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Absolutely Confused and need help
Hello Everyone,
I am new to the forum, but I have been lingering for a while. I was on my journey to attract back my ex fiancé about a year and a half ago. That's what lead me to LOA. In the process I met someone way better recently and that situation is what I'm confused about. The new guy, is absolutely amazing and everything I could have ever imagined. We met on an online dating site, and clicked instantly. We would talk, video chat all day and he professed that he's falling really hard for me. That all came to an abrupt end a few days ago and I am at a lost. We were at dinner, and then he suddenly got called from work that he had to go in early and had to leave. We hugged and he made me promise that we will do this again tomorrow. I said ok, and have not really heard from him since and have been seeing him active on the online dating site I met him on. The situation almost parallels how things with my fiancé ended. We broke up the day before our wedding. But on that day the last messages I have from him is about how much he loves me, I'm his world, love of his life etc and then broke things off when I got home later that day. I'm wondering if I have some deep rooted beliefs that things are to good to be true because that's the first thing that popped in my head. Also what can I do to break this cycle, because it's getting emotionally exaughsting to have intense relationships abruptly end. I know I have to watch my thoughts and emotions, I'm just curious and hope to get things in perspective.
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Re: Absolutely Confused and need help
Look into EFT techniques. You will find it a huge relief. There might be some subconscious blockages about – as you say – things being too good to be true, or commitment fears, that need addressing. I'm sorry you've had to go through this, but things like this are easily fixable.
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Thank you. I'm looking into EFT now. 
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Re: Absolutely Confused and need help
I can't say I have an answer for you but I used to struggle with almost the same issue. After my horrible marriage ended in 2012, I had two very intense relationships, but both ended abruptly and left me drained. Also many friends tell me "you are the perfect package, beautiful, smart, amazing, I don't get it why you are still single." I'm confused myself. I had a best friend who we would date on and off, I had known him since highschool and we were soo inseparable, until I started dating him and he didn't want to commit. I broke off the dating because I didn't get my way. We are still friends though but not as close. My guy now, he was all over me then all of a sudden. He has backed off. I sense he is afraid of commitment or very guarded, he takes an extremely long time to let people in emotionally.
EFT is great but are there any other ways to get a grasp of what kind of signals am I sending out?
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Re: Absolutely Confused and need help
Ok.. seems like I've come into something and an answer to both our questions. It's weird how I already know about this stuff but the answer just happened to re-reveal itself to me. Neville Goddard (as you know I am a hugeee fan of his) emphasizes that we revise the past. What this means is that we should recall past events, whether it be our day or any event that took place where you were displeased with the outcome, and recreate them (visualize) how you wanted the outcome to be. This will stop future events that you don't desire occuring..
I'm totally trying this more often.. I usually do this with how my day went, but I never dawned on me that I could use this tool for how a date went, or how a past relationship got started/ended.. whatever you like.
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Thank you for the reply. I think I will try that. I'm also curious the vibration that I am putting out. Because for me having someone fall in love is easy, but always ends super abrupt. When you revise your day like Neville suggest you have to do it from an alpha state right? A state akin to sleep?
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Re: Absolutely Confused and need help
Betisse2 wrote:
Thank you for the reply. I think I will try that. I'm also curious the vibration that I am putting out. Because for me having someone fall in love is easy, but always ends super abrupt. When you revise your day like Neville suggest you have to do it from an alpha state right? A state akin to sleep?
Yes, always a state right before sleep. It helps your subconscious mind. He says that meditation and such can seem like a chore and may not be a form of effortless attracting. I like his method, because affirmations and visulizations are great but I can't keep up with them and sometimes I'm not in the mood. But that state akin to sleep, having to imaginatively take myself there seems soo awesome to me. It's like I get to live my dreams. Try it, I look forward to nights because of this.
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