So I posted about this in one of Cherished's threads and wanted to elaborate further on it, because it's really helped me and I hope it can help everyone else.

It's this idea of patterns.

So obviously we're all on here because there is someone on here we want to attract back. And it seems we all pushed them away with some kind of thought/ emotion that was negative. I haven't read one story on here where that didn't happen.

For all those people having a hard time fully believing in LOA because of logic (I used to be one of them, and still am in a way), you just have to look at the evidence I just presented.

We ALL have the same pattern that lead us to our current situations.

There is an algorithm that we've repeated again and again. To use a personal example to further illustrate my point, I'll tell you my pattern:

Meet this great guy, he'd be really into me, I'd think it was too good to be true, there'd also be some kind of obstacle (he had a hectic job, he was married, he was getting over a breakup, etc.), I'd try too hard, distance would occur because of said obstacle, I'd freak, I'd try harder, the distance would grow, I'd think they didn't want me, that reality would soon come true, then I'd confront them and they'd finally end things with me in a big old mess.

This happened with the guy I'm currently trying to attract back. And the guy before him. And the girl before him (I'm bi), etc etc etc.

Well I finally started changing my story a couple months ago, altering my assumptions and whatnot. I went to Vegas on a business trip and met the most amazing guy. I didn't freak or worry. He even has a partner (it's an open relationship), but I didn't let that get me down. I just enjoyed the moment and had confidence that he wanted me. We had the most incredible adventures, seriously like something out of a movie. I'd never met somebody so sweet and kind and romantic to me. We hung out every night and by the end of my trip he told me how much he was into me and how much he missed me. He told me on the first night he'd never get intimate/romantic with anyone other than this partner. But there we were, hooking up. He told me how unhappy he was with his partner, and pretty much made it clear he'd rather be with me.

I've now returned home and we text pretty much every day. Sometimes the communication falls off, but I don't freak anymore like I would before, and then it picks back up again (with HIM doing all the initiating).

I was devastated when things ended with my last guy. But just when I cleaned up my beliefs and emotions this new guy came around. It was a direct reflection of my new vibration, and a sign that I'm on the right track to attracting back my other guy/ someone better.

So I just want to go back to that pattern I described before, and apply it to this new guy.

Original algorithm: Amazing guy (him into me + me into him) + some kind of obstacle + worry= think it's too good to be true

Think it's too good to be true + Distance= Try too hard= Further distance= Further anxiety= Think they don't want me= They actually don't want me= BIG OL' MESS

New algorithm: Amazing guy (him into me + me into him) + some kind of obstacle (partner + lives in Las Vegas, I live in Philly)= I don't freak out + I enjoy the moment + I let what happen happen= He gets more and more into me + I get happier and happier= more and more good things happen

LOA can be hard to believe at first. But once you really see it in action, it hits you like a bullet and completely astounds you.

l copied and pasted that mostly from Cherished's post. I want to go on and challenge everyone to really evaluate their own patterns that lead them to "lose" the person they now want back. I think this is crucial before delving into a lot of Veronica's techniques of living "as is".

All those techniques certainly are important, but I think this exercise really helps you get where you want to be.

Think of it like an old Math assignment. Write down a general formula, then plug in specific examples from every time this has happened to you. This is you being "The Student".

Then start looking at the problem like "The Teacher". Realize what's wrong with the "factors" in the algorithm (aka your behavior in your specific situation) and then plug in new factors. Change the pattern.

Then constantly repeat the new pattern to yourself and start living it. Hopefully my example can provide you hope for how changing the algorithm can change your results. 

I'd love to hear everyone else's patterns and how they changed them/are going to change them to get back their guy or gal.