Totally unrelated.  But Veggiepizzaforever finally uploaded an avi and isn't she a doll? Gorgeous! 

I like it when we upload our avi's. .. gives us a glimpse of the already beautiful people we are talking to.

Now carry on as you were..lol

veggiepizzaforever wrote:

Don't let getting back together with her the end goal because that's attachment. I know it's hard, it's something I have to constantly remind myself of too.

In the beginning, I would do all the things because I thought it was a step by step process and that when I do them all, my love and I will magically reunite. That works in the beginning because it inspires you to get stuff going but when you don't see the results you're looking for, you'll end up disappointed and doubting.
Eventually, something will click and you'll realize you have to do these things FOR YOU.

So I still meditate. In the beginning, I would do LoA guided meditations and Wayne Dyer's Ah Meditation with the sole purpose of manifesting my love. Now, I meditate in silence for myself, not because it's a way to bring my love back to me.

I still visualize but only when I feel like it. When my love and I were together, I would visualize our first dance at our wedding and I would get such strong emotions from it. Sometimes, I'll visualize a proposal or us reuniting in front of friends and I would get a lump in my chest from being so happy. But if I force myself to visualize on a daily basis for the sake of it, I don't get that feeling. It ends up feeling like a routine or like work.

Okay so what should I make my end goal ? I want her back madly and I also want all of my close friends back .. I need to not give up because I don't see proof .. How did you stop yourself from seeing evidence of it happening and just forgetting about your love ?

veggiepizzaforever wrote:

I am on a path to be the best version of me. I thought I was when I was with my love but I obviously wasn't because all my negative and harmful thought patterns (which I am only beginning to address now) caused our break-up.

Yes, I still want him back and I know we are going to get back together but only when we are both ready. So my goal/journey is to be the kind of person ready for the love I want. Haha does that make sense?

You'll never forget about your love but also know that you can move on and be happy and still love them. Not a day goes by that I don't think about my love but I try to not focus on the lack. I miss him but I'm filling the space he used to occupy with myself. 

What proof are you looking for exactly? The Universe sends us signs and it's our "job" to recognize these  signs. Nothing is coincidence! There was one time that I was soooo stressed and frustrated because I thought my love was getting friendly with an acquaintance of mine. That same night, I saw news of my fave celebrity couple reuniting! And I thought: if these 2 can take a break for 3 years and the find their way back to each other, well SO CAN MY LOVE AND I!

Wow that is very true !... I have also been estranged with my friends because we are all in the same group and it's akward so I don't hangout with them since the split.. I love what you said about just getting the best version of yourself .. I need to work on just focusing  on me and ignoring everything around me .. I'm trying my hardest to ignore thoughts about my love and my friends

veggiepizzaforever wrote:

Oh, I know what it's like being disconnected from friends but it's me who's pulling away. They were my friends first but he became good friends with them. They don't hang out and I feel like I'm on a different vibration now. I told one of them I was reading up on LoA and she scoffed at me, so **** that lol if your vibe is off, we're off.

The other one told me I might as well just go to church or turn to religion when he found out I was practicing The Magic/28 days of gratitude. I just feel like they don't bring me the kind of joy and connection I need now. I've changed, I'm looking into being more spiritual and my friends aren't the type.

Anyway, you don't have to ignore your love and your friends!!! As long as your thoughts are positive and as long as you're sending them light and love whenever you think of them, that's fine.

Thank it's just so hard because I miss my friends a lot but they always hangout with my love and I remember when we first separated I tried hanging out with my friends but they would talk about my love or call her and I would hear her voice and then after a while I was over it . I wish we didn't have the same group of friends because loa would be easier for me I would have my close friends to distract me and I would be having so much fun with them that I wouldn't think about my love when people talk about going out with their friends and how they have a friends giving or going out with their friends it makes me miss my friends so much I want them to be at my graduation and I want my love to be there my love was my bestfriend for 8 years so it's so hard for me because if I didn't date my bestfriend I wanted be like this  everything would be easier

But roller coasters are fun, right?! 👏🏼😘 Embrace the journey, beautiful xx