You have to understand that he is responsible for his own alignment. He is on his own journey, and he will need to come into alignment for himself. In terms of you causing him to harm himself, that is a very unhealthy way for you also to be viewing it. Yes perhaps you were mean. But you need to let that go and forgive yourself. And try to keep it in perspective. There are many people in your life that you could be mean to and that would NEVER cause them to harm themselves. It's always a matter of alignment. The best you can do is forgive yourself and see him as already healthy and happy.

Hello hello it's not your fault! I had EDNOS in my teens and it was all me. I had a boyfriend years later who would tell me to only eat half of this because I needed to lose weight etc etc and tho those words pissed me off and hurt, it didn't cause me to relapse.

Every now and then, I go back to my disordered eating and I think I'll always have a strange relationship with food haha.

Best advice is to just show your boyfriend you love him and his body. Is it beginning to affect his health? I have a friend who was eating 300 cals a day and took a fainting episode at work + being rushed to the ER for him to start eating again. =/