nsquared wrote:

happygirl wrote:

I dont know if its the negativity which has been around today on this forum or if its the book Its done I am reading now.
But I have decided I dont want to continue with the visualizations even the little ones I kept doing and that its the time to let him go.
I realized that by doing those visualizations and affirmations or whatever I was doing, I was hiding a fear.
Today while reading the book etc. I asked myself seriously why are you scared? what is the fear of letting him go now, stop doing the processes?

and I heard, felt the answer - I dont want to lose the control in other words I dont trust the Universe enough and I am scared that if I stop doing that, he will never come back to me.

So I decided to do one last feeling session and being with him in my visualization, seeing and feeling the end result and now I am ready to let it all go and let him go. Just stop thinking about him, us, future and focus on other areas of my life fully.
Dont know what will happen and mainly how easy or hard that will be but I think it is the best I can do. Two years is a long time and I feel its time to show the Universe where I got to and show my proper inner strength.

I wish you all happiness and all your wish fulfilled.
I will let you know my progress in letting go when there is some and if there is struggle I will do some techniques to just stay focused on my work and so on.

" I dont want to lose the control in other words I dont trust the Universe enough and I am scared that if I stop doing that, he will never come back to me."

^^ I can relate to this part especially, happygirl! You keep doing the techniques and such because you're scared to let go - you feel if you don't do 'the work' you won't get what you want. I think that's just conditioning from society that tells us we have to work to get what we want. And so when we don't do the work, we feel like we're lazy and aren't going to get our manifestations and then we're stressed because we haven't done the work yet and then we're like 'Okay, when I get home I'm going to do RS, then maybe some journaling, etc. etc' and then you're just a big ball of stress. We do the work because we don't trust the Universe to have our back. We don't expect good things to happen this easily and instead believe hard work and persistence is what we have to keep doing to get our desires.

But, it's not that hard and it's definitely not the case. Relaxing and knowing it's yours is the right track to be on. You've done the work, now just sit back, relax, expect and be in the knowing of your desires! Making the switch is such a good step, and you are doing so well. I liked that book and agree it's very beneficial in helping you trust the Universe more and yourself. You got this! You are doing so well

Thank you for putting it into such perspective. We worry far to much about the work. When doing the work is to only get you in the feeling of already having it, once the work is done or you can feel without a doubt it is yours, let it go.