Hello !

You say that you KNOW that he will come back. Well, in my opinion you still have doubts and you have to see it. If you trully knew that you two will be back together, you wouldn't have this fear. Either you KNOW it or not. 

So, my point of view is this: remember your own words. Accept your feelings and thoughts. Always. Accept YOURSELF having these feelings and thoughts. Observe what you are doing/thinking/feeling without judging yourself. Just watch what you're doing. Accept it, it is ok. You have this fear. Give unconditional love to you, even though you have some doubts or be confused. Give unconditional love to you, him and your situation. Accept the current circomstunces and the way you are feeling right now. 

Then, focus on the solution of this problem. Find the feeling of having already found the answer to your problem and keep it. How does it feel to have the answer? How would you feel? Feel it right now, feel the relief and the joy. Focus on the feeling of having the answer. Make peace with everything around you and inside you, good or bad. Stay there....


I am preety sure... something good will happen after that 

 

Last edited by Milk&Honey (2/03/2016 3:31 pm)

Sanshi wrote:

I don't want to think about him anymore all day every day. I don't want to do RS and visualisation in order to get him back - it's not fun, it feels like an obligation after only one week of doing it. I don't want to be his energetic puppy. It's so tiring. It costs so much energy.
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Stop, stop, stop. This should not be a chore. LoA is supposed to be fun. If it's a chore, you're not enjoying it. Do what makes you feel happy and if it doesn't include visualization, DON'T DO IT. Visualization is used as a tool to help raise your vibration. Visualization will not necessarily bring him back if used solely.

Take a break, let him go. Focus on you and you only.

Angellynn wrote:

I completely understand what youre saying and feeling, I honesty feel the same way too i think you might need a break from it all i know i do too! I feel like doing the visualizations and techniques can be a chore at times but that is only cause i do it too much and need a break. I haven't been focused on school as much and feel like i'm falling behind because of me using all my time visualizing and focusing so much on the process. I am doing everything right and recieing good signs but i am not actually really living my life and going with the flow. So i understand what you're going through. I still think doing the visualizations and having the feeling like milk and honey was saying and thinking about how you would feel when you have the answer finally. I reccomend you still visualizing because those are like stepping stones and tools to help with manifestation and it can be fun just  do it when it feels right and maybe once or twice a day then forget about it thats what i am going to start doing becuase i would spend hours and hours in my bed doing techniques and analyzing the process instead of letting go and going with the flow! But I belive you will get your ex back keep pushing through babygirl  

I read your post in an other thread and thought that you are in the exact same place as me.
I don't think that visualisation is that important. I never visualised for any manifestation. Everytime I visualised I did it in ordner to get something out of it and I think that's not the way it works. Bashar often speaks about the power of paradox. If you want something very much and work for it, it doesn't come. If you give up and don't longer care it pops up in your experience. I don't know why, it don't makes any sense for me but in my experience it seems to work that way. And I have the strong urge atm to completely let go of him and if I visualise every day he will never leave my head. I think big_blue is right. If it doesn't feel good don't do it. I wrote this many times to other people, now is the time to apply it on my own.

Thanks for your encouraging post. =)

big_blue wrote:

Take a break, let him go. Focus on you and you only.

Thank you. You are completely right with your whole post and this line is exactly what I wanted to hear. Never thought I would say something like this and mean it. Normally nobody wants to hear this.

Last edited by Sanshi (2/03/2016 4:10 pm)

When you try to make something happen, you admit that it is not happening. And you are staying there by keeping doing the same thing.

So, accept it is not happening right now. Make peace with that and with your feelings about that. Do not try to control or to change the circomstunces. Just let it be (unconditional love, remember?) Then, take your focus off of the thing you don't want and focus on the thing you want. Not to make it happen. Just because it feels good. Something like that.. "wouldn't it be nice if.....? How would I feel if...? What would it feel? How my body would feel if....? How would I see things? How would I behave? What would my thoughts be if....? ".

Last edited by Milk&Honey (2/03/2016 4:36 pm)

Milk&Honey wrote:

You need to remember always this: you don't do the visualisation to make something happen. You do it in order to create the feeling in your body. So, do it if and whenever you want it, because it feels good. Not to make something happen. 

I remember once, I was doing a meditation for connection and transpoting a message. At first, I did it because I had to do it and was trying to force the whole thing. I couldn't make the connection. I decided to stop the meditation, I coulndn't do it. Before I go, I felt I wanted to stay for a while because I had managed to creat an image of him so good and I wanted to look at him, I had missed him. I did it just for fun and for my pleasure. Then, I touched him and then it happened, I felt the connection. It was strong. I passed the message. I was sure he got it. A few days later he did in physical reality what I told him in my meditation to do.

Why am I saying this to you? Because I want you to understand that there is absolutelly no point in doing the visualisation as a routine, because you have to do it, to make it happen. You should do it for your own pleasure and only if and when you want to.

Yes, its what I said in one of my last post. Our did I just want to say it and didn't? Lol...would be the second time today.
I did visualisation just for 6 days. In the beginning I enjoyed it but as soon as I started to feel like I have to do it I dropped it. I won't longer focus on him until he no longer is my dominant thought.

I really like your meditation story.