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I've been feeling great 99% of the time since I joined here. I learned non-attachment and have practiced every day getting on that high flying disc. Today I randomly had the urge to check her instagram account, and noticed she'd unfollowed a few accounts. I checked through and I see she's decided to unfollow me. Thought it was pretty odd considering I haven't posted anything in weeks, and haven't liked any of hers. Also it was in the last couple of days since I've been feeling great. Should I take this as a sign that she's being affected/showing resistance? It's just an unusual situation haha
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It's tough to know how to feel at the moment. I can feel myself wanting to go back in to old ways and negative thoughts about it, because that's how I'm conditioned, and how it seems I should react. But logically I know to stay in a good mood. Can't really calm my mind enough to meditate yet.
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I prefer to look at it this way: you're been really feeling so great lately, but now you've met a small "setback". But is this really a setback? The Universe (ultimately you) could be showing you "Hey, you're still attached here. You still depend on what she thinks about you to be happy. Now's the time to look at this and see how you can be more free and feel better. You're ready to really get closer to the core of feeling better and better. Trust that this is part of the process." Also, maybe this girl decided to unfollow you because she can't handle your good vibes lol. She might have strong feelings for you and is trying to handle them by becoming more distant (for now). By the way, does all this liking and following really matter? It doesn't. If your goal is get back with her than none of that matters. Just keep doing whatever you can to get to a feeling of peace, freedom, and confidence and then visualize/script and get into the feeling of having the love you really desire, not to force things but to give yourself the feeling you want. All that matters is that you get into that feeling, that knowing, one day at a time. If you feel sad right now, then go ahead and just accept it, listen to a sad song, it's OK to feel sad and frustrated, feel it, soothe yourself and focus on relaxing and feeling better and better, listen to your intuition/feelings - it knows how to help you soothe yourself. The more you fake being happy, your repressed feelings will become depression or explode like a dam ready to burst. That's why I don't believe in faking it till you make it, it's good to accept how you feel, express it, and keep finding better feeling thoughts that guide you to feeling better and better about love.
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I'll admit I feel a bit stuck. I feel further away from my manifestation, whereas before I felt so much closer. I don't want to be just another person who wastes time going back and forth, I want a successful resolution.
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Strawberry wrote:
I'll admit I feel a bit stuck. I feel further away from my manifestation, whereas before I felt so much closer. I don't want to be just another person who wastes time going back and forth, I want a successful resolution.
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If that's what you want, you're going to have to accept your frustration, and soothe it. Perhaps focus on something else to bring you back to neutral. Following a person on social media is truly not the pinnacle of a relationship, so I would be paying absolutely no mind to it at all. In order to bring something to its manifested firm, you really must always assume that what is happening is all part of the quickest, most efficient journey to what you desire. This is where people stumble a lot, by letting small, inconsequential things completely derail their progress. Try not to take the wrong path, carry forward in a positive momentum of trust and faith that everything is going beautifully.
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i love both Cherished's and Colonel Roosevelt's postsย ย i can just add on a personal note, it is totally true that this isn't necessarily a negative thing from her side at all. i've blocked someone on social medias just because i wanted him so much and couldn't handle the emotions after a tricky patch.ย
a lovely friend who is not in LOA once told me, *you never know what other people are really thinking about you*, you *never know what the reality of another person's situation is* - not truly. you can only guess. so why not interpret things positively to yourself?ย
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dynamochick2210 wrote:
i love both Cherished's and Colonel Roosevelt's postsย ย i can just add on a personal note, it is totally true that this isn't necessarily a negative thing from her side at all. i've blocked someone on social medias just because i wanted him so much and couldn't handle the emotions after a tricky patch.ย
a lovely friend who is not in LOA once told me, *you never know what other people are really thinking about you*, you *never know what the reality of another person's situation is* - not truly. you can only guess. so why not interpret things positively to yourself?ย
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I want to throw this into the mix.. There's no need to wonder or worry what they are thinking of you.. Because if you believe in deliberate creation, and you are a student of LOA, then the absolute truth is this.....
ALL that matters is YOUR PERCEPTION of their perception of you..
In my experience, MY perception of their perception of me is always, always a perfect match.
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yes yes, i was in a hurry posting but this is also what i think, she doesn't know loa so what she says is in loa philosophy actually gospel, --- if you interpret positively you create positive reality
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You have you rise above and beyond something as frivolous as an Instagram follow.ย
Whatever happens to you is largely based on your response to a given situation. You can only choose either of the twoย responses available to you: respond with fear or respond with love.
When you respond with fear, that's when you become VERY affected, in low vibes, and worried that you won't hear from that person again.
When you respond with love, you choose to understand the person's need for space and alone time. You understand their need to retreat, re-group, think about their lives, and do some introspection.ย
Remember that everything that happens to you is neutral -- your conscious mind simply labels whatever happens to you as either positive or negative. The label that you choose to attach to situations will be the cause of a specific effect -- and this effect depends whether the cause is positive or negative.ย
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Thanks for the great advice guys! Love the no-nonsense approach on this board. I didn't want to allow myself to be affected by something so trivial so I took some time off thinking about the process and just had fun instead.ย
I am positive that this small matter is all a part of the process, and nothing for me to worry about. I'm also grateful for the opportunity it provided me to build more emotional strength, and gain insight. All of which will help me build the type of long-term relationship I want. No rush!