. That means you have to be happy with where he is, what he is doing, and whether he only wants to see you once a week. Don't impose conditions coz when you do, you simply create resistance. And he can easily feel that negative energy from your resistance. 

Instead, create in your mind that idea that he wants to see you everyday if that's what you want. Create in your mind your perfect situation, your ideal scenario. Use all your senses. You already know this technique, I think. 

Let go of expectations. Why do you expect him to act a certain way with you? That's not loving him unconditionally. 

When you learn to love yourself, others will love you no matter what. Your friends, relatives, and your guy will love you. Self love should be your priority right now. You are more important that anyone else because unless you learn to take care of you, you won't be able to take care of others. 

I agree that my mind still needs discipline. Negative thoughts are a constant habit of my mind. But the only real way to get rid of the habit is to focus on what makes me feel good. There is this positive drive inside me that is waiting to come out. She has been telling a lot of what you said.

Not to feed into the situation and just relax, that it will pass by much sooner if I don't look into what he says. This part of me proved a point on this twice. The first time he didn't want to speak with me for a month. So that part of me said give it a few days and he asked to see me within two days after.

The second time he apologized to me and said he has just been upset this month. I feel what brought the fear on about our future was when he said he doesn't see one with me still. It discouraged me because I thought he really was seeing it. So I fed into what he said again.

You are absolutely right that I need to work on my willpower. Willpower is something I lack and yet I know I have it. I know I am capable of raising my vibration and always feeling that drive. I started working on affirmations on self confidence to help me raise my vibration, so I feel good about myself.

I definitely need more practice because I am not always practicing the law. Plus, I am not putting all my energy into it. You can say I half ass it because my mind wanders too quickly on other things. But I really want to get into this because just having the knowledge that I am in charge of having the life I want is amazing. I really need to listen to that part of me that's driven.

I normally delete his messages that I feel will bother me, so I don't keep reading it over and over again. Apart of me is always saying to not focus too much on these situations and just let them pass. That once I keep going with being positive it won't even happen anymore. Also, to stop seeing it as a problem and instead an obstacle of sort that is challenging my faith.

I should really learn to be happy for him because all I do is worry about him. Is he eating right? Is he safe? Is he getting along okay? Is he happy? I worry too much about him, which I really need to stop.

Yeah, it's because I have not been focusing on doing these exercises in which he always wants to see me and misses me. I keep telling myself to, but then throw it off. I need to really let go of my negative thoughts because they are what keeps holding me back.

I expect him to act a certain way with me because I forgot how he was when he was happy with me. I just keep paying attention to when everything is a problem for him even when things are fine. I know now that I shouldn't pay mind. If I don't remember how his happy self is I should recreate an even better version.

I know that I should love myself first. I should always put myself first and love myself because through this I can love others without worry.

Last edited by holistichealing (2/24/2016 7:51 am)