ForgetYourEvil you nailed it: you are not waiting for her to text you

that is it, once we stop waiting them to do something, be someone then we are at ease and they feel that ease and start to come back

happygirl wrote:

listen to ForgetYourEvil!!!
Its so true
and if its gonna help you, its been more than two years for me too, not everyone is so successful
we are on individual journeys, we all are trying our best to feel good
its not easier or harder for none of us, its how we make it, how much we are used to worry and stress, and so on

take it like to get him back is just the cherry on the top of the cake but the whole cake is the journey of selfdevelopment, learning to be happy by yourself, enjoying your life now no matter what
and when you do that, you will get the cake, the most beautiful cake - happy life and him returning to you will be the additional cherry on the top of the cake

Without Veronica's coaching, I would be desperately texting/chasing my ex. But, there's no need to do that. All it does is drive your ex away. You need your ex to come to you. You need him/her to chase you. Otherwise, you will never have the perfect relationship you desire.

Would you want to be in a relationship with you right now? Probably not. You sound like you're an emotional wreck at the moment and all of your happiness is dependent on someone or something else. Is that fair to your ex? Will that attract him back? NO WAY. Get your own life in order, get your emotions in check, and then, trust me, great things will happen!

Exactly, I couldnt agree more. You know you have it, its done deal, there is no reason to worry any more, just to enjoy your life and focus on yourself and your happiness

I have to say that even though my guy and me havent been together for so long, I dont regret the break up at all. As it made me who I am now, thanks to that I have achieved so much that it would never happen if we stayed together back at that time.

And if someone told me know that I can chose either to go back to who I was and be with him or to never have him back but be the person I have become along the way. I would chose the second option as I love who I am now :-)

and I think that is the gift we were given to become better people and they will return when the time is right and if they dont then someone much better notice our beautiful energy and it will be better relationship than we could have ever imagined :-)

Thats great :-) I love your spirit!

and I really like what you said: "Contacting them just strokes their ego and lets them know they have control over you. F that."

this is so so true.

Life is amazing actually, when we go with the flow, things are so easy and fly to us like out of nowhere.

When we push, it all stops and the struggle starts to kick in and we feel like we have to work hard and do things. while all we need to do is trust, relax and enjoy our life again

Confused, I totally know what you are going through. It's like a mixed anxious, frustrated and eager feeling all at once. When you have been waiting all along for that moment for it to go right, then it just doesn't. . Like do you really have to go through this process all over again. Well I am here to tell you, the good thing about it is that you don't have to worry, you are on the leading edge and closer than you have ever been. Do what you want now, cry, sob and pout if you want to, just know you let it out, let out the anger the frustration and pick yourself right back up and keep moving forward.
Don't be afraid of your feelings, your feelings are your best friend and helps us navigate through life to get where we want. Many of us deny our negative feelings and try everything possible to suppress them, and we are humans, sometimes we can't. Negative feelings serve much of a purpose as positive ones. Without rain we would never appreciate sunshine, without darkness we would never be grateful for light.
We are here for you, that's the good thing about this forum, and we will post till our fingers bleed just in order to encourage each other.

Sometimes, just sometimes the worse thing people can do when you are feeling despair is telling you everything will be fine. Even though this is the truth, but in our minds we feel so far from it. Breathe, relax, watch a funny movie and take your mind off it.

Much love...