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Ayutsu · 12/19/2015 9:30 pm

My ex. So we are apart due to an odd reason which I'll vaguely put as fear of intimacy. Anyway, I promised I'd stop pursuing it and I let him go. No contact. I have been doing rs. Mainly the lanie method but occasionally the Wendi mp3. Today I noticed he's blocked my personal account on various social media accounts. Now, He knows I can still see his stuff from my biz accounts and I could contact him if I wanted. So why block me? The only reason I would block someone who wasn't contacting me would be to prevent myself from stalking their accounts, which I've done before when I had trouble getting over someone. Thoughts?

MorganRose · 12/19/2015 9:38 pm

First, don't call him your ex if you want him back. He's already yours!
He's probably just resisting your RS. That's a pretty common thing I've noticed from everyone's experience with it. It's a sign that it's working. Keep going. You'll get past the resistance soon.

Ayutsu · 12/19/2015 9:43 pm

Thanks. Normally the blocking would have me really upset but I'm weirdly pleased.

Salome · 12/20/2015 6:21 am

Think about it: if you're not harassing him or openly bothering him yourself, then why would he bother to block you in the first place? What would be the point? I think that blocking can be because:
1 - He's fighting his own strong feelings
2 - he wants to punish you and make you feel the pain he is going through
3 - he wants to get a reaction from you
Probably it is for one or all of the above reasons (or for other reasons I haven't thought of). In my own experience it has definitely been because of these.

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Ayutsu · 12/20/2015 4:01 pm

A couple of weeks ago we had been in no contact for awhile and he messaged me one of those "i'm asking a question I know the answer to as an excuse" messages. We chatted and everything was pleasant and the next day he had blocked me. Last week we had a blowup over the phone in which he confessed the real reason for our issues and refused to deal with it due to embarassment. He told me to walk away and then refused to talk. I said I would never contact him again if that's what he wanted. No response. That was it. He knows I'm gutted and he has given no obvious emotional response back. Yesterday he blocked my instagram which makes no sense. He doesnt post there himself, I can still see his stuff from my biz account and he can still see me. Plus he's still liking my personal stuff on Ig from his biz account.

I just woke up from a nap. I was dreaming that I checked my fb and there was a notification to approve a message from him. It was an apology and a wish to reconcile.

Salome · 12/20/2015 6:43 pm

I think he is trying to get a big reaction out of you. He wants you to demonstrate how much you love and need him by begging and pleading, etc, because his own feelings for you are so strong. He wants confirmation of your feelings towards him and is acting up.
I would remain in no contact for a while, just as you have been doing. Meanwhile work faithfully and regularly on your loa/RS plan. Actually, you are really doing great with what you have done so far so just keep on with that. It's absolutely true about RS creating strong feelings in the person that they at first find very hard to handle and react badly to. Don't worry about that at all. That it is even proof that this is working. Keep going with it patiently and wait for him to come to you. He almost certainly will in time and of his own accord, because from where I am viewing this, he is crazy about you no matter what he is saying or doing right now.

The dream you had during your nap was really great. Why not incorporate that into your visualization so that in time it really happens? :-)

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rosetinted · 12/21/2015 5:38 am

Jupitaria wrote:
Something similar happened to me last week with my guy...I posted a thread about it. I was really down and devastated, but people on here really helped cheering me up. Now, a week later, I found a way to put things into perspective.

When you look at it rationally, blocking someone is a pretty strong reaction. Would you block someone you're completely indifferent to? Probably not. The way I see it, only strong feelings towards someone can provoke such a strong reaction. So, what it really comes down to is this: even though blocking someone seems like a very negative thing that's pretty much the opposite of what you'd like to see happen, when someone reacts to you that strongly, they are probably just scared of their feelings for you, which actually is a good thing. And we all know that love can be scary and some people might react to it with fear, trying to run away from it. But nobody can run from their feelings forever, they are gonna catch up with them sooner or later.

So keep doing what you were doing and keep believing! He'll come around sooner or later...

EXACTLY my situation and exactly what I've been realising lately! ❤️ Strong feelings can be scary for some.

Ayutsu · 12/21/2015 10:36 am

Ugh. I was feeling so good and then I went and looked up his fb from another account. He's locked it right down, all his public wall posts are gone and photos are private.

After we broke up in Sept, a girl started calling him her bf. They last saw each a year ago. She lives in another country. When I asked him about it last week, he claimed it was meaningless. Now I'm worried. There's a lot of stuff on her wall between them and although he'd only see her once a year, there is the possibility of arranged marriage.

Also, I'm worried that he sees me as a stalker? I maybe check his profile once a week, if that. Is he scared of me? That really hurts. I'm not crazy. All I've done was try to get him to communicate with me instead of lying about his hot/cold behaviour. I've never asked anything huge from him. I can't believe he's locking me out, when I did what he asked (walked away, no contact).

Hopeful one · 12/21/2015 9:56 pm

Jupitaria wrote:
Something similar happened to me last week with my guy...I posted a thread about it. I was really down and devastated, but people on here really helped cheering me up. Now, a week later, I found a way to put things into perspective.

When you look at it rationally, blocking someone is a pretty strong reaction. Would you block someone you're completely indifferent to? Probably not. The way I see it, only strong feelings towards someone can provoke such a strong reaction. So, what it really comes down to is this: even though blocking someone seems like a very negative thing that's pretty much the opposite of what you'd like to see happen, when someone reacts to you that strongly, they are probably just scared of their feelings for you, which actually is a good thing. And we all know that love can be scary and some people might react to it with fear, trying to run away from it. But nobody can run from their feelings forever, they are gonna catch up with them sooner or later.

So keep doing what you were doing and keep believing! He'll come around sooner or later...

I wanted to thank you for this post! I have been blocked on just about everything. I took it as a negative thing, but after reading this, you gave me hope. I really needed this. I am new to LOA attraction. I know in my heart that I will have the relationship with the man of my dreams again. This has gave me more hope than you can even imagine. Thank you so much!!!

Hopeful one · 12/21/2015 10:00 pm

Ayutsu wrote:
Ugh. I was feeling so good and then I went and looked up his fb from another account. He's locked it right down, all his public wall posts are gone and photos are private.

After we broke up in Sept, a girl started calling him her bf. They last saw each a year ago. She lives in another country. When I asked him about it last week, he claimed it was meaningless. Now I'm worried. There's a lot of stuff on her wall between them and although he'd only see her once a year, there is the possibility of arranged marriage.

Also, I'm worried that he sees me as a stalker? I maybe check his profile once a week, if that. Is he scared of me? That really hurts. I'm not crazy. All I've done was try to get him to communicate with me instead of lying about his hot/cold behaviour. I've never asked anything huge from him. I can't believe he's locking me out, when I did what he asked (walked away, no contact).

Now, this is my opinion, and as I hate to say, I am speaking from experience. I constantly worried that my man would leave me and find someone new, and he did. To me that is LOA working in a way that you definitely do not to work. I did the same thing, stalking from another FB account. My advice deactivate FB for a while. It can be your worst enemy. It made me become crazy from worrying all the time. I can definitely say that was the best thing I have ever did. I have a better quality of life now so to speak. You cannot worry about something that you cannot see!

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