Take a deep breath man. Relax. Everything is going to be ok I promise. The girl is very confused right now and that is ok. You need to make decisions that are good for YOU and YOU alone. Focus on YOU. Dont do anything just because you want her. Do it because you want to be happy regardless!

Sweetie    When a person goes into mourning  good advisors tell them not to make any major decisions for a year   because your perceptions are all cloudy   and you can do things you later regret.  Any of us  working toward getting our ex back are in mourning   and actually its worse emotionally ( much worse ) than a physical death.   Because of the obivious flood of emotions and  perceptions.

Take a couple of steps backward and regroup   Veronica has told us  its dosent help to initiate contact   

You have made several moves hoping for a specific outcome   but because you  did with varying intentions    i.e. worry   fear  remorse   even hope is wishing   which is not high vibration   

Its time to focus on you   where you want to live   what you want to do     Later on when you are back with your love     you can shop for a home together    right now  it needs to be about you    otherwise buying a home to please her   wont bring you joy   it will just be a place that needs her to feel complete 

Its going to be fine and good  it really will    I have faith that we all will  have our desires come to us  

 

ForgetYourEvil wrote:

barbidoll wrote:

Sweetie    When a person goes into mourning  good advisors tell them not to make any major decisions for a year   because your perceptions are all cloudy   and you can do things you later regret.  Any of us  working toward getting our ex back are in mourning   and actually its worse emotionally ( much worse ) than a physical death.   Because of the obivious flood of emotions and  perceptions.

Take a couple of steps backward and regroup   Veronica has told us  its dosent help to initiate contact   

You have made several moves hoping for a specific outcome   but because you  did with varying intentions    i.e. worry   fear  remorse   even hope is wishing   which is not high vibration   

Its time to focus on you   where you want to live   what you want to do     Later on when you are back with your love     you can shop for a home together    right now  it needs to be about you    otherwise buying a home to please her   wont bring you joy   it will just be a place that needs her to feel complete 

Its going to be fine and good  it really will    I have faith that we all will  have our desires come to us  

 

Thank you. I love this.

I'm going to forget about the home... and regroup... focus on healing... and focus on saving money and my own personal goals.

You are absolutely right. I can shop for a home with her, together, when I'm back with her. For now, I need to continue to heal.. clearly, this decision (buying the home) is not the right one.

I will just back off and let her come to me when she's ready..

I really needed this.

you are very welcome   We are all here to shore each other up   and help us on the road to success!!!

ForgetYourEvil wrote:

I have major major mood swings. I go from crying, to happy, to upset, to elated.. in a period of seconds..

Like, right now, I just tore up a photo of that house and I'm thinking, "I'll save more... screw it.."

But, I really liked the house.. so I'm like.. "why did I do that?"

But the house is close to my ex.. and she's not with me right now... so I'm like, "That was the right move."

But then I'm like, "Yeah.. but she'd want to pick out the house with you.. when the time is right.. so that was smart.. just stay put and do this right.. no major decisions right now."

I think the best approach is to just leave this be... let the house go... and let my ex go... and just focus on me and what makes me feel good.

Yeah,this waiting hoping for ur ex to see the daylight is VERY frustrating ..
Everything seems so great for us ..
Why can't they see / feel it ???

I'm there at this very moment ...like a good few of us i guess

But as people have said.....
You've got to try to focus on the future....DON'T look back !
Back is pain
Forwards is joy

Easier said than done ..but if you're doing great....
Isn't she going to want to be part of that....
Rather than finding someone that has been waiting for her !

Move forwards...live well...ENJOY life ...

She'll find you ....dont worry !!

(I think i've actually written this for myself just as much as i've written it for you !!)
 

Last edited by peppo (2/21/2016 1:06 pm)

LovingLight wrote:

I had posted earlier last year, that buying a house near her is not a good idea. Plus it wud be so romantic to just buy it together.

What does your heart say about this house - is it special only because it is close to her?  What if she moves from there? Meditate on it. 

You could just text her that in the end you didn't go for that house and looking somewhere else - make it casual. And then cut off all expectations from that point. 

You are in a bad place now - and it has nothing to do with her - it is always about US - not THEM. Your vibration is low and you are attracting negative situations.

The best way to keep your mind off this frustration is Keep Busy with work... Enjoy your life... Live in Peace man... Just forget about her and pamper yourself.

 

Yep. Not going forward with the house.

Bad move.

I'm feeling so much better now.

I'm not going to message her anything. Just gonna move on from here and get back to where I was vibrationally.

I got this.