This is wonderful!

Thank you all for your positive feedback.

Colonel Roosevelt wrote:

Nice post! I wish more people would read this. Some thoughts:

I don't think it's necessary to let go of the person you desire, but the goal is to feel better and better and keep feeling like you already have the love you desire. That's what visualization, affirmations, and scripting are for. If letting go of someone makes you feel better and more confident in yourself then go ahead and do that. Sometimes, we don't let go because we're scared we'll lose but letting go (detaching) to get our confidence back can help us a lot (and removes the fear).
 

I don't mean to let go for ever. I think just a week can be helpful. I first thought I will try it for a week, but now it feels to good to give it up. One can go back to actively work on attracting someone back at every time. Why not having a bit fun since then? You are right, it is not necessary to have success, but I see so many people who are too focused on their ex and it would be good for them to let go for a while.

Angellynn wrote:

Wow Sanshi! I love you, you always say the right things! I like how detailed and structured you were with this post. Reading this really put me in a good place because I am not so worried or anxious about it anymore and lately I have been focusing on myself a lot and doing fun things and meeting new people and trying new things. I feel like I have my life back and I am a whole new me! It feels wonderful. I still try to act as if I am in the new relationship too from time to time but sometimes I forget and i just do me and live my life. I don't really visualize as much I think Ima go for Doing that 1-2 a day and space it out but when I do visualize I need to be alone and at a feeling good place. Like tonight I did yoga and when we were relaxing and breathing I thought it was the perfect time to visualize about our new relationship together because I was calm and relaxed and can focus more. So that definetly helps for visualization! And it felt amazing. My lover has texted me a few days ago asking for a favor but I just really didn't feel the need to respond or even open up the message because I don't want her to think that I'm always gonna be around and available all the time so I thought to myself and said " no I am not going to repeat this same pattern" because what I have noticed a few weeks ago was that I would Have her initiate contact with me first and we would send like 2 messages each and she would never text me back and so when she asked for a favor i said to myself " no I am not going to let her just think I am always available to do things for her and I am going to make myself a priority" then a few days later she messaged me again saying " I know I am always in and out but I'm sorry" and I still didn't reply or open the message and it's been 4 days now that I haven't responded to her. Today it was tempting but I am trying not to repeat the same old patterns and things again that always fails. She's the type to say sorry a lot and I use to always give in to that so I am just doing the opposite of what my old self would normally do. I know she will message me again and when I am ready I will reply back but I need to give her a chance to miss me and wonder. Thought I should share that but this is an awesome post!

Wow, you grew so much since I first answered to your post. You are on the right way, that's for sure.

TheGiver wrote:

Can we have a round of applause for this post? I've been feeling this same way the past few weeks. I'm glad you shared this, and weren't afraid to be blunt with everyone about the pitfalls of focusing so much on your person.

Your posts amongst others inspired me to write this. I think my lines of thought matched with the vibration of the forum atm.