From your message it seems like you're super attached to the outcome, I just read another post from someone who said they accidentally attracted back the 'wrong' ex, one she doesn't even want anymore but who had gone and got married but has come back into her life when she wants someone else. The same thing recently happened to me, someone who I wanted for so long but don't want anymore has come back but I want another one to come back. I feel like you need to start letting go, as in, building up your life to make it a life you enjoy and one worth living and being happy on your own so that you are content enough for her to come back and meet a whole and happy person, not someone who is very low and depressed. Life is long, there is time, but you have a choice right now, to be happy without her or sad without her because the other option right now is not on the table. It can easily be if you choose to be happy though  

Ignore her totally and completely... for now. Work on you and only you. You immediate goal is to be happy right now. If you have to eat chocolates everyday to be happy, do that, although I hope you won't but I guess you get my point.

When you are happier. Start a new thread so you can begin attracting her back. 

Together wrote:

Hello Everyone,

Thank you for the answers. I changed the title of this topic to something more positive.

I completely agree with becoming more happy first. 
I also completely agree life is long. But I feel i'm missing the best years of my life.

I'm mostly dissapointed I guess, because I went to a high vibration, attracted other exes back, and I actually even attracted my lover in my life by accident 2 months ago - and I was feeling pretty confident and happy. But that didn't stop her from finding another lover and ignoring me.

But I agree that it has been a bumpy road, and my vibration is still a roller coaster.
Still feeling so bloody in love. Need to figure out how I can be happy without her...chocolate won't do it :-)

It surely shows I'm to much attached. I plan to move to the other part of the world. it will distract me

Good   you took good advice and pulled yourself up   That is why I read the forums  even the older posts a lot   when I start to feel  hopeless  or some other negative emotion        That to me is the hardest  to be happy without     where are you planning to move ? From where? 

I know, it can be really frustrating, I actually attracted back the person I want for a whole 5 months in 2015 but then he suddenly vibrated away to someone else who I know is completely wrong for him and my suspicion is, I wasn't fully secure with our relationship and he wasn't fully secure with himself and the vibrations just didn't seem to match up completely because we were both insecure. We definitely belong together, most of the time our vibrations are perfectly in sync, but I guess the last year they weren't and there was no point having a relationship when you're not fully in the vortex i.e you're insecure or fearful and it wasn't just me, the both of us were. I think it's all about just being steady, self confident, grateful for all you have, enjoying the moment....be the person you want to be with as they say! 

pectinase wrote:

Remember, the universe is a reflection of the vibration you're putting out. If you're putting out the vibration of 'lack', or 'want', or 'need' around a certain situation, that is all you'll get back to you. It's brutal, but it's true.

This is why "letting go" – or more specifically, being confident in the fact it's coming to you and not worrying or fretting or even thinking about it that much, aside from great thoughts and excitement – is key. Work on yourself, be happy, keep yourself busy, and know that it'll happen if you absolutely believe it will.

I was actually on a rather positive bright way, seeing the videos of Veronica everyday.. and I was seeing a lot of other girls. I was on my 25 days.

So what you are saying here basically, is that if you imagine you can walk on the moon and visualize that, you will walk on the moon, regardless that you are not an astronaut and the last mission to the moon just left with another astronaut ?

With that knowledge, are you saying you will be able to believe you can walk on the moon if you decide to ? 
Because for some people, it is very hard to believe because their lover just left with that astronaut and they are not.

I can easily imagine to walk on the moon every day, but that doesn't mean it will happen, because I have a problem to believe that.  It would be a different story I think if you would be an astronaut and there is a flight planned and you have a contact with the captain of that mission.