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I can logically think of things it's just when something goes wrong I panic or if i don't see it I panic. Right now my best bet is to do nothing say nothing. Right now while I know that is my best option, my mind runs and thinks well will me saying nothing push every step foward we made this month back? Will me not saying anything mean we will just fade into each other's backrounds? Will he not come by again or will we not gr closer? So I know that is where my mind goes and I know I shouldn't but I just cannot turn it off and put myself into a mind set of he will contact me he will come to me etc. It's like I cannot jump into that mindset unless I have proof without a doubt that we will get closer and progress to our relationship
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Or like now when he is online on Facebook but I haven't gotten a text I immediately get this negative scared feeling. I'm not sure how to change that
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I keep replaying the good things like on Tuesday he said I was so easy to love. He was saying how beautiful I am all that. He was very sweet ...he has been for a few weeks and in early dec he wasn't like that at all it was like a switch. Right now I want him to text me or come by....I want him to initiate this because I feel like after my freak out me contacting him now would just make it worse wouldn't it? Any ideas on what I should do now?or is staying quiet the best option I have
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I was really wanting him to message me to see if I was ok today. He seemed concerned while I was leaving yesterday
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So if I focus on the good I will get more of the good aspects? Let me ask ya ll this...sometimes I wonder when I do stuff like that if I'm a crazy person and just in denial. How do you know your not just in denial about the situation?
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I keep focusing on the loving feelig. I really want to hug him kiss him. When he was here Tuesday he was so affectionate...I wished I enjoyed that longer. Yesterday before my complete freak out I asked if he would come by after work he said maybe. I'm really wanting a text to manifest saying he will
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I remember him saying in Tuesday how much better I am and the progress I made over the last couple of months. He said I am easy to love. He's told me he loves me multiple times this past month.
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It does and it doesn't. I say it doesn't because then the fear is in there saying what if I don't ever hear from him again? Or what if he just backs off and just doesn't come back? What If I never see him be romantic again? How do I stop that? Will me talking about thanks manifest negativity?
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I really want him to come over I'm gonna try and visualize and feel him being around me like his hugs and stuff.i really want him to come over though
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confused1077 wrote:
It does and it doesn't. I say it doesn't because then the fear is in there saying what if I don't ever hear from him again? Or what if he just backs off and just doesn't come back? What If I never see him be romantic again? How do I stop that? Will me talking about thanks manifest negativity?
A lovely retired supreme court judge once said to me " He will be back they always come back sometimes it just takes longer" the longer is our resistance He will call you! and you must be ready to be positive and happy when he does remember for him to love you you need to love you
You NEED to get yourself in a better place perhaps listen to Veronica's how to zap negativity dont be upset it is happening as soon as you let it