I absolutely understand you... In my situation he is in a long lasting serious relationship. I would suggest to accept your feelings first and be strong. I personally use focus wheels, they help me a lot. It is always a matter of focus. And see things differenlty. Find a thought, a way to see it in another way, be strong. 

You have to see everything from a different point of view. You need to understand that all we have is HERE and NOW. Accept the situation and yourself under any circomstunces, because it won't be forever. Accept it, for now. Everytime I did this, I always had a manifestation. 

Then, you need to change your focus. Focus wheels are preety useful. Watch this :
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7B_UBW2MwAg


 

Hi hisoneandonly!

I think imaging him showing up to your house and saying he loves you, at this point in time, might create some resistance within you because you're noticing he has a girlfriend often and then imagine that he's at your front door, and so in your rational head, you might be thinking "this isn't true" and so you feel worse.

be gentle on yourself and your thoughts. accept your pain, even though it sucks (a lot), it'll help the transition feel easier. just because he is dating her, doesn't mean he is going to be with her forever. relationships are always forming and breaking so just as he can breakup with her, he can get with you. current reality is merely a result from your past thoughts so as you begin to create new thoughts, youre changing the reality and it will come to mold into what you want. even if he's dating her, it doesn't mean he won't ever be with you. there have been several mentions of how some forum members chose to ignore their reality and the girlfriend in question or possible love interest disappeared and wasn't a concern anymore. it might be hard for you to ignore her at this time, but perhaps reminding yourself that she doesn't really matter in the grand scheme of things, she's more of a stepping stone for you and your person to get together, might help make you feel better. this example is coming to my head right now so i want to mention it, think of the three actors: jennifer aniston, angelina jolie and brad pitt - jenn and brad were together, but then angelina and brad were together - so while it may seem they're 'in love' or together, that doesn't mean he won't be with you soon or he'll never be with you soon. if you take this one step at a time and focus on your feelings and trying to rewrite the story into what you want it to be, then it will come to be how you want it to be. 

know this pain is temporary and that it's merely a result of your thoughts. your thinking thoughts and feeling feelings that cause you this pain so accept that this is where you are now and know that there is nowhere to go but up which is good! that means from this point on, you're getting happier and closer to what you want! 

Yes nsquared Thank you for such a wise advice! You're one of the best ♡

nsquared wrote:

Hisoneandonly wrote:

Yes nsquared Thank you for such a wise advice! You're one of the best ♡

 
Aw :')

You're so sweet! I'm so happy I could help! Hope you're feeling better 💖

 
Obviously I felt better and it's because of you, I'm so happy to have you here 

Just that I've always wanted to spend my Christmas night with him, well he's back to our country and I felt a lil sad that he didn't initiate contact to find me and I got anxiety attack last night while I was thinking that he's not spending his Christmas with me. I'm trying to change my belief and get myself stronger.

And nsquared, you're so right with this:
"know this pain is temporary and that it's merely a result of your thoughts. your thinking thoughts and feeling feelings that cause you this pain so accept that this is where you are now and know that there is nowhere to go but up which is good! that means from this point on, you're getting happier and closer to what you want"

Lastly, I've decided to try on detaching from him and not think of him on Christmas and spend my Christmas eve with my girlfriends. I think this is what we called as "let go" right?