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I am struggling thinking about my love.
When I first talked to Veronica, I was a mess. I was finally able to calm down and once I did I was able to start manifesting so many things. The only thing I haven't manifested has been my love back. With her help I did end up finally getting different things. Just haven't gotten my love.
I haven't made a vision board because the pictures of our happy times makes me sad and I long for my lover. And recently I got busy with life that I havent RS or done my gratitude journal.
What is really holding me back is that I constantly think about the past and negatives and I get very angry for how cruel he was to me and cold during our break up. A part of me still has a lot of resentment and anger towards him and it's hard to send love. I went through a lot the past few months (thankfully my manifestations have helped) my dad suffered a near fatal hemorrhage (he survived), my mother lost her job during that time with my dad, my love just left and couldn't even tell me to my face that he we were broken up and I made myself look pathetic by begging it was the most hurtful feeling ever especially with how emotional I was with all I was going through. Many times I lose hope with it comes to him. I have had for the past few weeks a massive urge to look at his social media (he blocked me, but it's public) but honestly what would be the point. If I see something I would only be hurting myself. I made my Instagram public now in hopes that he'll snoop (it's sortie a desperate act I know so I just revered it back to private) his cousin messaged me the other day (which I wanted him to and I got my wish as I know he would probably tell him what I've been up to) We've been broken up for 3 months now with only two of those months being no contact. I constantly doubt and feel like it's impossible and my situation is hopeless and he won't come back. Also to give a gist of it we were together a 1 1/2 year then broke up immediately started talking to work things out a month later we talked for four months. Two months were great but the last two were plagued with fights like how we originally broke up and it was due to what I was going through I took a lot out on him. So essentially we broke up twice.
My sister who breaks up around the same time as I do usually broke up with her ex twice and are now currently talking again. I am happy for her and I was told to take that as I sign.
I don't know how to remain positive. I struggle with this immensly.
My other manifestations have kept me happy but it's my lover who I can't manifest back. What do I do guys?
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Re: I am struggling thinking about my love.
Hi CarpeDiem, I think the reason you aren't able to manifest your love is because you are not able to raise your vibration to that of "love" regarding your relationship. In order to have the relationship you want with your guy, you really have to let go of all your negativity and ill feelings about events that occurred between you. You can't be a vibrational match to a wonderful relationship with your guy unless you can truly forgive what has happened and basically erase it - you need to start fresh. That is why lots of people prefer to simply move on and attract a new lover, as there is much less resistance with someone you have yet to meet! If you really want your guy back, you will have to do the work-as in: pay absolutely no more attention to what happened in the past, and focus on getting yourself happy and in vibrational alignment. When you can truly start off with a clean slate, with ZERO bad feelings about the past (and truly, the past is compley irrelevant), then you can work towards attracting an amazing relationship with your guy xx
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Cherished wrote:
Hi CarpeDiem, I think the reason you aren't able to manifest your love is because you are not able to raise your vibration to that of "love" regarding your relationship. In order to have the relationship you want with your guy, you really have to let go of all your negativity and ill feelings about events that occurred between you. You can't be a vibrational match to a wonderful relationship with your guy unless you can truly forgive what has happened and basically erase it - you need to start fresh. That is why lots of people prefer to simply move on and attract a new lover, as there is much less resistance with someone you have yet to meet! If you really want your guy back, you will have to do the work-as in: pay absolutely no more attention to what happened in the past, and focus on getting yourself happy and in vibrational alignment. When you can truly start off with a clean slate, with ZERO bad feelings about the past (and truly, the past is compley irrelevant), then you can work towards attracting an amazing relationship with your guy xx
Cherished, I totally agree with you regarding why people move onto a new person. Before learning about LOA, I used to believe that somethings aren't meant to be. However, Veronica explained that anything can happen and you can get your desire but you really have to believe it.
CarpeDiem, I agree with Cherished. You can totally get your guy and live an amazing life with him.
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Re: I am struggling thinking about my love.
Hi CarpeDiem, I think the reason you aren't able to manifest your love is because you are not able to raise your vibration to that of "love" regarding your relationship. In order to have the relationship you want with your guy, you really have to let go of all your negativity and ill feelings about events that occurred between you. You can't be a vibrational match to a wonderful relationship with your guy unless you can truly forgive what has happened and basically erase it - you need to start fresh. That is why lots of people prefer to simply move on and attract a new lover, as there is much less resistance with someone you have yet to meet! If you really want your guy back, you will have to do the work-as in: pay absolutely no more attention to what happened in the past, and focus on getting yourself happy and in vibrational alignment. When you can truly start off with a clean slate, with ZERO bad feelings about the past (and truly, the past is compley irrelevant), then you can work towards attracting an amazing relationship with your guy xx
do you have any ways to rid of that negative thought? I can truly admit that that is why I can't maniest him.from seeing your posts you seem to be getting to a match with your love. I hope to get to that point eventually. I am having a hard time moving on from what he did and forgiving. But in my heart i do love him and want him.
I have manifested the other things easily because i truly believed and had love in my heart to get it.
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Re: I am struggling thinking about my love.
I know it seems hard, but honestly, as you learn to become more positive in general, LOA brings you even more positivity to work with and you can build from there. What you need to do is make a decision-do you really want to try and get him back? If yes, then you simply MUST stop looking and talking about what was, what is, and what you dislike about it all. It has to go, it's the thing that holds you apart from your guy. And how to do that? It's about catching yourself when you are thinking about the bad stuff, and redirecting. Think the opposite thought! Wonder what the opposite would look like. Have you read "Ask and it is Given" by Abraham Hicks? It gives many fabulous processes for shifting your thoughts and thus your vibration. I use some of the processes daily and I am remaining very focused on the outcome I want. I have come to realise that thinking about old stuff just propels more of it into my now reality, so why would I do that? Have a look at the book and then we can go through some processes together perhaps, on another thread. Xx
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Letting go of the past negativity does set you free. A lot of times we think we have to grip onto this frustration in order to make things better. But, it's not true at all. It needs to be let go in the trust that any pain will eventually be healed. In order to create a new future, we must let all that go. And it works like magic! You will feel so much better! It does take a constant effort to continually stop that chatter voice in your mind that tells you nonsense. But, you must be strong! And you can do it! 
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Letting go of the past negativity does set you free. A lot of times we think we have to grip onto this frustration in order to make things better. But, it's not true at all. It needs to be let go in the trust that any pain will eventually be healed. In order to create a new future, we must let all that go. And it works like magic! You will feel so much better! It does take a constant effort to continually stop that chatter voice in your mind that tells you nonsense. But, you must be strong! And you can do it!
what are some suggestions to rid the negativity? its hard cause when i do visulaize us my mind then thinks of the day we broke up and all the awful things he said the month after i begged and pleaded. I feel better overall but i have my detrimental thougts of him hinder me. I hide it, everyone thinks i seem completely fine and moved on. I have avoided looking at his social media (i have been tempted lately) and I have wanted to reach out but I know it will still be from a desperate state. I struggle because I am not seeing results and i doubt myself.
but I trust you that he will contact me on his own.
as much as i doubt, I don't know why with so much negativity i have this feeling in my heart that he and I are truly not over.
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Re: I am struggling thinking about my love.
Letting go of the past negativity does set you free. A lot of times we think we have to grip onto this frustration in order to make things better. But, it's not true at all. It needs to be let go in the trust that any pain will eventually be healed. In order to create a new future, we must let all that go. And it works like magic! You will feel so much better! It does take a constant effort to continually stop that chatter voice in your mind that tells you nonsense. But, you must be strong! And you can do it!
I let my curiosity get the best of me and i checked his socail media (I am blocked but he is public) i did not find anything that would affect me. But He seems completely fine with life and looks unaffected. I am having such a hard time. I do great and feel good one moment but its only him that hinders me. I want him back.
Also how are you so sure I can get my ex back? How are you so sure he'll reach out. I am not trying to attack or doubt you but I don't know what to do. I feel like **** and I hate when I get to this feeling cause I do great a lot of the time then things like this slip. I have manifested so much but just not him.
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Re: I am struggling thinking about my love.
Letting go of the past negativity does set you free. A lot of times we think we have to grip onto this frustration in order to make things better. But, it's not true at all. It needs to be let go in the trust that any pain will eventually be healed. In order to create a new future, we must let all that go. And it works like magic! You will feel so much better! It does take a constant effort to continually stop that chatter voice in your mind that tells you nonsense. But, you must be strong! And you can do it!
I let my curiosity get the best of me and i checked his socail media (I am blocked but he is public) i did not find anything that would affect me. But He seems completely fine with life and looks unaffected. I am having such a hard time. I do great and feel good one moment but its only him that hinders me. I want him back.
Also how are you so sure I can get my ex back? How are you so sure he'll reach out. I am not trying to attack or doubt you but I don't know what to do. I feel like **** and I hate when I get to this feeling cause I do great a lot of the time then things like this slip. I have manifested so much but just not him.
CarpeDiem, I know it seems hard to believe sometimes but has your same thinking pattern changed your life? I used to do the same thing but then I realized I was stuck in the same situation. I would wonder why isn't he changing, why is he ignoring me, will he ever accept me, when will things change, how will they change etc.
Trust me this drove me crazy and I seriously had a nervous breakdown. Then I decided that I'm going to stop and I refuse to take no as an answer and I'm going to marry him one day. So then I got a hold of Veronica. With her help, I became more positive. And you won't believe that from all the cities in CA, he ended up getting a job in the same city as me. That's definitely not a coincidence. So things are happening but at that right time!
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Re: I am struggling thinking about my love.
Letting go of the past negativity does set you free. A lot of times we think we have to grip onto this frustration in order to make things better. But, it's not true at all. It needs to be let go in the trust that any pain will eventually be healed. In order to create a new future, we must let all that go. And it works like magic! You will feel so much better! It does take a constant effort to continually stop that chatter voice in your mind that tells you nonsense. But, you must be strong! And you can do it!
I let my curiosity get the best of me and i checked his socail media (I am blocked but he is public) i did not find anything that would affect me. But He seems completely fine with life and looks unaffected. I am having such a hard time. I do great and feel good one moment but its only him that hinders me. I want him back.
Also how are you so sure I can get my ex back? How are you so sure he'll reach out. I am not trying to attack or doubt you but I don't know what to do. I feel like **** and I hate when I get to this feeling cause I do great a lot of the time then things like this slip. I have manifested so much but just not him.CarpeDiem, I know it seems hard to believe sometimes but has your same thinking pattern changed your life? I used to do the same thing but then I realized I was stuck in the same situation. I would wonder why isn't he changing, why is he ignoring me, will he ever accept me, when will things change, how will they change etc.
Trust me this drove me crazy and I seriously had a nervous breakdown. Then I decided that I'm going to stop and I refuse to take no as an answer and I'm going to marry him one day. So then I got a hold of Veronica. With her help, I became more positive. And you won't believe that from all the cities in CA, he ended up getting a job in the same city as me. That's definitely not a coincidence. So things are happening but at that right time!
Your right. I let my emotions get to me and I texted him today after being quiet for two months (we broken up for 3 but only two months of it is mc) I know I shouldn't have texted him but who knows he might still respond. I sent him a message that was like asking for photos from a historical site we visited as I needed for a project. So who knows. It's just hard but I know I can change my thoughts as I have for so many things. I have healed other relationships in my life like my mom etc. I don't know why I find this one challenging. I know I messed up texting him but oh well. I have to accept it and try to continue. Thank you for your message.
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